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So it’s my last year of college and my gf and I moved in together. It’s a pretty small one bedroom and when we first moved in I got a little discouraged because it was small and she’s a girl so she had alot of shit, so when it came time to unpack my stuff we were already pretty cramped.

Fast forward a couple of weeks and I just arrived in Tennessee for a 10-week internship. The opportunity is great and I’m sure I’ll learn alot, but I’m 8 hours from my girlfriend and it’s my first night and I already hate it. The apartment is huge and as soon as I unpacked my stuff I felt such a deep regret. I mean its one fucking day and I already miss her to death, and our tiny place. This feels so empty, I’m alone in a small town with nothing to do and nobody I really know.
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When I’m in class, I talk to my classmates about school and whatever it is we’re studying. When I’m at work, I shoot the shit all day with my coworkers. With family, I can talk politics or pop culture or whatever.

The problem is, when I hang out with friends I never have anything to say. There’s a couple people who I can hold a conversation with for more than a few minutes because we share the same sense of humor and interests, but for the most part I find myself creating "awkward silences" when going out with girls or even hanging out with old friends. I just have nothing to say to them most of the time and if start asking questions to begin a conversation, I feel like it’s fake and I don’t enjoy it. I’ve met several girls and stuff at parties where I did the fake convo and people are receptive to it, but then when I hang out with them outside of our first meeting I just have blank feelings toward them.
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im a 24 year old college student that just came back to school after dropping out two years ago. i know absolutely no one in school anymore because all my friends have graduated. has anyone been in this position before??? How did you meet people?? thanks.
Talk to the people in your classes, especially the smaller classes. You guys have something in common(being in the same class), so that could be an easy conversation starter.

Study groups are always good. I assume you’re not in dorms as you are 24…but if you are, leave your door open and say hi at least to people on your wing/floor. Then maybe strike up a conversation and see what they’re into.
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A: i am a seeker of the Eckhart tolle / buddhist way towards enlightenment. i know after this post i shall be able to center myself.

B: i feel like my friends dont give a shit about me. I feel left out of alot of things regarding my life situations.

C: I just got out of an unhealthy relationship with an acoholic/pothead. Its not too bad, yet getting out of this identification with her is a struggle.

I guess my question is THAT i try to be social with friends and others. I try to make that reach for a relationship with friends. Yet, i dont feel that same reach back.
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I met this girl a couple years ago. She’s extremely intelligent, the funniest girl I’ve ever met, and a really talented and passionate person. We became friends almost the second we met each other and quickly became really good friends (she is one of my girfriend’s best friends and is sorta like a younger sibling or a daughter to us). The problem is that, when we became such good friends so fast, she almost immediately began using us to combat her depression.

Both my gf and I are really passionate people and we give whatever we have to the things that matter to us. She would have awful, horrible panic attacks. She would cry and roll up in a ball and convulse and scream. On several occasions my girl friend took her to the hospital for emergency care. My girlfriend would go to therapy sessions with her and her family. Both gf and I would stay up late talking to her and trying to calm her down and give her advice.
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I have two friends who are dating and are compulsive liars. The shit that comes out of their mouth is really retarded. Hell we even catch both of them in lies, but no one has the heart to confront them.

Help?
With friends like that who needs enemies. Seriously these people are most likely self centered, and you only accompany them in an attempt not to be alone. And you two are weak for not having the strenght to tell them, however..

You know.. You shouldn’t take those two people seriously, just take them for company sakes and don’t listen to a word or keep for true anything that they say’, don’t count on them either. And when possible you should replace them and get some real friends.
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I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years, and we’ve lived together for 1 1/2 years. I’m currently unsatisfied with the way the relationship is heading. I don’t feel as though we communicate as well as we should. We don’t seem to be able to share the household chores enough to make me feel like I’m NOT doing everything (I feel like I do just about everything.) He can go from fine to frustrated in 4 seconds flat over the most insignificant things, whether it’s with me, his parents, his friends, and I can’t STAND it. Our financial decisions always seem to clash – he spends on big things a little more freely than I do, and while we’re just dating, and I don’t expect him to check all his purchases with him, we DO live together, and I have helped him pay off bills before so to me it’s a slap in the face when he splurges without talking to me. I could have put that money elsewhere..
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Like it says, my ex wife is getting married in a couple of weeks out in vegas. When she gets back they’re throwing a party at their house. Well I was invited to the party. Any advice on if I should go or not? The only reason I would go, would just to spend more time with my son, on the other hand I just think it would be really weird. Also, my mom was invited and is going to the party, am I the only one that finds that kinda fucked up?

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Damn, I never thought I would post something here, but I’m pretty much tired and in a funk and I need to unload this 50lb sack of shit off of my chest, so here goes.

I just can’t spontaneously interact with people.

Sometimes I feel like there’s a wall between me and pretty much everyone else. And when I do manage to try to talk to someone, I always feel like I’m the weird guy in the situation. Sometimes I won’t even approach a person to say "Hi, how ya doing" because either I’m afraid they might bite my head off or because the conversation will end right afterwards because I can’t think of how to keep it going.
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This is going to be a pretty long post so be warned.

It is another Friday and I haad just got off work around 4, I must mention that I get up at 5am for my job, where I then head over to one of m coworkers place. We start drinking early by chugging a bottle of wine, lol first one for me spent a whole 4 bucks too. I go home when my friend said he was going to pass out, peace out. As I was driving home I get a call from one of my friends asking why I am doing where I tell him that I am going to a party later on that I was invited to by one of my co-workers(this plays a part later on) I get home about 8pm and head up stairs to take a nap before the party. About twenty mintues later I get a call from my roommate to let some of his friends who had been knocking. He is confused as why I am alseep and I tell him I am really tired as I have been up since 5am + 10 hours shift + bottle of wine. Anyways, I let his friend in then just go back up stairs to sleep which gets a wtf reaction once again. That I am being rude for going to sleep…
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