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I recently broke up with my fiancee, being in the relationship for about four years. However, the last five to six months were essentially playing the part, the last couple of months literally forcing myself to spend time with her, sleep with her, etc. Finally, when we got into a big argument, I ended it because I was in fact miserable in the relationship.

A couple of weeks later, I met someone and we’ve been hanging out, nothing really serious but there is a lot of potential for something to happen. I don’t think there is anything wrong in pursuing it because of how I had distanced myself from my ex the last several months. People who don’t know of the situation give me funny looks like "wow, you’re quick to move on" when in fact, I think I had moved on long before we broke up. Thoughts?
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Not just any job. I mean a proper engineering job.

I got back from a round-the-world backpacking trip about 5-6 weeks ago and have been looking here and there at a few positions that interest me. My parents feel I should be applying at many jobs and taking whatever comes my way when I feel it’s better for me to pick a job I’m interested in so I will stay long-term. They are pressuring me big time (I live at home currently so pressure’s always on, they’ll bring the issue up now and then). I just feel that it’s unfair to seek employment with a company I know I’ll leave the moment something better comes along.
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Do any of you have problems with being too judgmental of your friends? I feel I get mad over my friends’ personality flaws. I’m 26, so I am starting to get older and going out less. My friends are in a different mindset, so when they go out they tend to get really really out of control. Last night I practically had to babysit 3 of my friends who don’t handle their alcohol well. It happens quite often, so I am not sure if this is a situation where I need to distance myself from these people or break off the friendship altogether. Can you really evaluate friendships based on whether they add value to your life and make you a better person? In this case they bring me down. It seems too drastic to just cut off a relationship that you invested a lot of time in. I’m not very great at maintaining relationships to begin with. I want more out of a friendship than going out and getting drunk.
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I’m not sure if this is the right place to put this. Basically, nothing in the world excites me anymore. I’ve gone on several dates with women, they all bore me. I found my dream job at a dream company with a very high likelihood that it will make me rich, and I’m not excited. I’m not really looking forward to anything.

Does anyone else feel this way? I’m not depressed or suicidal or anything, I’m just bored. 27 years old, don’t drink, don’t smoke, never did drugs. Pretty straight-edge. I have a lot of hobbies, but nothing too serious. Again, nothing really excites me.
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but it always comes back to anxiety and depression in the end
subtle brag thread, but in actuality money doesn’t buy happiness. But I wouldn’t mind crying in your car
what do you think about when it comes to you feeling that way?

god damn it don’t make me laugh
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Have heard a viewpoint that modern medicine is making the human race weaker because people that would have died of illness in the old days would have less chance of reproducing and replicating their ‘flawed’ DNA.
You won’t find much severely handicapped creatures in nature that are still alive or will live for a long time, and from our viewpoint its ‘cruel’ how they get killed and eaten. We with our ‘humanity’ think we are doing a good thing by keeping our handicapped and elderly people alive for as long as possible.
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So I’ve been friends with this girl for over two years. In the past we had a thing going on (made-out etc) and were about to officially date but I went to college without a car and would barely see her. We’ve reconnected and she even just asked me to go to her senior prom with her. We now are able to see each other a lot easier when we’re in college. She’s really friendly and most of her friends are guys.

The thing is I started to like her really bad a few months ago but got really really jealous when she was hanging out with one of my friends. So for the safety of not becoming an idiot and hurting her feelings again by being jealous, I decided (stupidly) not to be her friend telling her that I was afraid liking her again thinking that she didn’t. She told me she didn’t want to go out with me then because she still liked her ex-boyfriend and said she wouldn’t want to screw me over to make herself feel better. But she kept trying to be my friend even though i kept thinking it was a bad idea for me.
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I’m on vacation visiting some family, and I’ve spent a little time with one of my young cousins, and after 1 day I am fairly convinced he has some type of developmental problem that his parents and everyone are ignoring.

This child is a 7 year old only child. He seems to need to be involved in EVERY conversation. He yells and interrupts adults and seems to be seeking attention. But he gets a lot of attention from his parents, some bad, some good. He is very contradictory. When his aunt asks him to do something, he always says no. When she asks him to do something fun, like go to a movie he wants to see, he just says, "no".
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Recently I haven’t been able to connect with people or have felt that "feeling" when you meet someone and you know you could start a relationship with that person. I’m not talking about friendship, I’m talking about more. I haven’t felt chemistry is SO long and I don’t know if its because I’ve been hurt or because I haven’t met anyone worthwhile. I also tend to cut myself off and distance myself from people who have an interest (sexually/relationship) in me. I will do things to piss them off on purpose so they back off, or just stop responding to them. I don’t know why I’m this way but I really want to connect with someone on another level and it just hasn’t happened at all in the last 2-3 years. I’ve had a few meaningless relationships. My most recent one was 6 months and I never once had REAL feelings for him. I liked him, we got along, he was cute….but I couldn’t feel anything
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OT has helped me with these issues many times in the past but it never fails to surprise me with how bad it hurts.

I’m 23 and have been with my 20-year old girlfriend now for 2.5 years (next weekend); and only now do I realize that its slipping away and there’s nothing that I can do to save it. We’ve traveled extensively, spent damn near every single day together, and otherwise shared more or ourselves with one another than I could ever expect to share with another human being. For most people, our relationship is quick to brush off as "kid love" due to our ages, but what’s so incredibly hard to explain in writing is how we are both so mature; and how those people are so very, very wrong–this is a real relationship.
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