ok, im going to try to keep this as short as i can. I have had my girlfriend for 6 months. Together we are extremely happy, never fight or anything. For the first time ever, i can completely let myself go around her and she can do the same around me. We have an extremely open relationship and tell each other everything, both of us are very honest with each other. We are both very much in love with each other. enough of the sappy bs. here is my situation.
before we met, all she ever hung out with were guys. She has a certain group of guy friends that were a large part of her life. She swears that she has never once hooked up with any of them but one guy she did have a thing for at one point. They have never really been an issue because when we first started getting real serious, i told her that i cant be in a relationship where she goes out with only guys all the time, especially since all the guys really liek her (more than just friends). She always said that she hates other girls and never gets along with them, thats why she only hangs out with these guys. We are pretty much together 5-6 times a week, every week, since the beggining. Recently she started talking about them again and how she misses her friends, but then takes it back right away and says that she is fine with out them and as long as she has me she is fine. Last week, she went to the beach and ran in to them there and hung out with them pretty much alllll day, then the next night she told me she was going to go over there house to hang for a bit after work. We got into a big fight and i was very clear that i hate when she hangs out with this or any group of guys. Mind you, at this point, i have NEVER met any of them. She never went to the guys house that night, but less than a week later, she tells me she is going to this guys house to go in the spa with all them and a few of their GF’s (again, im not invited, still never met)…i yell at her over this and she doesnt go again. Finally last weekend, they invited her to a club and she asked to go, but she wanted me to come this time to meet them, i agreee, we go, i met them, they are what ever, end of story. So today, i get a text saying she is going out tonight after work, i asked where, and she responded, "to a club with the guys", again, i told her that is very disrespectful that she even wants to go to a club with a group of guys, im not invited, just her and them. I dont see her ever stopping this, even though she promised they would not be an issue. Am i over looking the whole situation and should i not worry and just let her go be with this group of guys i have met with once? Or am i in the right and that is BS that she wants to hang out with only guys, go to their house, clubs, etc? she tries to make me feel bad and say that i dont want her to have friends, which is bs, i just dont want her to have guy friend, because we all know that somebody will always want the other. please help me before i go insane
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