Just got worse…for those who don’t know I’m bipiolar- ultraradian/mixed manic/flashbacks/psychotic.

Was I wrong following him outside shouting him down? It felt right but fuck him, I felt like grabbing a knife cutting him up then doing myself.

I se my shrink on Monday and he;s coming with me. I’ll give him that, at least he wants to try to understand me.

wow those are pretty intense feelings just for your father being rude to you…. i would say yes you were wrong. you over reacted probably due to lack of sleep clouding your judgement. i would apologize to him especially since he seems to be involved in your life enough to go to the therapist with you. you should feel blessed to have such a dad.

An alchoholic abusive father who takes every turn tio turn your people against you?

32 years of abuse and any one here would stand for it? Ity wasn’t the odd spanking it was take my drunken bad days work out on you till you are black and blue.

There is so much more, the usual is a lot milder, abusive language etc and pushing about.

He is no loss to the world and has shown me today that even though he may go to the shrink with me he has already made his mind up.

He drinks every day to the pint of passing out, belittles my mother, would have attacked her if not for me and my brother being there.

A drunk abusive parent?

The right to have a child may in some ways be seen as god given but the right of that child to be given a good home IS A RIGHT of the child.

HE is no loss to the world. Fuck him, he is making his point clear.

You say what Mr I have a nice famly and can’t relate?

What you don’t get, what I said in the first post is I have an illness or two, one of which is only recognised by science a couple of years ago, I get flash backs 7-9 times an hour and tghat’s probably the best bit, without understanding I will end up killing my father for all he has done.

I asked to be locked up, he got pissed at that, got dsrunk and took it out on my brother. He is worthless, yar, I am too burt at least I c an end one life that cause so much pain to my mom.

Or do you think it’;s cool your dad beating on your mom?
I don’t know what to say. What a fubar situation. Good luck See your therapist, try it out, maybe you can overcome this stuff.

WTF 30+ years, though. Why the hell are you still living there
Please, look up ultradradian/mixedmania/psychosis/flashbacks/etc

Join them altogether. My brother nearly left after two days because of him last holiday.

I have a drug, the one an d only drug that works on me and when getting them in the UK it seems they don’ty do them. I was in a state. My father got angry, drunk, belittled me, made me feel like a whole lot worse.

He is scum.

Trained as a chef, worked away at 21 – 25 but social phobia, paranoia, auditory and primary hallucinations, flashbacks, etc make it impossible to stick a job.

Always ended up in an altercation with the manager.

Bordered on some kind of assault.
Yes, you’re still wrong to follow him out shouting him down, despite all your justifications of how shitty a person he is. You’re feeding into a situation that’s already got you irate. The lack of sleep didn’t help much, I’d say
sorry to ask but are you really 33? your profile says 1975 ?
well dude, trust me ive been there.. a little background on me

alcoholic stepdad who was way too young to be my parent, had serious control and dominance issues.

when i was 10 he married my mom, i used his credit card to order some petty shit off the internet that totalled less than 80 dollars. i got the living shit beaten out of me (i was slipping in and out of conciousness) was verbally humiliated, degraded etc. on a semi daily basis for the better part of 5 years.
i would always justify that he was such a d-bag, i hated him etc. blah blah.

when i was about 16 i realized that yes, he was a really shitty father, a horrible role model, but alot of our fights at that point were because not only was he STILL punishing for what i had done 6 years ago, but i would just argue right back with him..

granted i STILL think its fucked up to come home to your 17 year old stepson obviously in a rage from a bad day at work, and literally walk around the house looking for something wrong so you can yell and punish your stepson.. i mean seriously, he would come in and YELL "im gonna bust your ass for something"

what did i do? go the fuck out of the house, went to college, made a life for myself. he is still a douchebag and yells at me and tries to make me feel guilty for having a life in college, the last time i went home he brought me outside and said

"your fucking up my life and your moms by not coming home. your tearing our family apart"

i just gave the said "i understand" to everything he said, drove away laughing and called my gf to tell her how much of a psycho he is

all that said you have to realize, that YOU make alot of the situations worse whether you want to justify it or not… he probably just came to check on you to see if you were ok, i mean shit it was 6 am, he obviously DOES care about you if he went to therapy and supported you… when i was in middle school my school MADE me go to therapy because all my teachers said i needed it bad… me and my mom went, after 2 sessions the therapist said "well, its obvious most of your issues stem from problems with your stepdad, we need to get him in to work through this" we went home, said "hey the therapist said you need to be involved in a group discussion" he said "im not going, theres nothing wrong with me, your just a fuck up and your trying to make me your problem"

I understand you’re new and all, but this is not the main forum. If you’re not going to be constructive, find yourself elsewhere.

We teach our kids a shit load of stuff, maybe not to go out to a 7/11 and blow away some dude but anger, the way to deal with a situation, etc..we teach our kids some ways to cope with life and some ways come back to us.

This guy has given me and my family grief over 32+ years. Should I not be aloud to be a bit pi9ssed off for the first time, have him on the back seat and enjoy it?

32. Unable to live by myself though for 3-4 years I tried.
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For not being as good a human being as him? A total benign situation here, but we have a stray dog that comes round, one time it’s don’t feed the dog in an an angry tone, the next he interrogates me why I didn’t feed it. He is full of indecisions which hurt the family, always have. He gts drunk most nights of the week pishes all over my mother and embarrasses anyone he sees beneath him. He is scum.

This isn’t about being wrong at 16 it’s about being right and having to play a subordinative role to fit in with society.

For me it’s not an issue but for my my brother it is, he near left from India to England after one day with him last he he was out, he is no father to me just a figure in the family but no head of any family. It may sound weird but after looking over my feelings I find if I lost him my only concerns would not be about grief.

Dude. I’m jealous, I wish I could walk away. but try this, 6-10 flash backs an hour, can’t leave the house due to social phobia, auditory and primary hallucinations, etc, etc… I can’t get away from his shit. I near took a screwdriver to him a few nights ago.

It might to be be great to get away from it for a while but try 14 years of the same damn shit. Put your head phones on, on a talk show, now try thinking of it sped 5x as fast and live that way with nothing but your own company for years.

There;s a whole lot more..

No, he passes out from the booze at a certain time and comes to the door and hammers it. Even after what happened, he said he would show a little more respect and try to help…..does he fuck! He comes down in the morning’s and smacks the shit out of the door….BTW- IF back in the UK I would be in a Mental Ward not working for this cretin.

It’s true.

Never once been to help me, talk about it and he walks out the room

my dad was an abusive drunken coke-addict rapist so no i dont think it was cool him beating on my mom but this thread is about you

maybe you should have explained the situation better in the first post? and you cant kill someone and blame it on an illness, especially when you are posting about it in here, that means it was premeditated

You’re an ’06, you should know better.
There is a lot of anger in your heart.

Your father and mother are with you for life.

It may break your brain to hear this, but you must learn to love your father.

After years of abuse, you must love him.

If someone hurts another person, that person should not hurt back in return.

The world would be full of hurt if it worked that way.

If your father hurts you, you must love him in return.

If he goes back and hits you when you love him and express your love for him, then love him more.

This is not to be taken out of context in a crazy way, rather a normal way. Love him by not getting up and yelling at him.

I mean you are up at 6 in the morning. I’m up past 9:26 and no sign of sleep in the last 24 hours, my father would be pissed if he knew it.

But anger coming out of my heart because he had a bad reaction to what time I stayed up until is not correct. It is wrong to yell at anyone.

It hurts you. You need to close the door to hate and open the door to love.

32 years. Let bygones be bygones. Shocking to hear? Let it. Why not let yourself have a miracle where you turn around and start loving the man, and he will not know what to do and cry, because he will not be able to comprehend why you still love him.

Love him. If he’s acting like a boy and hating, you act like a man and love him. Even if he is your father.

Anything else is an excuse from a poor part of the mind that I don’t even want to hear. Everyone is tired of everyone else’s psychological song, it’s time to start singing a new tune man.

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I know I wouldnt be posting on the internet about it….
Way to make a thread.

How can we know what more you can do if we dont know what youre doing to start with?
First…how old is she? I am assuming a minor? Where are your parents???
It should be reported to police, not OT.
Parents should get her into counseling asap before it messes her up.
Perpetrator needs to be castrated w/o anesthesia and have limbs removed.

I’d go to OT if my sister were molested too. Good instincts.
Hold on, I thought this was On Topic.

Silly me.

pick up the phone and report while they are still able to see possible bruising

You’re assuming a lot here. This could be another one of those common "he raped me!!!!!!!1111111111111" stories girls make up about sex they regret.

Right, the perp should be wormed.
A lot of details left out:

1) How old is she?
2) Who was the molester?
3) How did it happen?
4) What have you done so far?
shes 11 my 15 year old cousin did it, parents to trapped to do anyhting about it, i made my mom get a counsellors number and call 2x today.. somehting serious needs to be done about the cousin.

thans for gettign to the police now idea there still might be bruising
The longer you wait the harder it is to get him, do it now.

I understand where your coming from its a kind of shitty situation because the guy that did it is a family member but you need to handle this shit stat. The longer you wait the harder its going to be she should have been in an emergency room getting a rape kit the moment you found out.

Unfortunately I know how hard the situation can be I volunteered at a victims advocacy center when I was in high school and college. When a family member is the one that does it, its pretty hard for some people to step up because its a conflict but you need to man up. Fuck your cousin because that mother fucker hurt your little sis.

You need to not care about your parents right now and do whats right by your sister. Call the police yourself and have them come out to the house this needs to get taken care of stat! You need to get her checked out by a doctor as soon as possible as well. It looks like your parents arent manning up from what your telling me so your going to have to.

Take the following course of action.
1. Take her to an E.R. or Dr. and explain to them the situation. They will be able to handle it from there and guide you through the process. They usually have some one on staff to help you out.

2. The E.R. is going to either have a counselor there or will be able to get you a counselor it is very important that she speaks to one. They will also call the police for you and address all the legal stuff for you from the hospital.

3. file those fucking charges. if he gets away with this lord knows who else he can do it to or has done it to. I understand that he is only 15 but it isnt right and you need to do right by your sister.

We as older siblings have a responsibility to our younger siblings to look out for them and do what ever we can. To think that some one would violate your younger sister who is only 11 years old makes my blood boil. Your going to have to be a rock for your sister because this is gonna be hard for her. Do what you have to do and push this issue forward get the police involved and get her the medical/psychological attention she needs.

This has the potential to cause a lot of damage if not addressed properly and your gonna have to be the one to bear that load. If you need any more info, advice, or just need some one to talk to and help you out feel free to hit me up on pm and ill be more then willing to help you out.

throw in medical attention

Three steps! It’s a fibonacci number.

he said molested not raped

edit: actually nm he’s being pretty unclear about the whole thing… would the thread starter mind providing details? I don’t mean detailed details, but was she raped or what?
Get the police involved. Hopefully your sis AND your cousin can get help.

yeah I was thinking the same thing at first but then he mentioned bruising so I assumed there was some kind of physical abuse.
How old are you?

Since this situation revolves around kids, you need to get parents involved. Talk to your parents, and talk to the other kid’s parents.

Your parents feel trapped because it’s family. Fuck that. Not only did he do something wrong, he did it to family. If he’s going to have such little regard for family, why should you?

Get the police involved. Tell your sis to tell a counselor or nurse at school. Tell your sis to go to the police if your parents won’t do it for her.

Your’re assuming way more

They regret it because they were forced into it.

I don’t agree.

They regret it because they just thought about the consequences.

there are a lot of instances where a girl will decide to have sex, then regret it afterwards..they may give excuses like "I was drunk" or "he took advantage of me".

Not saying that all rape claims are false, but it’s not uncommon for immature college girls to say these things to make themselves feel better.

Girls dont think about it until later because the boy was pushing them into the whole thing.

Based on the young male of today, there is a good chance the girls were forced even when it seems like thet made it up afterwards.
i can never understand families that protect molesters. absolutely fucking disgusting.

I know. It does nothing but totally screw the child.. especially when the child is very young.

I said could

and ya I take that comment back, I didn’t realize how young she was

if that was my cousin he’d have disappeared for a while and been slightly damaged before being turned in

At the same time you have to think about why the kid was acting in the manner he was. The likelihood that he was abused himself at some point is pretty high.

Sexual abuse is something that just keeps going and going.. its easier to ignore and pretend that it never happened.
The only things you should do are notify the authorities and get her into therapy ASAP
Notify authorities and get her into therapy.

My cousin was molested at a young age by a relative who had autism. Nobody wanted to get him in trouble because "he didn’t know better" so she’s been left to deal with it her whole life. The only solace they gave her was that she wouldn’t have to visit him anymore. Fucked up, but sexual abuse is a tough issue to handle especially if family is involved.

Seriously though, get her some good therapy.

I suggest you stop trolling the asylum.

Some girls are forced into having sex, many aren’t. In this day and age, girls tend to be as, if not more sexually aggressive than boys.

He probably was… I don’t care. If he needs help he should ask for it. He made the choice to continue the cycle. That never really made sense to me… if you experienced something that horrible why would you want to inflict that pain on somebody else? One would think the opposite would happen. And in some cases it does. I’m sure some abused people have turned out to be excellent councilors/detectives/etc.

In my opinion sex offenders should be castrated at the very least. And I don’t mean for the bullshit "crimes" like public nudity.

Why were these two alone together?

You obviously have no idea how these things work. I would suggest seeking education as soon possible.

why not? autistic kids don’t normally go around molesting other kids

i got sent to a mental hospital for 12 days, i got prescribed medicine .

im like 100% sure this happened even though doctors(who havent talked to my sister) say it didnt happen, im sure becasue i am good at analyzing people.

parents still deny it. havent gone to police because im pretty sure they would just send me back to the hospital. ive gotten in numerous fights with parents including a bad one today. im going to try and keep my head down for now, fighting gets nowhere.

id like to be able to come to this thread for support maybe, and def any advice is welcome. thanks guys.

there’s a fair amount of information missing here now….

There is a LOT more to this than what you have stated so far.

you don’t get sent to a mental hospital for 12 days for believing your cousin was molested when no on else does

dude you just need to take your sister to the police and let her tell her story and you just tell them str8 up the situation. Tell them you just want them to talk to her and hear her side of the story. You need to make the jump and if they send you back in thats what you have to do for your little sister. Us older brothers came first for a reason and that was to take care of the younger ones.

My girlfriend was molested when she was a child. She doesn’t go around molesting people to deal with her past. Being molested yourself is not an excuse to go molesting other people.

its so hard, i almost went to the police station today but my parents threatened to kick me out and i have nowhere to go. im 90% sure theres covered up blood stains in her room.

my psychiatrist tells me im delusional(she has never seen my sister ever) and thats like the end of it for me i lose a lot of hope.

im really really fucked.

people say theres a lot of info missing, but just ask and ill fill it in best as possible. im pretty sure the main reason i was in the mental health facility was becasue i didnt realize it and was trying to be macho and shit and said id like to hurt my cousin who did it.

how could you be 90% sure there’s covered up bloodstains?

What makes you think he molested her?

go to said room, take a picture of where you see the bloodstain, have about 10 people look at the picture and see if they see a bloodstain.

I’m not going to say you are delusional…but I am going to say that if you are have delusions/hallucinations, it would be very hard for you to distinguish between what is real and what is not.

they are like scrubbed out ill take some pics.

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Have you been having hallucinations, catatonic behavior, delusions, or very disorganized behavior? If you have you might have schizophrenia…go see a psychiatrist ASAP.

Go see a doctor anyways to see if you have ADD or something for this losing focus thing.
Have you been working at job that you liked and/or challenged you?

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I know Wikipedia isn’t the most credible source of information and I know I shouldn’t google diagnose myself, but I found this as a symptom.

"Thought Disorder. It describes a persistent underlying disturbance to conscious thought and is classified largely by its effects on and . Affected persons may show pressure of speech (speaking incessantly and quickly), derailment or flight of ideas (switching topic mid-sentence or inappropriately), thought blocking, , , or ” when individual words may be intact but speech is incoherent."

Now normally this wouldn’t have bugged me, but lately people have been asking if English is my first language. I don’t know if it’s the way I type or what. This is also a symptom of Aspergers syndrome. I guess I could worry about every little detail in my life or just live it. I’ve never had any hallucinations, well at least none that I didn’t induce. I am probably overreacting, I consider myself "normal", but it still scares me.

Edit: I just re-read my own post and what the fuck LOL.

Talking to your doctor about your concerns would be a good idea. Also have a close friend or family member know about your concerns so they can help keep an eye on if you display schizophrenic traits. College age (18-25) is when schizophrenia develops.

Thanks for the post and link. I know that genes can skip a generation or traits like Alzheimer isn’t always passed on even if both parents have it. I’m 25 this year so I guess maybe I’m out of the loop, but who knows. I worry, but I know I shouldn’t and I will talk to my doc and friends.

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