Alright,

My heads in a mess trying to work out how i really feel.

Background
Im 23, have had a bunch of previous gf’s and have slept with a number of people. Now one part is that some of my previous gf’s i am still friends with (3+ years has passed since i was with them, and no longer have any feelings like that for them)
She is 21 and has pretty much has had nothing.

So i met her one night last year and got her number,
we spoke then hung out and then i asked her out.

Everything was good it was fun, it got physical and surprisingly (and good) she was very talented in that area despite no history.

I enjoyed hanging out with her and we did lots of things and had fun.
about a month in she had asked me about my history when we had been drinking one night. i was very hesitant to tell her and she kept pushing. i warned her that its irrelevant and probably not a good idea.
Well in the end i told her what she wanted to know.
She was a little shocked at first but then seemed ok.

As she found out that pretty much all of my female friends there was some history of some sort (even if just a kiss) she was a bit annoyed with that.

Moving on she still seemed ok and everything was great and the sex was awesome (first girl i have met that could keep up with me )

About 4-5months in something happened and her self esteem seemed to go down and she was getting jealous.

She would be annoyed if i talked to a female friend, or she would worry about stuff if i went out.

She kept thinking they were all better than her she would say "all of your ex girlfriends are models (some of them were) and im just ugly" (which wasnt true cause she was hot too.
But she was just paranoid about it.

I would never cheat and have never cheated, i loved her and we got to a point were it was said (before the paranoid stuff started happening)

So the last 3-4months its just been on and off with the jealousy and being paranoid about nothing and we had some arguments. This really took its toll on me and i was a bit stressed and just not fully in it with my heart anymore.

Bout 3 weeks ago we broke up one morning. Ended up talking the next day and said well lets see how we feel after a few days of not talking

After a few days i hadnt really thought about it, and while i missed her at some times and thought it would be nice if she was there i didnt have a strong feeling that she should have been there.
So about a week later we spoke again and basically said i havent had a feeling strong enough to say i definately want to be with you.

After that i was quite sad the next day (guess it actually hit me then) and occasionally i think maybe it could work.

Now the issue i have is i dont know how much of me is focussing on the physical side of the relationship and wants to get back in because of that or not.

She identified that she was being a bit crazy and said its cause she had most of her friends stop talking to her and she seemed to be taking some of it out on me and that she can change and get back to how she was.

It was great before the change happen, but i guess im just unsure if it could work or if we should give it a shot.

And part of me doesnt want to miss out on the amazing physical side we had!

So im really confused a bout what i really want or if i should give things another go. or if im just considering it cause my dick is influencing my brain?

Thought?
Just say to her,I’ve had it with your paranoia investigate anything you want because im not going with anyone else and im not going to defend myself. Then stop bothering me with your jealousy and lets get on with our relationship, i want to move forward in being with you and im not going to live in paranoia or you being jealous all the time. So lets get this stuff over and done with, or get the hell out of my life.
It’s rather unrealistic of her to be annoyed that you "have a history" and completely overlook the fact that nearly everyone has been with someone. She may have been a virgin when she met you, but now she has a "history" too, even if a short one. So is it ok if the next guy puts her through the same kind of crap she’s giving you?

It no fun being involved with someone who is so pissy and insecure that you have to disclose every little kiss you ever had…and then have it held against you. She might be worth another shot, but only if she can get past her immaturity and accept that she’s not your first, and you probably won’t be her last.

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