I don’t have any, but I honestly think OT is the worst place for a sensitive person.
I think that you can’t change what you feel but you can change what you do/think about those feelings.

Simple. Stop putting yourself last. Being a sensitive person isn’t a bad thing; in many ways, its a good thing. The problem is when you allow other people to be more important than you. Unless its your wife/child, no one is more important than you.

So if you can help someone without giving up what you want for yourself, then do so, otherwise, sympathize, but leave it at that
How about you give us actual details so we can help you? Less sensitive in what way…

I don’t know. I get fed up with people really easily and if sometimes I take things to heart. I feel super-defensive and have a hard time going into offense mode and going off on people when they say shit to me. I don’t like to get angry but if I stay silent I just get more infuriated.

so you’re insecure, and worried that other people think you’re unworthy of things, so any hint that they think that sends you into ‘damage control’ mode where you try to make it look like they’re wrong and you’re perfect

Precisely. I don’t get it, I need to get past it. You know how I know you’re right? After I read your post I was already trying to think of why I’m NOT insecure.

basically it means you have no sense of self-worth. you believe you are valueless, and everything else stems from that.

I suggest you start taking on some hobbies and work them through to completion (hiking, model building, etc)

succeeding at something (challenging) is the fastest way to build a sense of self-worth
the internets made me WAY less sensitive i used to take everything ppl would say extremely personally, i think it was because of all those kid shows that tell you to never make fun of anyone, but now ppl talking shit can just fuck off and it doesnt really bother me.

working out helps out a lot with self esteem or at lest it did with me you dont have to join a gym or anything just do a light work out at home using your body weight if you dont have any free weights.

Sounds to me like the real issue is expressing your feelings appropriately. If you don’t have permission to say how you feel, but others do, then it sets you up to simmer and stew in a kind of low-level rage.

A course in assertiveness training could be very useful in learning how to express yourself without "going off on people", and help you feel more in control of a situation. If you know how to say what you feel, and give yourself permission to say it, you won’t need to simmer and stew and blow up anymore. You can simply say it.

That’s how I feel. A lot of the suggestions people made here I already do. I put on 30 pounds of mostly muscle from going to the gym and bulking last year, I’m no stranger to assholes on the internet, and I’m a pretty great athlete. I know I have value, but I always feel wrong sticking up for myself and it’s extremely nerve-wrecking because it feels like things just escalate from there. Growing up I’ve been pretty protected so I didn’t learn a lot about how to handle myself one on one neither verbally or physically, so I’ve always felt like I’m missing a key skill that everyone else has.

you’d be surprised how often a situation de-escalates as soon as you show a spine. It’s all in your choice of words. Some words are you making a challenge to the other person (struggle for dominance), while others are mere statements, where they lose no status for accepting them.
I wouldn’t suggest becoming less sensitive. Things become very dull and you will become unmotivated about a lot of things. And there’s no turning back, you can’t magically become more sensitive if you regret it.

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