My life…so different to 6 months ago

This is for those who care, those who dont, X at the top right.

6 months ago my life was shit, shit job, no girlfriend, stuck in a small town, no friends.

fast forward to now, a fortunate series of events has turned me around.

I was fortunate to land a 100k/year job in melbourne australia (moving from adelaide)..went from 75k to 100…bang

i got an apartment in the city, met some awesome people, read the game, studied mystery method, real social dynamics and david deangelo.

I have a new circle of friends and a new life.

This whole changed happened within a month, it just took me 5 months to realise i had to change my life.

To all those out there who think their lives are shit, mine was too. I did something about it.

Keep that in mind….it never matters where you are now, just never lose sight of where you want to go.

J.
Thanks..kinda feeling like shit right now so that helps!

This is for those who care, those who dont, X at the top right.

6 months ago my life was shit, shit job, no girlfriend, stuck in a small town, no friends.

fast forward to now, a fortunate series of events has turned me around.

I was fortunate to land a 100k/year job in melbourne australia (moving from adelaide)..went from 75k to 100…bang

i got an apartment in the city, met some awesome people, read the game, studied mystery method, real social dynamics and david deangelo.

I have a new circle of friends and a new life.

This whole changed happened within a month, it just took me 5 months to realise i had to change my life.

To all those out there who think their lives are shit, mine was too. I did something about it.

Keep that in mind….it never matters where you are now, just never lose sight of where you want to go.

J.

I live in campbelltown Sydney and I hated travelling.
Out of nowhere I landed an IT job in campbelltown 3 minutes from home.
They are just waiting on the crminial clearance check and will formally offer it to me. But nevertheless Im stoked. I just kept on applying until I found something close to home. Problem in Sydney is that all the good paying jobs are in the city and I hate catching the train. I love my suburbs.

May I ask what kind of work you do to earn that top rate money?
And congrats my friend

This thread is refreshing.

Kudos to you.
30k or so a year is where im at, I dont know how people get 100k a year jobs

20k or so a year is where im at, I dont know how people get 30k a year jobs

Yeah for some reason I was making like 12 bucks an hour.. and now every job I get is 17-20 dollars an hour and i dont know why

im not going to argue..

would be nice to make this 100k though.. 100k a year would be such an insane amount of money that I wouldn’t have to worry about anything.
Honestly I wouldnt doubt if this post makes a few people rethink their life. Grats.
thanks. that helps.

I’m very happy to hear that your life has turned around!
Its a corporate IT job in the heart of melbourne.

Everything has turned around, you can make a difference. and the only person that can make a difference is YOU.
Nice work on the job dude! And congrats on turning your life around!

I used to be chasing my own head up my arse 6 months ago up until probably a week ago (going nowhere, had no sense of direction) I sat down, ALONE and thought out what was in my head and what i really wanted.

I’m now training and getting myself prepared to apply to be a cop in 6 months time. Something different every day and the pays pretty good. After working in retail for 10 years, i’m sick of the mundane repetitive shit.

Maybe i’ll head down to Melbourne if they pay better down there I’m up in QLD at the moment.. so we’ll see how things go.

It’s always good to hear from people like you who have just made that shit happen and improved your life – nice work!

Oh, the mysteries of life.. Hell, 100k every two years would be more then sufficient for me.

I really need to open my own business.
is it that your life is different or is it your view of it different?
Glad everything turned around. I remember when suicide was the only option in you head. Congrats.

Nice job man, its nice to hear people turn things around, hope your enjoying yourself. Ive been itching to go to the down under for a long time and Melbourne is a pretty sweet town, I inadvertently became friends with numerous people over the net from Melbourne over the years and everyone from that town seems to be especially cool. Hey next time your out and about ask around and see if anyone as heard of Maxwell Knight, I hear he is somewhat of a legend in Melbourne.

This is for those who care, those who dont, X at the top right.

6 months ago my life was shit, shit job, no girlfriend, stuck in a small town, no friends.

fast forward to now, a fortunate series of events has turned me around.

I was fortunate to land a 100k/year job in melbourne australia (moving from adelaide)..went from 75k to 100…bang

i got an apartment in the city, met some awesome people, read the game, studied mystery method, real social dynamics and david deangelo.

I have a new circle of friends and a new life.

This whole changed happened within a month, it just took me 5 months to realise i had to change my life.

To all those out there who think their lives are shit, mine was too. I did something about it.

Keep that in mind….it never matters where you are now, just never lose sight of where you want to go.

J.

You’re welcome.
ive also met a bunch of hot womenz, and now i need to learn how to dance 😛

also, im gonna start taking capoeira lessons…hehe

ive also met a bunch of hot womenz, and now i need to learn how to dance 😛

also, im gonna start taking capoeira lessons…hehe

Dance classes are a great way to meet women and also learn how to impress them.

Capoeira is so much fun BTW.

Dance classes are a great way to meet women and also learn how to impress them.

Capoeira is so much fun BTW.

hahah sweet! having fun is the idea!
cool shit. I’ve kind of done the same thing, but only 3 months ago.

do you think those dating books were the reason why you have a better life than what you had 6 months ago?

because they helped me very minimally when i tried readin them

Dance classes are a great way to meet women and also learn how to impress them.

Capoeira is so much fun BTW.

you do capowedda?

ooo

I like you more

do you think those dating books were the reason why you have a better life than what you had 6 months ago?

because they helped me very minimally when i tried readin them

Reading them does nothing. Actually using the tools is the key.
yeah, learning how to meet people is the important part.

Learning how to speak to girls and not looking like a dick is also important.

you do capowedda?

ooo

I like you more

I tried. I used to do tae kwon do which I am currently thinking of taking up again. Also love kickboxing. My legs are ridiculously strong.

Do brazillian jiujitsu!
my latest post

check that out…
thats pretty awesome…. I hope to be in the same position as you soon

Several years ago I was in your shoes as far as life sucking goes. It took a year and a half to turn things around but I did it. I got out of debt, bought my first house, married a long time boyfriend (yeah it took us 7 years to make it to the altar) and saw my mom get remarried (dad died 8 years previous). Part of it was letting go of some shit that was eating at my soul, and the other half was to quit worrying about what everyone else was doing and focusing on myself and where I needed to be.

In my opinion, as long as you still wake up each morning and have your life and your health, you haven’t truly lost it all and are doing better than a million others out there.

become a cyclist! join the dark side!
Ive done what you have done. Met alot of ppl etc.

But somehow I cant land a longterm friendship. Last week I called and checked with two aquiantaces what they where doing and such, so that got me into 3 parties last weekend. We where supposed to meet up during the week, but none of those people I called a week ago contacted me since then… its like they forgot. And I dont want to call them back.

Then these womenz I met, I got their numbers, msged on facebook and I called on up. She was glad to hear from me and such, but the convo ended with her saying she would call me back up for a party or something…

but now the weekend is here and Im alone as always. :wtc.

This is for those who care, those who dont, X at the top right.

6 months ago my life was shit, shit job, no girlfriend, stuck in a small town, no friends.

fast forward to now, a fortunate series of events has turned me around.

I was fortunate to land a 100k/year job in melbourne australia (moving from adelaide)..went from 75k to 100…bang

i got an apartment in the city, met some awesome people, read the game, studied mystery method, real social dynamics and david deangelo.

I have a new circle of friends and a new life.

This whole changed happened within a month, it just took me 5 months to realise i had to change my life.

To all those out there who think their lives are shit, mine was too. I did something about it.

Keep that in mind….it never matters where you are now, just never lose sight of where you want to go.

J.

Its funny u mentioned RSD. Their videos have turned my life around completely. Tyler is such a sick motivational speaker. Tim, Jeffy, Ozzie, Hoobie are also great.

Which ones have you seen and what are some of your fav parts in the videos?

I’m actually about to buy a bike as well. I’m really into riding one around this local 5 mile trail.
First off, awesome job on turning your life around and bettering yourself for you. I think that is the most important thing about all of this, if anything.

However, one thing I noticed was that you got two dating books.. but yet, you don’t mention anything about dating a lot of women or having a gf. What’s up wit dat?!

I got into cycling 6 years ago, and it’s changed my life. As cliche as that sounds, it’s true. I’m 1000x more fit, more confident, more competitive, all-around a more positive person.

I got into cycling 6 years ago, and it’s changed my life. As cliche as that sounds, it’s true. I’m 1000x more fit, more confident, more competitive, all-around a more positive person.

I might go buy one today
awesome man i remember reading your threads about things being shitty.

glad everything is workin out
I want to put this thread in OT’s archives and then link this thread in the Asylum Wisdom, you ok with that? I’ll still leave it open for a week or 3 for people to post more replies.

Thats cool man!

Ill post pics of my progression from being a chode to where i am now
here is my OT recovery diary…weird

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Going through a tough stage of my life…
09-12-2007
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Hi All
Long time member first time poster…
Well its been two weeks since my girlfriend decided that she didnt want a relationship any more. We were together for 3 years and it hurt like mad when she told me.
She was thin, hot, smart, good in bed and had a great personality, she had career goals and wanted to do something with herself, she is also outgoing and quite social.
pic for reference (me on the right)

at first i thought i was going to be ok. But now ive realised that she is never coming back and i dont just miss her but i miss her friends (who might now have only been friends with me through her) and i also miss the companionship. I was taking it quite hard and i went to see a counsellor about how i can get my life on track.
You see the problem is that she has lost nothing, if she fell out of love with me then so be it, but she has lost NOTHING, i have lost friends, sex, her…all sorts and she is tough skinned and i know she is over me already and that hurts.

Anyways last sunday i went for a drive to clear my head, i got a phone call from a family friend to say that my mum had taken a bunch of pills and tried to OD. She had been rushed to hospital and was in a coma like state for 6 days.
My mother knew i was depressed because of my GF situation and thought she caused it, she took 20 or so sleeping pills and 16 valium in an attempt to commit suicide. Thankfully the pills she took werent fatal, and when she came to (6 days later) she said she was doing it for me to free me and to make me move on and get on with my life…
This in itself hurt and outshadowed the GF situation….but now leaves me with other issues. You see i only really had two people in my life, my gf and my mum, i lost my gf and i almost lost my mum, if i did lose mum then i would have most definately ended my own life just from the overload of bad shit going on.

anyways its been 10 days since mum did that and she is well again (going to therapy about the attempted suicide) and i am suprisingly ok but still bitter.

I have applied for jobs in different cities just to get away and have a fresh start, the last thing i want to do is see my ex-gf arm in arm with some other guy, i worshipped the ground she stood on…some girls have it so good.

anyways
just thought id sign in.
Jim
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Last edited by Chickenbum : 09-12-2007 at 08:05 PM.

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i cant help but think ill never do better than her…
9-15-2007
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Guys
Its now been two months since my girlfriend broke up with me.
At first i thought id be ok, staying positive. So far ive only talked to a small hand full of girls and havent had a sniff of anything that id be remotely attracted to.
I now cant help but think that my ex gf WAS in fact out of my league, she was pretty, thin, smart and had a good personality. She was also very shallow and mean sometimes, but she did love me and i cant get passed that.

I have run into the problem now that she has a new boyfriend and she is all healed, and moved on. I know what i need to do, i need to go out, and meet people and hook up.
Problem is i live in a small town, the ex lived in a city 2 hours away. She has hundreds of friends, lots of things to do, i live in a small town, i have one work mate who doesnt like going out and apart from that i have no other mates.
I cant help but wonder if this was the one that ill be talking about for years…ie "yeah i once went out with a super hot chick…etc" i dont want it to be but at the moment my social life is so stale that i dont know what to do.
I hate to think that she was so much better than me but im almost starting to beleive it, i dont want to lower my standards, i definately dont want to get back with her, but i dont want someone who im gonna be wishing was something more….if you hear me.

I know time will heal these wounds, but at the moment the wounds are still quite deep and dont show any signs of healing soon.

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Is it normal?
9-19-2007
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Is it normal to hate my ex?
part of me thinks that i shouldnt, because this time 3 months ago all was peachy, but since the breakup (even though i am jealous as shit of her) i really cant stand her, she has a new boyfriend so whatever, but if i saw her i would be furious, if i spoke to her i couldnt help but be bitter towards her.
I really hate her.
I hate her for making me feel like crap. I hate her for not loving me.

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OT I am so fucked
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two weeks ago i hooked up with this girl, there were three girls at a bar and i grabbed one, and my mate ben also became friends with them.
The girl i hooked up with was the sweetest and most innocent girl i have ever met, she actually liked me,
me being the big shot hero that i thought i was, didnt pay much attention to her and thought i could do better,
Now my mate ben is still hanging out with them and im hella jealous, why? because i think i actually like this girl.
After a week of brushing her off and trying to get her off my case i tel her that i like her (after she tells me the same on sat night)
Only to hear from her "i was mixed up, i think we should just be friends"
I certainly fucked up a good thing, i was too concerned that my friends wouldnt like this girl, i even organised a date with her to which i told her two days before hand that i couldnt go through with it.
She actually liked me and i just didnt care…it filled my ego enough to make me think ill get someone better

then last night i had a massive fight with my work buddy and close friend Nick because him and i were out and he was making fun of me in order to get laughs from ladies.

so right now, i have no friends, i made a girl that liked me, hate me, and now she doesnt even want to know me.

I am so fucked up, i have no one to turn to. I even thought about taking the easy way out, my life is shit.
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Today, more than ever I felt like ending my life
9-25-2008
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Today and this week has been horrible for me.
Apart from things that happend a few weeks ago (GF Breaking up with me, Mother attempting suicide) This week i have hurt my back, caught a cold and i have an acne outbreak on my head.

I weighed up my options today and it was a really really viable option, obviously thus far i havent done it, but it made so much sense about an hour ago…

TURNAROUND
My life…so different to 6 months ago
3-17-2008
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This is for those who care, those who dont, X at the top right.

6 months ago my life was shit, shit job, no girlfriend, stuck in a small town, no friends.
fast forward to now, a fortunate series of events has turned me around.
I was fortunate to land a XXXk/year job in melbourne australia (moving from adelaide)..went from XXk to XXX…bang
i got an apartment in the city, met some awesome people, read the game, studied mystery method, real social dynamics and david deangelo.
I have a new circle of friends and a new life.
This whole changed happened within a month, it just took me 5 months to realise i had to change my life.

To all those out there who think their lives are shit, mine was too. I did something about it.

Keep that in mind….it never matters where you are now, just never lose sight of where you want to go.

J.
Man, I’m so glad to hear you’re doing so well! I was really worried about you when you first started this thread. Way to turn it around, Ace!!

I think this in the archives is a great idea too

Its funny u mentioned RSD. Their videos have turned my life around completely. Tyler is such a sick motivational speaker. Tim, Jeffy, Ozzie, Hoobie are also great.

Which ones have you seen and what are some of your fav parts in the videos?

I checked out their site based on the OP’s first post and wow… i’m going to get the dvds…

I’m fairly outgoing and social but I’ve seen a lot of good things about them.
Guys

I want someone to put this thread as a sticky, to show how ive turned it around.

Let them know i can be contacted if they need help.

Jim
i can’t wait to finish school and focus on a good job, feels like it’s never going to be over

No you don’t. trust me on this.

If you think that, you’re doomed for failure. enjoy college.
Just so you all know

All is still well
Great post. Congratulations on all that has come your way. Good luck with everything.
you mentioned the dating books and stuff… did you develop a friend base from talking to/meeting up with people that were interested in and using that stuff as well? or did you make friends as a result of being more social and stuff due to the dating advice?

No you don’t. trust me on this.

If you think that, you’re doomed for failure. enjoy college.

Not neccessarily. I’m actually enjoying life more now than I was in university. Simply matured and became the person I want to be in that time
Yeah I think I want to carry the same words of encouragement for all you out there. Life can change very fast if you simply make that decision to take action.

I first joined OT during some very down point in my life — dead-ended a relationship that really went nowhere to begin with, had a job that was taking me nowhere after having worked day in and day out there for 8 years, sat in a dark one bedroom condo where the only view out the patio was a neighbor no less then 20 feet away from me. I came to OT for a little bit of solace at my brother’s recommendation because he noticed how down I felt.

I was feeling very lonely, very bored, very unsatisfied. The same feelings I see posted here on a daily basis.

I don’t know where I just made the decision but I said, "fuck it, I’m gonna change this".

Right away, quit my job and started my own business
Met the girl of my dreams and married her 2 years later
1 year after getting married to the day we get a beautiful condo 10 minutes away from the beach. While I work I get to see the blue sky and the ocean.
And now just this week we got the news she’s pregnant.

All this in a span of just 3 years. My life has done a complete flip. I half expect to open my eyes tomorrow and this was all a big dream.

If I have any complaints at all left in life is that it’s almost TOO fast. It was almost like someone bigger then me said, "OK, you wanted all of this, here" and dropped it all on my table at once.

The point, for those of you feeling like the world just sucks or if you’re feeling like you’re in pause, the first step is just to tell yourself it can happen and you can do it. Looking back as to what happened with me I believe there was just that ONE moment where I flicked the mental switch and decided I had enough. Then it life just changed very rapidly.

Keep your head up.
That’s good to hear Toasty… What was the business you decided to go with? I’m trying to start my own side business just to keep occupied, but I’m not sure if it can go anywhere (it’s graphic design, and painting. Perhaps I could sell my prints if they’re good enough?)
my life is different too… sometimes i dont whether its for better or worse. my good friends have changed a lot, its almost weird to see.

Graphic Design. The good thing was that I was that I had used my previous workplace as training grounds for my own biz…otherwise I think I would have had to run uphill a little harder. It’s scary having nobody to lean on but myself…but it’s also given me so many rewards.

As far as my perspective on your paintings and prints? Go for it. If you don’t get them out there, the only person holding you back right now is yourself. How is anyone else going to determine if you’re good enough right? The rest you’ll just figure out by doing.

As far as friends go, as I see mentioned often here. I’m a firm believer that you ARE often whom you associate with. If you surround yourself with hardworking and successful people, that vibe will rub off on you. If you sit around all day with potheads that’s what you’ll end up doing all day. I’m not saying you should ditch your friends (potheads are nice people too)…but successful people are more then willing to share their tips and secrets with you if you but ask. This goes for anything, you want to be happy/motivated/fit/loved etc, you look for these kinds of people and you learn from them.

I’m still figuring out life myself in many ways, but these are tactics that have helped me a bit over the years.

do you think those dating books were the reason why you have a better life than what you had 6 months ago?

because they helped me very minimally when i tried readin them

?

hows it goin bro, looks like you gave up on the sub too

Graphic Design. The good thing was that I was that I had used my previous workplace as training grounds for my own biz…otherwise I think I would have had to run uphill a little harder. It’s scary having nobody to lean on but myself…but it’s also given me so many rewards.

As far as my perspective on your paintings and prints? Go for it. If you don’t get them out there, the only person holding you back right now is yourself. How is anyone else going to determine if you’re good enough right? The rest you’ll just figure out by doing.

As far as friends go, as I see mentioned often here. I’m a firm believer that you ARE often whom you associate with. If you surround yourself with hardworking and successful people, that vibe will rub off on you. If you sit around all day with potheads that’s what you’ll end up doing all day. I’m not saying you should ditch your friends (potheads are nice people too)…but successful people are more then willing to share their tips and secrets with you if you but ask. This goes for anything, you want to be happy/motivated/fit/loved etc, you look for these kinds of people and you learn from them.

I’m still figuring out life myself in many ways, but these are tactics that have helped me a bit over the years.

Interesting. I have to say I’m an amateur-ish guy for it. I already have a few pieces but I am trying to make a website this summer to show my work. I think it’s a good step forward.. Thanks for the words of encouragement, I will try to meet some people.

I will go to an art show over the weekend, and perhaps they can give me pointers and I can meet some people

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