…. my SO of five years decided that he needed time to think.

All good and everything and I understand that but my frustration here is that I am going through a medical issue right now and I could have used his shoulder to cry on/for support.

I guess he just couldn’t handle the situation and bailed. I’ll be going over ina week to pack the rest of my stuff.

I’m 35, man. I don’t want to start over with this dating bullshit

sorry. that sucks.

are you guys broken up, or just taking space?

I have no idea. He says he wants to "clear his head" about some issues, which is fine by me. I’m just at the point that if he does call back, I might choose not to answer.

I just don’t need this bullshit in my life right now, you know? I’ve got a crapload of stuff to deal with and well, it seemed like he was kicking me when I was down.

If he can’t deal with the medical stuff (which will hopefully NOT be permanent) then he just should have told me up front he couldn’t deal with it.

You sound like you’ve got your head on right about it. Maybe it is just the medical issue that has spooked or stressed him and he’ll get his shit together. Either way, you sound strong and independent, so with time you’ll be fine either way. Doesn’t make it any better, but…

Good luck with the medical stuff.

thanks it’s scary shit to go through. I’m slowly coming to terms with the fact that maybe he just isn’t a strong person emotionally.

it’s his loss that he doesn’t want to be with me, ha!
Sorry to hear you have to go through this. You sound like a very strong person but I definitely think your boyfriend is getting a bit overwhelmed. I would let him know that if that is what it is you understand. Five years is a long time and I would encourage you to work it out as best as you can.

Good luck.
Kudos for being strong in this.

Question. Is the medical thing you have been going through the only issue you have both had, or would this be what he would call "the final straw"?

We’ve had lots of stupid little issues crop up but we’ve always managed to resolve them. I think the medical stuff probably overwhelmed him seeing as that his job is giving him a lot of stress right now.

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