I got a phone call a couple of hours ago from my mom telling me my friend passed away this morning.
I’m sort of in shock more than anything, and I feel bad for not being closer to him while he was so sick.
He was such a great person, and I missed out on that.

Going to his funeral later today… it feels so weird

I still didn’t expect it… he was just too young. I really thought he was okay

What was it?

He had heart problems, as well muscular dystrophy.

But he always appeared stable to me, because he was always under care.
A while ago he was rushed to critical care, and we all rushed there too, but he came out okay… that was the most near-death situation.

I’m just thinking about it right now, and with all he’s gone through…
He was 23, and been living with both illnesses for the majority of his life. He couldn’t do 3/4 of what a normal kid could do growing up. Yet he never complained to me and he always looked content and accepting.

This is just too weird. I hope he knows how much I miss him bc this is hard.
That really blows- I am so sorry for your loss Daneeyah
Thanks everyone, I appreciate your replies.

I’m feeling much better than before
Well in his memory, when you’re able to, make a donation to some MD foundation. I’m sure he didn’t want you to worry about him though… and now at least he is free of his pain. Good luck to you daneeyah.
Oh jeez…I’m so sorry to hear this Daneeyah.

You know it’s very common to think everything will be ok. I mean, we all know people that from time to time get sick but always seem to pull through. And yeah 23 is too young to be so sick and then to pass away….that’s really sad.

But you know, the illnesses you’re describing, it might be more of a blessing for him even if it’s very difficult on those left behind.

I’m also convinced that those who pass know how much we cared for them and how much we miss them….even if we aren’t always able to express those feelings or even always act in accordance with them.

Hang in there my friend.
That really sucks to hear. I’m sorry for your loss. Hopefully you have the strength to get through this. Remember we are always here with an open ear.
Thanks you guys.. your replies are really helpful and comforting to read.

I went to the funeral, and seriously everyone was either crying or tearing.
The mother stayed strong, but she also looked really out of it and sort of in a daze.

I felt better after the funeral for some reason… even though it still hasn’t hit me. I guess I’m numb right now which is sort of good and bad at the same time.

Stuff like this just gets you thinking about life more than anything… its just so weird how the cycle of life is. I overheard one of the ladies there telling another that, "we are all just waiting our turn".
And I guess it got me thinking about how one day I’m gonna be in that coffin and people will be crying (I hope) over me.
I dunno, just a rant…

But thanks again and again for all your support and replies, it really means more than you know.
I am sorry for your loss, I have been down this road many times over the last couple of years. I wish your heart a speedy recovery.

Thanks you two.
I’m feeling much better.. it’s sunken in now.
I saw his sisters today.. they’re being really strong.

One of his sisters was actually overseas, and she just flew in this morning.
Crazy thing is, she found out through facebook.
Apparently one of her friends wrote on her wall, "I’m sorry about the death of your brother"… and she had no idea what was going on til’ she called her mom.

I can’t imagine finding out about the death of one of my brothers or family members that way… o man
It’s not fun to lose a friend, that’s for sure. Went through that about a year and a half ago. I hope all goes well for you and I wish the best for his family.

I truely am sorry for your loss.

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