like, with me.. the thought of another dude penetrating or being on top of my woman..

cant think about it

is it different with women? what do they think? does it freak them out?

Maybe that’s a dumb question but i’ve been curious on if they get the same type of feeling
its just a matter of loyalty to both genders. .. but obviously the act is different.

i just feel like a fool if im cheated on. . . i just quietly dump her and tell no one

Why would it be different? The thought of a girl on my man makes we want to vomit, and then kill him and her.

Ok cool, I know it sounds like a dumb question but I just was curious

I do find that when it comes to cheating the girl who gets cheated on for some reason wants to find the girl who helped her bf cheat…instead of immediately attacking him. Makes no sense to me, but then again a lot of women just hate other women and have this weird thought like the girl seduced their boyfriend and he had no say.

Agreed completely, and that goes vice-versa for guys.

Yeah, I could be wrong, but I’m so used to guys that get cheated on immediately going "WHAT A FUCKING WHORE!" It’s the insecure one’s that usually get upset at the men.

It wasn’t dumb. I feel the same way you do. It makes me …. I can’t even think about it without getting angry and it hasn’t even happened.

As much as people don’t like being treated like possessions, when it comes to mates, they "are" yours on a primal level. If that’s taken away from you, your right to reproduce with her is thwarted, and that’s the worst possible offense to an animal (which we are).
women think diff then men so i would have no idea but i would think that they would go at the subject in a diff mannor
I think in most psych classes it is said that studies have shown that women disapprove/are hurt more by emotional cheating than sexual cheating, and the reverse for men.

This does not apply to every man and women, but seems to be what the statistics show for the general population.

This goes the same for guys. If a gf cheated on me I’d beat the crap out of the guy. It’s for different reasons though. A girl might assume that the other girl was trying to steal her man. But a guy would assume that the other guy simply took advantage of his girl.

Really? What if your best friend fucked your gf? Are you going to have a beer together and joke about it? For me he’d be out of my life and I can’t see how a guy could not have ill feelings towards the other guy.
i don’t see a difference between genders in my own anecdotal experience. despite what matt says psych says.

I am capable of bottomless jealousy. so is my sister. we experience it the same way.

however, I find that I have to agree to monogamy in order to feel jealous (for the most part).

Naturally speaking, most guys are thickheaded, and under slight intoxications; ie. pot, liqour, drugs, etc., things can escalate in a guys lower head rather quickly.. which generally leads a man to his natural doing – acting off instinct.. with his upper head. Hell – I’m in a relationship and I have to constantly remind myself to cut down on the "small" talk with public females.

It’s different when you change the perspective into a personal situation, because then you void out the question of gender, Aluminum. It’s not a male/female thing, it’s a question of value and morals. As opposed to me going to a party, hooking up with some hottie, never knowing she was engaged and almost married.. No ask, no tell. Go in for what you want, out when you’re done.

It’s no longer as serious. If I was the boyfriend on the other hand, which I have been, I would have smacked the shit out of the guy, which I did, and kicked the girl out, which I still reminisce and chuckle about.

Then again I walked in on her riding someone..

..on my bed.
I would kill someone. Whether it was my boyfriend, or if I was dating a girl, there’d be hell to pay on both ends.

That’s a pretty dumb thing to assume, unless it was an actual rape. She shouldn’t be putting herself in any situations where she could get "taken advantage of".

What I mean is that guys have the belief that girls are easily manipulated into bed.

Not all of us do. Any woman I would date seriously date is going to be an intelligent, mature adult woman. So, if she cheats, there would be no manipulation…it’s a choice.

Hell, I would go so far as to say that guys who think what you say are idiots. Come on, we’re dealing with people, not dogs.

Plus, saying the girl was manipulated is just a way for the guy to take some of the blame off himself…easier to say that "she was easily manipulated" rather than "I didn’t treat her well, i was boring" or "I chose to date a slut".

Despite what all the PUAs might seem to be saying, you can’t just snap your fingers or use some trick to make a girl go to bed with you. She has to CHOOSE to do so at some point.
i’m female, and the thought of my bf hooking up with another girl makes me wanna puke. if he ever DID cheat on me (which he wouldn’t), i would immediately break up and never speak to him again, no questions asked.

The way her man treats her can make her more susceptible to cheating. You can do everything right but you can’t change the fact that women are ruled by emotions. If a happily married woman meets another man who’s more attractive, interesting, and feels like a better fit for her, she will consider choosing the better mate.
I used to be insanely jealous and wouldn’t let my girlfriends hang out with other guys.

In the last couple years I have realized that my being jealous accomplishes nothing. If it does accomplish anything its probably to make the girls want to cheat.

Being a guy I also realized that it isn’t the guys fault if my girl fucks them. Unless he deliberatly pursed her after she told him she was taken I can’t fault him he didn’t know.

I can and will however fault the person responsible for cheating, I fucking hate cheaters. Not to mention the chance of catching STDS.

So, I have a convo that goes like this with every girl I want to get serious with.

Listen, if you ever want to cheat please don’t do it. Come and tell me you want to go sow oats. Im a big boy and understand, and I really don’t want to catch anything from a one night stand you may or may not have, so give me a heads up so we can split on good terms. I promise I will do the same for you.

So far I haven’t been cheated on that I know about since I adopted this policy, before when I was a jealous prick who would kick anyones ass for looking at my girl I got cheated on 3 times.

I’ve told my bf this + the fact that I would "rip his nuts off." He knows better

agreed. And in that case, hell, the other guy might be a better mate, in which case she should end the current relationship.

I took "being easily manipulated" as meaning that women had no choice in the matter, that it "just happened". That type of thing.

Trust me. I’m a guy and I can visualize that quite easily. When I found out my Ex was cheating on me all I could see in my mind was a photo-perfect image of them having sex. It fills me with rage thinking about it even now 6 months later.

I moved out after living together for a year, the wedding was cancelled and I attempted to carry on without her. If I see her in the street I see the same image again and it fills me with rage. I’ve not seen the other guy since before I knew they where sleeping together. If I ever did I would beat him to death (and I am being literal), unless someone was there to stop me. I am an extremely loyal and doating person but I am also cruel, callous and malicious when it comes to people who I feel have personally wronged me. This is why I avoid him at all costs now.

So, in short. I would say it’s down to the individual. Clearly I’m exceptionally effected by such things where as you can’t even visualize such things. I doubt gender has anything at all to do with it.

vaginal juices can be washed off easily but cum in a vagina needs to be scrubbed off?

OMG you guys are killing me.
I always seem to have more sympathy for guys who get cheated on than for girls who do… it seems like it’s worse when women do it. I don’t know why, but that’s just how I feel. If a girl were ever to cheat on me, it would probably fucking break me to pieces, and either I’d end up an emotional wreck or I would murder both of them.

I don’t know any guys that would admit to that even though they think it.

Yeah you have a really good point there… I hadn’t really thought about it. The girls get "fucked," while the guys do the "fucking."

Yep. This is why I hate women.

I have had 7 relationships. Out of those 6 of the girls cheated on me. 2 of them where long term (i.e more than 1 year), and I was engaged to one of them, we had set a date, actually for this month… as you can guess the wedding didn’t happen.

The seventh relationship was with a guy.

As you can see. Women = Scum
They cheat, they lie, they manipulate, they use sex as a tool. They are not worth my time and I do not trust them at all. I hope that some day a decent woman will show up to change my opinion of this, but I doubt it.

6 out of 7 relationships? Either you have some really bad luck, or you’re picking them unconsciously.

My mine has wandered to all sorts of horrible scenarios involving my man and other women. Some based on close calls due to some mega slut cracking onto him and others just ‘what ifs’.

I wish I couldn’t think such horrible things, but sometimes I do.

I don’t base my relationship on them though, he has never given me cause t worry

WTF??? That’s why the hell they make products like Masengil baby!!!! I love being a women because I can have multiples in like 10 seconds(if he knows what the heck he is doing)…you guy’s are just jealous!!!! I feel sorry for you men only having like one or two and then it’s "down hill"…

You slay me

you need a hug and a bowl of ice cream.

I’m sorry you have chosen shitty mates- I hope your current and future relationships work out better than your past ones

DOT
The Ice Cream I can manage myself, the hug would be nice though… sometimes I miss the closeness of my past relationships, especially now that I’ve become a socially reclusive, masogynistic git. I’m hoping it’s a phase that will be broken when I finally meet a decent girl out there… I would say "sod it I’ll date guys", but you can’t raise a family in a gay relationship, so that’s kinda out.

Move to Massachusetts, we’ll accommodate you.
I’d hug you for real You will meet a great girl (or guy, which ever you decide on) someday. Just take care of yourself, get your own issues worked out and keep your eyes open- you’ll do great Just gotta soldier on…

Good luck and Godspeed. We’re a fun bunch around here- feel free to post whenever you need
Chears, I will. Although I don’t want to turn into one of those irritating emo kids you find all over the net (even if I am a decade too old to be an emo kid).

oddly, I feel the same way

maybe this will put it into perspective: its like if someone borrows your favorite sweater, and you get it back and its all stretched out.

Fuck that, some of these punks make me wanna pull my glock.

You with a glock is the funniest damn thing I’ve heard all week
I’m gonna go with it’s worse when a woman cheats on her man than vice-versa. The reason is, when women cheat, it’s almost always (but not always always) because she wants to hurt her man for something he did that she hasn’t bothered to tell him about because he should’ve been perceptive to notice it by himself. On the other hand, when men cheat, it’s almost always because they "forgot" that they’re not supposed to pay attention to women anymore, and they did what they naturally do. So it’s at least not intended to cause problems, and premeditated offenses are always worse than non-premeditated ones.

Note that I didn’t say a damn thing about which kind of cheating is more painful to find out about. I’m staying out of that debate. There are too many variables when you try to apply the rule to specific relationships.
Heat of the moment, one time only thing. That I can forgive. That I have forgiven. It’s when they’re sleeping with someone else regually and then comming home to you, eating a meal with you, sleeping with you in your bed and telling you how happy you’ll be together…. that stings so much more than "I couldn’t supress my natural lustful animal desires and I slept with someone in the heat of the moment".

You’re a better person than I. I wouldn’t buy that excuse if it had a million dollars attached to it…
It would be extremely upsetting, but everyone can have a weakness of character and if someone is sorry enough to not only regret it but to come and tell me seeking forgiveness I couldn’t say no… I would however need a little time appart first, maybe a week or two, but we could work though it. Everyone makes mistakes, it’s what makes us human.

I couldn’t forgive it if they planned it, if they where hiding it from me, if they had the gaul to come back and play happy families with me when they have someone else in tow. It’s cruel and unforgivable.

I’ve had practice at being cheated on, and I’m ashamed to say I’ve been the other guy once before, but we’d both had a few drinks, it was an unhappy relationship and…. one thing led to another.
She left him the next day and I spoke to him about it a few days later. The guy and I are still friends. The girl I had the moment of weakness with. We dated for over a year, she cheated on me for the last 3 months of it.

I would be a hypocrit to not be prepared to forgive something I’ve helped cause in the past. I’ve only ever done it once and will never do it again. I have much more control over my urges now, (and I’m also teetotal).

What makes you think that?

Im not by any means justifying it for men or saying its okay for men to cheat, but at least you dont have this issue!

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