Second semester of my freshman year in college and I’m feeling so bad and I don’t really know why. My attitude is way too shitty and I’m constantly unhappy.

I find it hard to relate with anyone and don’t really see the need for bullshit relationships and bullshit pretending and bullshit selfishness.

I thought things were going well with this girl I was seeing. She sorta just stopped calling, and though I’m pretty much over it I can’t help but wonder what it was that made her stop.

I had some rutines going but now I’m falling out of them. Even my study habits are going out the window. My 3.6 GPA is going to be hard to match. For some reason I feel so pressured, so useless, so wasteful, but I can’t really seem to get myself motivated.

I don’t know what sort of steps I should take to start feeling better or how I can start developing a new outlook on life, but I’m really tired of crawling. I feel turned on and tuned in, but I’ve dropped so far out I don’t even fit in with the fringe.

I can’t relate to anything. I can’t seem to make the best of what I have which I understand as no road towards progression, but damn. I’m all out of fresh ideas. Anyone? Thanks.

I do pushups daily, but nah no regular exercise. During the couple of weeks where I was "seeing" that girl I started climbing, getting into a gym rutine, and eating more. I’m still eating more but I haven’t climbed or gone to the gym since last week. It’s really on off exercise, but I do need to get into a good gym rutine after spring break.
Well get out and do actual exercise. Pushups here and there and eating aren’t going to help resolve any pain. Why would you wait until after Spring Break Do something for an hour, the endorphines will make you feel good and you’ll feel confident the better you look.

No one is going to pity you for being depressed if you aren’t doing steps necessary to getting yourself out of it.
I agree that natural release of endorphins will make me feel physically and mentally better, I just do not think it’s going to solve all of my problems either.

It won’t magically solve your problems-it will make you feel better, look better and become a more healthy individual. It can also give you more confidence which you can use to get out there and make some friends so you aren’t sitting in your room on a computer all the time moping.

Actually, haven’t been on the computer for about a week. I go out often, have friends, etc, it’s just my attitude in general that is shitty I guess. I can’t get to the point where I’m ever happy.
Fresh air and regular activity will help. Everyone goes through times like this. You’ll get through it. But pay attention to what’s happening to you – if you need help, seek it.

A few things that I have realized as partially the cause of my problems are my impulsivity and my speak-before-you-think tactics. Some people appreciate these qualities about me but it seems that I have a hard time modifying my behavior when it becomes appropriate to not speak up, etc. Sometimes I just feel certain things can’t remain unsaid. I guess I have a hard time containing myself, but I keep so much contained. I don’t know. I think I’m going to go talk to my psychology professor about a couple of things. I’m just way too sad/angry.

Thanks again guys.

Most universities have a psych area where you can see a therapist for free.

I struggle with that, too. My freshman year of college was hard. I still deal with impulsivity, but it’s helped me to have a couple of close friends to whom I can say anything (and who understand that I’ll usually regret the outburst two hours later).

Good luck. Keep us posted.

Exactly.

And Iwishyouwerebeer, my school does offer free counseling. My psych professor is a counselor himself and I’ve been in a class with him all semester so I’m comfortable with his operations.

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I think you should really see one. This won’t end well if you don’t. Trust me.

There’s your answer. Go to him ASAP.

Stop being passive.

Set boundaries and stick to them.

What kinds of people do you want to hang out with?

Define them, on paper, then find them. Ignore those who do not fit the criteria. Adjust as you go.

Pay ZERO attention to the people or behaviors that bother you. Staring at something you hate creates more depression.

Stop that.

More boundaries:

What do you want to be doing with your time?

You don’t need habits. You need choices.

Decide what you wish to be doing and do only that. Think of nothing else.

Stay active on that.

Do more of the things that create progress in your life, stop doing the things that do not (no matter how small).

Pretty easy.

This is the magic bullet. Name your goal and do ONLY the things that bring you closer to it.

Do what works. Stop doing what does not work.

Don’t think about what i’ve told you. Shut off your computer and go do it.
I don’t know that exercise helped bring me out of a 6-7year depression, but it gave me a huge goal to chase down. I started at 138lb and today I’m up to 189lb at roughly 11% fat. It not only taught me how to set a remarkably challenging goal, but I look pretty awesome right now too. I remember the first time I went in there, I was so afraid, and could only get about 135lb up on deadlifts. I pulled 315×5 this week.

The gym taught me to do something challenging, and without a doubt the most difficult and demanding process I’ve taken in my life.
Believe it or not, psychiatrist are finding that pornagraphy in a respectful manner is very therapeutic for many males with chronic depression. Depressed males are give stimulants to enhance the lack of dopamine in the brain. Pornagraphy has the same effect.

Although they will not recomend this if the person has sexual identity issues.

I say, keep feeling like daffy duck in your Avatar and you should feel alot better.

BTW I have the same problem!

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