Anger fucking management

Every little fucking thing is setting me off these days and I need a way to cope until I get to the Dr on Thursday and go through my initial therapist appointment in 3 weeks. Then its another Goddamn 4 weeks before a psychiatrist has an open appointment.

I’m going fucking nuts. I’m type 2 bi-polar and I’m on Depakote but its obviously not working. I have a physical on Thursday and will talk to the family doc at that time about a new med or something but man someone help me in the mean time please. I’m about to crack. Everything is setting me off. I am seriously afraid I’m going to unleash on someone soon and I really don’t want that and I’m sure someone else doesn’t want a 6 foot 3 inch 275 pound angry white boy going off on them either.

Thank you in advance. HELP PLEASE!!

go running/biking? Something like that where you can be by yourself and just drain it out of you through physical activity.

I dunno.
get an assault charge and the courts will make you goto a class
You need to transform your negative energy into doing something positive.

Buy yourself a punching bag if you have to and unleash your negativity in it, NEVER release your negativity on people.

Imagine you have a lot of negative energy, build something. Use that negative extra energy you have into doing something constructive.

275 @ 6 foot 3 is overweight, and someone recommended physical exercise to you. How is that not constructive? Not what you wanted to hear?

hell, it doesn’t have to be exercise to lose weight…just a way to be by yourself, clear your head, and drain away that anxiety and stress.
Holy anger problem. You do need to exercise in some way man…

Man, last week i almost made this same thread, I was in the same the boat, pretty much felt the way you did.

Here’s what i did:
after work i went straight to the gym, worked out for 2 hours till i just went home and would pass out. I also signed up for some martial arts classes (krav maga).

I just wanted to fight everyone, break stuff, etc and thats been a good outlet.

even tried yoga to help relax, but the hippie instructor with an "Affliction" t-shirt was just pissing me off. Seriously, who the fuck wears an Affliction shirt to a Yoga class let alone teaches one? but you gotta stay active and out of the house…dont give your mind time to dwell or focus on the crap thats bothering you. Eventually you’ll have to sit down with yourself and resolve whats bothering you, but while your this pissed its best to just focus your energy elsewhere until you get to the shrink.

Matt gave you some constructive advice.
So did Yuppy, in his own unique way.

Are you on any medication now?

Just walk then.
Seriously. This isn’t brain surgery. Just find a place to walk to and walk there and back.

Excersizing is a good way of clearing out those demons. It is good advice.
I say get angry, express it. Write it out, work it out, talk it out, find out where the anger is coming from. Is this a psychiatric problem, or a "living" problem.

Suppressing anger creates more anger based on my experience, whereas expressing anger in a positive controlled way is helpful. The more you suppress anger, the more it builds.

I say get angry, express it. Write it out, work it out, talk it out, find out where the anger is coming from. Is this a psychiatric problem, or a "living" problem.

Suppressing anger creates more anger based on my experience, whereas expressing anger in a positive controlled way is helpful. The more you suppress anger, the more it builds.

Oh I know exactly where the anger is coming from but she (The Wife) says its me and will never listen to me telling her what makes me insane is X, Y, Z that she does and A, B, C that she never does. If she did and did not do those things we would be perfect.

If you want me to write more I can tomorrow but I have to get to bed as 630 comes very early.

Oh I know exactly where the anger is coming from but she (The Wife) says its me and will never listen to me telling her what makes me insane is X, Y, Z that she does and A, B, C that she never does. If she did and did not do those things we would be perfect.

If you want me to write more I can tomorrow but I have to get to bed as 630 comes very early.

Because obviously the source of all anger and problems is the wife and absolutely none of it has to do with your inability to control your temper.

It sounds like you both need to go to marriage counseling and learn how to communicate.

Oh I know exactly where the anger is coming from but she (The Wife) says its me and will never listen to me telling her what makes me insane is X, Y, Z that she does and A, B, C that she never does. If she did and did not do those things we would be perfect.

If you want me to write more I can tomorrow but I have to get to bed as 630 comes very early.

Sure, tell me more.

I’ve heard it said many times and I fully believe it…that when you are pointing a finger at someone else, there are 3 more pointing back at you and that’s where the real problem lies. I know….it’s easy to believe it’s your wife that’s all fucked up but let’s be honest….if she was out of the picture, you’d simply find something else as "the reason"…right?

Do you drink much alcohol?

If you want me to write more I can tomorrow but I have to get to bed as 630 comes very early.

Sure…write as much as you can or feel like. Purge man….let it out.
I agree with Cootie, we can’t change other people, but we can change ourselves and look at how we’re responding to others. We must accept the things we can’t change, but always seek to change the things we can.

Think about it like this. Are you trying to solve the problem, or are you trying to prove a point? The end result is all that really ever matters to most people, but they live each argument as though it’s a point to be proven, an "I’m right, you’re wrong." conflict.

To solve most problems requires really thinking hard about what is rational and realistic to ask of another person, as well as looking at what we’ve already said or asked, and the response we received from the other person. If the other person is unwilling to give us what we want, we can’t force them to give it to us, so we must find another way to have our need or want met.

If someone is behaving in ways that are unacceptable in a relationship and they’ve been asked to stop, then separating from them is sometimes necessary. Ultimatums are not acceptable, rather simply choosing to leave without saying a word is often the most useful — especially after you’ve been clear and said what you wanted.

It’s important to look at ourselves, take responsibility for our errors in the past — whether we’ve lost our temper, hit, blamed, or otherwise damaged another with our words or actions. Making ammends is critical, and we must mean it — because ultimately the more we’ve tried to get what we want and tried to control situations, the more out of control we were behaving, and that’s always our choice, it’s always our responsibility.

If someone is behaving in an unacceptable way, it doesn’t release us from our responsibility, so if we respond to them with unacceptable behavior, we’re as much if not more accountable.

Getting angry is ok, but that anger must be managed effectively for it to be productive. Anger is a motivator, it’s a cry of help often too. Get angry, express yourself, but do it without screaming, blaming, attacking, manipulating, condemning, guilting, and you’ll find people are far more inclined to listen, and even if they don’t listen or respond in a way you wanted, you can walk away knowing you’re blameless.
i was on geodon for 2 years, and it was constant ups and downs. i was constantly irrational. i tried abilify, and so far i’ve been much better. maybe talk to them about that, but each person is different. oh and abilify is known to have lesser side effects from what i’ve been told, which is a plus for me.

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