I think I am jealous of my friend

I don’t know why, but this guy steps in the biggest pile of shit you can imagine. He’s 30, lives at home with his mom, step-dad and grandparents, doesn’t have a bank account, broke as all hell (he’s down to owing me $700 from a $3000 sort of loan 2 years ago now), tall and skinny as a stick, does lots of gross things, no female that I know would even give him the time of day… but yet…

-He got a job at a large pharm company in their IT department. His knowledge came from me teaching him everything and offering him advice on problems, and yet I restructured his resume to include some skills that I know I have. Yes, a good friend I am… but, I feel I should have had this job years ago and they wouldn’t even take a whiff at me, and I am more than qualified. granted, I like where I am and have been there for 7 years now (working IT) but still.

-He now has a gf, this is his second gf in as many years. I don’t get it. He can still pull the same bullshit moves off at 30 years old that he did when he was 21 and get the gf. On top of this, he signed up on match and met her there in two weeks. I’ve been on that thing since October (actually have profile longer than that) and while I’ve had interesting dates, I don’t have a gf at the moment and I am on more than 1 site.

Yeah, so I’m either jealous or frustrated that this guy still has too much good luck on his side. I need some of it to come to my side. By the way, I’m cancelling my subs to the paid singles site. I’ve got nothing but fat, ugly girls to hit on me… which I am not into (sorry, no offense to those who like that, just not my thing, I need a physical attraction)
So the question is why?

The answer is that you need to follow your own advice. I think you could have had it made also if you would act much more on your own thinking pattern, i often say it doesn’t matter if you are extremely smart, if you don’t pair your thoughts with action then you still get nothing done.

I think that guy might not be so smart, but he was smart enough to act upon your words, the question is are you smart enough to act upon your own words? I think you wouldn’t need to be jealous of him in that case then, because you would have earned and received all those things yourself too,.

I don’t know why, but this guy steps in the biggest pile of shit you can imagine. He’s 30, lives at home with his mom, step-dad and grandparents, doesn’t have a bank account, broke as all hell (he’s down to owing me $700 from a $3000 sort of loan 2 years ago now), tall and skinny as a stick, does lots of gross things, no female that I know would even give him the time of day… but yet…

-He got a job at a large pharm company in their IT department. His knowledge came from me teaching him everything and offering him advice on problems, and yet I restructured his resume to include some skills that I know I have. Yes, a good friend I am… but, I feel I should have had this job years ago and they wouldn’t even take a whiff at me, and I am more than qualified. granted, I like where I am and have been there for 7 years now (working IT) but still.

-He now has a gf, this is his second gf in as many years. I don’t get it. He can still pull the same bullshit moves off at 30 years old that he did when he was 21 and get the gf. On top of this, he signed up on match and met her there in two weeks. I’ve been on that thing since October (actually have profile longer than that) and while I’ve had interesting dates, I don’t have a gf at the moment and I am on more than 1 site.

Yeah, so I’m either jealous or frustrated that this guy still has too much good luck on his side. I need some of it to come to my side. By the way, I’m cancelling my subs to the paid singles site. I’ve got nothing but fat, ugly girls to hit on me… which I am not into (sorry, no offense to those who like that, just not my thing, I need a physical attraction)

You’re probably a lot smarter than him in some areas, but he might be better in others. I don’t think it has anythign to do with luck, he might just be better with people. Pay attention to what it is he does and how he acts that makes people want to hire him/be his girlfriend. You loaned him $3000 even though it sounds like he has no collateral. There must be something about him that makes him seem trustworthy and admirable.

I have a friend like this too. Even though im "smarter" than him, I was and always will be amazed at his ability to make people feel good and want to be around him. I’ll prolly always be a little jealous of that too.

Sounds like you resent him, not necessarily that you’re jealous. You’ve spent the first paragraph telling us that he’s basically a loser. I don’t necessarily think that, but it’s the message you’ve conveyed.

-He got a job at a large pharm company in their IT department. His knowledge came from me teaching him everything and offering him advice on problems, and yet I restructured his resume to include some skills that I know I have. Yes, a good friend I am… but, I feel I should have had this job years ago and they wouldn’t even take a whiff at me, and I am more than qualified. granted, I like where I am and have been there for 7 years now (working IT) but still.

And here is where the resentment comes from. He’s taken all the opportunities offered to him, including the knowledge given, the job he applied for and he was successful in implementing them.

-He now has a gf, this is his second gf in as many years. I don’t get it. He can still pull the same bullshit moves off at 30 years old that he did when he was 21 and get the gf. On top of this, he signed up on match and met her there in two weeks. I’ve been on that thing since October (actually have profile longer than that) and while I’ve had interesting dates, I don’t have a gf at the moment and I am on more than 1 site.

Sounds like he remains youthful and enjoys remaining where he was at those ages. I’m like that too. I prefer to stay younger, but the reality is, as I age, all the signs are showing. It’s inevitable for me, and for him. He signed up at a website, and coincidentally a girl who appreciated his personality and his way of doing things just happened to come along. He took the opportunity once again.

Yeah, so I’m either jealous or frustrated that this guy still has too much good luck on his side. I need some of it to come to my side. By the way, I’m cancelling my subs to the paid singles site. I’ve got nothing but fat, ugly girls to hit on me… which I am not into (sorry, no offense to those who like that, just not my thing, I need a physical attraction)

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It’s not luck which has brought him success, but rather hard work and taking the opportunities that many of us do in-fact receive. As far as attractive women not contacting you, you can’t really expect much from online dating sites. For every attractive woman, there are 5 guys veying for her attention. She’s going to be picked up quickly.

You have to either learn to be more patient and to take opportunities on your own terms, or continue believing that fate and "luck" lead to success. Everyone I’ve ever seen who has become successful in various parts of their lives worked really hard. In the end however people said "Wow you’re lucky." — it rarely has anything to do with luck.
story of my life. Just sit back and try to enjoy the happiness surrounding the miserable bubble your in.

I don’t know why, but this guy steps in the biggest pile of shit you can imagine. He’s 30, lives at home with his mom, step-dad and grandparents, doesn’t have a bank account, broke as all hell (he’s down to owing me $700 from a $3000 sort of loan 2 years ago now), tall and skinny as a stick, does lots of gross things, no female that I know would even give him the time of day… but yet…

-He got a job at a large pharm company in their IT department. His knowledge came from me teaching him everything and offering him advice on problems, and yet I restructured his resume to include some skills that I know I have. Yes, a good friend I am… but, I feel I should have had this job years ago and they wouldn’t even take a whiff at me, and I am more than qualified. granted, I like where I am and have been there for 7 years now (working IT) but still.

-He now has a gf, this is his second gf in as many years. I don’t get it. He can still pull the same bullshit moves off at 30 years old that he did when he was 21 and get the gf. On top of this, he signed up on match and met her there in two weeks. I’ve been on that thing since October (actually have profile longer than that) and while I’ve had interesting dates, I don’t have a gf at the moment and I am on more than 1 site.

Yeah, so I’m either jealous or frustrated that this guy still has too much good luck on his side. I need some of it to come to my side. By the way, I’m cancelling my subs to the paid singles site. I’ve got nothing but fat, ugly girls to hit on me… which I am not into (sorry, no offense to those who like that, just not my thing, I need a physical attraction)

instead of spending your time/energy resenting him for what he has or being jealous or what not, work on getting what you want.

Saying "it’s just not fair!’ does nothing to change anything.
I’m going to comment on one thing:

Instead of sitting on a bunch of websites waiting for it to match you with someone, why don’t you go out into this forsaken "world" that has screwed you and find someone to spend your life with?

Just a thought.

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