I’m back again for some more advice. I know my friends and family in real life would probably make fun of me anyway.

My question is, is it okay to simply "be"? I prefer to stay alone and come out of my shell whenever I feel like it. Kind of hard to change, lol. I’ve realized in social situations (which I despise), if I try to keep to myself, I get picked on no matter what. Perhaps it’s because it’s noticeable and distracting to see someone who looks down? I’ve seen people like me and it does bother me too a bit.

I just haven’t the energy to be an outgoing person. I’ve tried it, got good results one time, but then I realized that it was draining. I remember I had to sleep the whole day after a few hours of speaking!

I’m a useless wreck, imo. On the brink of insanity, wanting to go 100mph on the highway and jump off-type craziness because I’m generally unhappy. Parents constantly pick on me, the few people I know think I’m weird as well. I just wish I was as special as everyone else around me. And I still beat myself over it each day.

I guess I haven’t quite nailed what my personality is like yet. I’m pretty close to achieving something right now, but I’m holding off until I do. It’s almost like an unknown puzzle, trying to fit pieces together to produce a clearer picture than what I see now. Trying to figure out a role or purpose to this life, because obviously I have no personality, hardly any useful intelligence or social skills.

If I could simply "be" and choose to live the life of a mindless drone, I would. However, there are outside forces which I cannot control that disturb or interfere with my existence. Whilst blocking out my normal emotions, such as finding love or making new friends (which kinda hurts), I simply want to "be" and do what I can to get past school/work. If that makes any sense.

Was that supposed to be sarcastic? … tbh, that kind of stung.

Actually, I’ve already done that stuff before. But, I probably could see one again as it’s been over two or three years now I think.
How old are you?

I remember feeling like that still a few years ago. I’m 23 now and all that stuff kinda just doesn’t really matter to me anymore, I just do the things I want or if I don’t feel right in a situation, I just leave. I do still run into situations where I just feel out of place, but eventually you just realize that that happends for everyone, and it stops carrying as much weight.

Self help in the way of learning body language and just how to carry conversations with people will go a long way but that stuff takes a while so get started on it soon.

Highly doubt she was being sarcastic.

You need help, A therapist would give that to you. Simply being for the sake of being isn’t what you really want, is it?
There are 2 kinds of people… extroverts and introverts…

Extroverts get "recharged" by being around and socializing with other people…

Introverts get "recharged" by isolating themselves from other people…

The problem is we live in a society that isn’t very accepting of introverts.

Just try to be comfortable with yourself and socialize as much as you can. No one is expecting you to be extremely outgoing. But when you need to "recharge" don’t be ashamed about it. Just be aware that staying in your shell for too long can bring dark bouts of depression that no one should have to experience…
i love to be alone too. its not weird. its weird to HAVE to be around people all the time. I am incredible in social situations, but I prefer to be alone most of the time.

theres nothing wrong with what you are doing, so long as you dont act on some of those crazier ideas.
Yeah to a certain degree I think it’s ok to understand your own comfort level. I think that’s actually good to know where you’re at now.

But simply just "being" or asking to be a mindless drone just simply something that isn’t as rewarding as you might think it is now. Just asking those around you to leave you be, is simply just pushing away the very challenges that help us learn how to get the things you want (whether it be love, health, friends, money, career, graduation, etc.)

It would be a bit like playing a video game that had no levels, no goals, nothing to achieve, nothing to attain….that’s how you get stuck in a rut where you think "what’s the point?". Life just isn’t like that, there’s just chalk full of things to accomplish out there…but you have to make the choice to go out and grab it.

No, I was being dead serious. You have honestly never considered therapy for your issues? That’s your problem right there.

Not very nice people.

You are who you are, and you can’t change that just because you intellectually know it. If you wanted to change that behavior it would take time. So therefore, accepting things as they are now is a good idea, it helps alleviate stress and allows you to begin actually working on the issue as you’re able.

It’s not worth it to attempt to fake something so widespread. Currently you have an introverted personality, and you need space and time alone, but it appears this isn’t entirely a natural way of being for you. I suspect you’re stressed and forced further into that world of being alone because of the psychological and social things that are upsetting you.

That’s sad and unfortunate that you’re going through such feelings, because the reality is you’re just as valid as anyone else. It sounds like you’re dealing with some serious stuff. The fact that your parents pick on you worries me. Good parents don’t hurt their kids psychologically or physically.

That’s pretty irrational. You have a personality — everyone who is conscious and capable of any type of communication has a personality. You’ve just conveyed yours in this post. I would also say you’d clearly have "some" useful intelligence and social skills otherwise you couldn’t communicate the things you’ve said in this post.

You can "be" who you are, but you can’t be a mindless drone since you have a mind and you have feelings about that mind. You’re not unique in the sense of the emotions you have to work with, or the mind you work with — we all have a "spectrum" of ability. We arne’t infinite and all knowing or capable of doing everything. At worst you’re average based on what I’ve noted here, but at best you’re someone with a lot of potential.

You sound like you’re being pressured by people around you, and you feel isolated. The reality is that you are who you are, events around you, and nature made you that way. While you might not like it, there is nothing wrong with accepting the truth. However you seem to also distort the truth by saying and thinking that you’re less then you are.

You’re just like me, the difference appears to be that that upsets you, where as it doesn’t upset me. And I suspect most people are like me and you, which means a lot of them probably feel the same way you do. A lot of people are good at hiding their true feelings, and you might be more honest about your confusion, isolation, unhappiness etc.

I would suggest talking more about this here in this forum, but also consider seeing someone for ongoing counseling to help you move through this. Whatever has led to you feeling this way can be worked out. You’re not crazy, you’re not stupid, and you’re certainly not hopelessly doomed to stay feeling this way.
It’s a dicey situation with people that have social disorders… Most never seek therapy if it is needed due to anxiety and fear of social interactions. Posting his thread was his way of getting some therapy…
Thanks for the responses. I see them and I agree with most of them. Will be back if anyone is interested to see my replies. Again, thanks.
fuck therapists dude, and fuck drugs too (unless its recreational). motherfuck people who hassle and want to change you.

having said that, if you dont know who you are…nobody can help you but yourself. The best I can do is tell you to find something you enjoy doing, and put your energy into that.

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