need some input on a girl im really into

this is probably gonna sound like some stupid teenage bs cause im gonna try and make it quick but whatever.

ok so heres the deal…this girl and i have been friends for a few months and within about the past month-moth and a half it became aparent that we like eachother. so weve been kinda dating for the past three weeks, but thats the thing. i dont think she considers it dating, but i feel like it totally is. we go to dinner, hang out at eachothers place, and have a good time every time. when she was asked are we dating by a friend she answered "no, not really." but at the same time i kinda think she feels like its dating inside herself, we just havnt really officially called it that with eachother. which leads me to another thing which is i dont know if shes looking to be in a relationship with anyone right now since shes hesitant about calling us dating. so yeah i know i need to talk to her about it but im afraid of things getting awkward after we do because i know that im really into this girl alot.

ugh, this is rough….if anything it helped getting it off my chest
It’s better than you figure it out now, rather than 4 months into your "possible dating" situation. Don’t be afraid to talk to her because you’re scared of what she might say.

I think you need to be honest, tell her you’re getting mixed signals from her, and ask her how she feels about you.

It’s better than you figure it out now, rather than 4 months into your "possible dating" situation. Don’t be afraid to talk to her because you’re scared of what she might say.

I think you need to be honest, tell her you’re getting mixed signals from her, and ask her how she feels about you.

so you dont think its too early to being somehting like this up?
I think it’s better that you figure it out now, rather than later. If you’re still hanging out in a few months, and you’re still unsure about what’s going on, it’ll be even more awkward to bring it up then.
i dont want to scare her away by her thinking im becoming attached so fast, and im thinking that shell think this if i bring it up
dating for a few weeks? no attempt to take the relationship to the next level?

yeah, i thought she would try and advance it but hasnt yet and if i do im afraid that shell think im getting too atached because i think shes suspects me as being that kind of person.

oh and yay for 1000th post

yeah, i thought she would try and advance it but hasnt yet and if i do im afraid that shell think im getting too atached because i think shes suspects me as being that kind of person.

oh and yay for 1000th post

no wonder. I spent years expecting/hoping the girl would make the first move. 99% of the time, they won’t and it’s your job to do it. She’s probably waiting for you to do it.

I highly doubt she’ll think you’re too attached just because you try to kiss her or something. Even if she does, are you happier sitting in limbo like this?
ok well heres a little more into the story, and is what leads me to believe that she doesnt wanna get more serious with me.

she still lives at home with her parents, and her parents are hardcore southern baptist and hates her daing anyone older than herself (yeah shes 17) . shes been in a relationship with someone of my age before and shes told me how hard it is to sneak around her parents just to date someone and i think thats whats holding her back.

ok well heres a little more into the story, and is what leads me to believe that she doesnt wanna get more serious with me.

she still lives at home with her parents, and her parents are hardcore southern baptist and hates her daing anyone older than herself (yeah shes 17) . shes been in a relationship with someone of my age before and shes told me how hard it is to sneak around her parents just to date someone and i think thats whats holding her back.

that doesn’t necessarily mean she’s not interested in dating. anyway, the point is, you don’t know and this far into it, you’d better figure it out. wouldn’t it be something if she was interested and walked away because she got tired of waiting for you to make a move?
wow, your seeing her for a few weeks and didnt even kiss her?

no ive kissed her

and actually weve already had sex, so yeah…
How old are you?

And if she doesn’t think you’re dating then you’re not, it’s that simple. You’re wasting your time if you’re waiting for her to take it to the next level.
Do what teenagers do and say "will u be my gf??" and give her a spider ring from the $.25 machine.

no ive kissed her

and actually weve already had sex, so yeah…

odds are you’re dating. going out, kissing, fucking.

The last time I got a toy ring was in kindergarten and it was a Ring Pop. We were "married" and then promptly got "divorced" when I ate my wedding ring.

Dude, just ask her straight out. Being straight forward with her isn’t being clingy.

How old are you?

And if she doesn’t think you’re dating then you’re not, it’s that simple. You’re wasting your time if you’re waiting for her to take it to the next level.

im 20
and yeah i know, i dont really wanna waste my time and emotions on this

Do what teenagers do and say "will u be my gf??" and give her a spider ring from the $.25 machine.

hah id so do that if i could

odds are you’re dating. going out, kissing, fucking.

i know, now that youve said that..wow we do meet the requirements of dating, dunno why i never realy thought about that …and i dont know why the hell were not "officially" dating. fuck. im definately gonna have to tlak with her

im 20
and yeah i know, i dont really wanna waste my time and emotions on this

hah id so do that if i could

i know, now that youve said that..wow we do meet the requirements of dating, dunno why i never realy thought about that …and i dont know why the hell were not "officially" dating. fuck. im definately gonna have to tlak with her

yeah, be sure to think it through though. maybe with all the hiding she has to do from her family, official isn’t the best thing in her mind? who knows. you’ll find out.
ok so i talked to her last night…stayed up to like 230 talking..and heres the deal

the reason we havnt really moved into the official dating thing is cause she still has feelings for her ex. i kinda felt this was possible but i thought she had moved on since she was acting so strongly towards me. she said that they cant really be together until shes 18 (cause of the parent thing, hes 21) and thats what theyre both waiting on. they still like eachother..shes still infatuated with him even though it sounds like they both just string eachother along when they keep breaking up which is why they cant getover eachother. she did say that she really did develope feelings for me really bad and she diddnt really mean for that to happen since she plans on getting back with her ex within about a year. and that basically i filled the void since theyre not together right now.

so yeah ive been used…
and now i will drink
Dawson: You know that Julie chick? Loves you. You want her? Gotta play it cool, you know. You can’t let her know how much you like her. cause if she knows, she’ll dump you like that. Believe me. Like, if she asks you if you want a ride, you say, "No, I’ve got my own ride, but maybe I’ll see you later." Sounds stupid, doesn’t it? It works.
If you like a chick, be a fucking man about it.

should I explain further?

If you like a chick, be a fucking man about it.

should I explain further?

if you feeel the need to…

im the one who steped up and talked to her about it all though instead of waiting for her and letting her string me along any further

if you feeel the need to…

im the one who steped up and talked to her about it all though instead of waiting for her and letting her string me along any further

bingo, right there. Apparently you and I suck with women.

Step 1 is to talk to every woman you see. Break the convo off whenever you want to…you don’t have to go for broke every time. Step 2 is to realize the newly found power you have with women, and use it to raise your self esteem. Step 3 is to now watch yourself take control of your life, more women will want you, and then you can pick the woman you want to be with, rather than grasp at straws.

I’m still stuck on step 1. The confidence is not there, but now, instead of walking around people at the bar, I can take almost any woman I want, talk to her, and see if I want to continue talking to her. Actually, not almost, I talked to every woman I wanted to last weekend.
Has anything physical ever happened?

Have you kissed?

Held hands?

Has anything physical ever happened?

Have you kissed?

Held hands?

They’ve kissed, fucked, etc.

Are you going to continue seeing her unofficially?

They’ve kissed, fucked, etc.

Are you going to continue seeing her unofficially?

now that ive confronted her about it were both uneasy about the whole thing, her especially we still wanna be friends since were eachothers really good friend but we all know how that goes.

we talked about it kinda though, but now were just kinda seeing where its going

now that ive confronted her about it were both uneasy about the whole thing, her especially we still wanna be friends since were eachothers really good friend but we all know how that goes.

we talked about it kinda though, but now were just kinda seeing where its going

you need to open up yourself to women that you don’t have a mixed emotions with. I go after women I don’t know, and if they don’t want to me my romantic interest, they’re out.

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