Seriously…whats wrong with a Vegas wedding?

Have any of you done a vegas wedding, or been to one?

My finance and I are leaning that direction because of the high costs of "real" weddings in socal but my dad is less than thrilled. thinks its tacky, seems to think its not the same thing.

we are perfectly happy with anything, as long as we say vows and its official.

anyone have any been there done that advice on this one?
A shotgun wedding doesn’t play up the severity of the decision you’re making.

If you don’t want a big wedding, just do the whole church wedding thing minus the guests.
its not shotgun at all. we are thinking about November of this year, just dont want to go in debt over this.

is that everyones first thought about vegas, that its not well thought through?
they can be real nice.. has sort of a cheeky feel to it when you say "Vegas wedding’ but I knew a few people who had pretty nice, small weddings there.
Nothing wrong with it, do what makes you happy. That being said, make sure you’re not settling. If you want the bigger wedding, save and have it. This isn’t something that has to rushed into and its not something you can redo later. Its a memory that will be with you forever.

did any of them every mention later that they wished they would have done it differently?

i have a couple co-workers who have been telling me they had a big wedding and if they could do it all over again would run away to vegas. i just was looking for an opinion on the opposite end of this, seeing if any vegas people wished they would have done it backwards as well.

A shotgun wedding doesn’t play up the severity of the decision you’re making.

If you don’t want a big wedding, just do the whole church wedding thing minus the guests.

Severity of the decision? And what shotgun wedding? What the hell are you talking about?

My cousin got married in Vegas a few years ago. He flew his family out there (there were 13 of us total) it was great! We just went for the weekend. Went to the wedding on Saturday, Saturday night my dad took everyone out for dinner, we played in Vegas all night and left Sunday. They went on their honeymoon and we all went home. It was so fun Low key, inexpensive, just close family- I’d do it in a heart beat.

It’s your wedding, do what you want- especially if you guys are the ones paying for it.
Lots of people don’t like steering away from traditional. When I think vegas wedding I think like Elvis. I am sure its not that. People are just stuck in the stereotype of a vegas wedding.
Nothing’s wrong with Vegas weddings, but I guarantee you’ll hear comments about it the rest of your marriage if you’re getting married a la Little Chapel style….

If you want something small, why not get married somewhere (not in a church) by a justice of the priest or minister (depending on your religion) and then just have a dinner with close family?
This topic was in another thread. They were very happy with their wedding. They found a nice place at one of the hotels, it was small but classy!

Why not just get married at the court house or whatever and then have a fun party/get together for your friends and family that matter?

It’s super cheap and you don’t have to spend on an elaborate wedding. In fact, you don’t even have to spend the money Vegas would cost.

Why not just get married at the court house or whatever and then have a fun party/get together for your friends and family that matter?

It’s super cheap and you don’t have to spend on an elaborate wedding. In fact, you don’t even have to spend the money Vegas would cost.

With Vegas, you have the wedding & honeymoon covered maybe.
the only problem IMO is if you can’t get The Flying Elvis’ to join you. It just wouldn’t be complete.

This topic was in another thread. They were very happy with their wedding. They found a nice place at one of the hotels, it was small but classy!

thats what we were thinking of doing as well. some of the hotels have really cheesy chapels, but some have nice garden areas that look really pretty

Why not just get married at the court house or whatever and then have a fun party/get together for your friends and family that matter?

It’s super cheap and you don’t have to spend on an elaborate wedding. In fact, you don’t even have to spend the money Vegas would cost.

that was one of our thoughts, but the most exepensive part of the whole thing is the reception. we originally wanted to have it in my dads backyard, but its not large enough to fit our guest list, and we cant cut it down any farther (beacuse of who my dad insists is on the list…) The cost of renting a location plus the table rentals, cateering, etc and we might as well have a ceremony attached to it for a couple hundred more. and its all still out of our price range

i am just sort of surprised at peoples responses. my dad and stepmom are the only people i know who have an issue with this, and i thought they were just being crazy. i guess a lot of people still have bad thoughts about vegas weddings

thats what we were thinking of doing as well. some of the hotels have really cheesy chapels, but some have nice garden areas that look really pretty

that was one of our thoughts, but the most exepensive part of the whole thing is the reception. we originally wanted to have it in my dads backyard, but its not large enough to fit our guest list, and we cant cut it down any farther (beacuse of who my dad insists is on the list…) The cost of renting a location plus the table rentals, cateering, etc and we might as well have a ceremony attached to it for a couple hundred more. and its all still out of our price range

i am just sort of surprised at peoples responses. my dad and stepmom are the only people i know who have an issue with this, and i thought they were just being crazy. i guess a lot of people still have bad thoughts about vegas weddings

There is a difference between a Vegas wedding at the drive-thru chapel or Elvis-hosted chapel….and picking a hotel in Vegas with a room where the ceremony can be held.

Why do you have your heart set on Vegas anyway?

If I were you and wanted to save some money but have fun with your guest list then I would just get the marriage license on our own and then have a reception weekend in Vegas. Basically just have everyone come out to Vegas with you and have a great time; the first night can be your "reception." I think people put too much importance on the "formal" kind of wedding. If you just want a place to celebrate your love with friends and family they don’t necessarily have to see the wedding itself, no one really gives a crap about that part anyway. They just wanna get drunk at the reception.
BTW, my cousin and his wife drove the fam from LA to Vegas. They got married in some hotel and then just celebrated the weekend there. It was extremely laid back and didn’t even resemble a real wedding. When I look at the pictures I wonder why they even bothered having a ceremony since you could barely tell in this room there was a wedding going on.
I wouldn’t say that it’s necessarily bad to get married in Vegas, but I think the connotation of saying you got married in Vegas and it being a drive-through wedding still exists. Probably because the image of Elvis marrying you in a small, commercial chapel has been around for so long. So many people jump to assumptions before looking further…

But, if it’s what you want, do it. They have some really nice chapels in the nicer, bigger hotels/casinos. But, as I mentioned earlier and beer.. why not do it at home? When my mother and stepfather got married they got married outside in a park by a justice of the peace. I think the ceremony cost them a ridiculously low amount (basically marriage certificate + his fees), and then they had a dinner/party (wasn’t really a reception) in the same area with a room for such function. I’m going to say they literally spent under $1500 between the room, food, booze, and a DJ. They just wanted something small and simple because it was both of their second marriages, and they were already in their 40’s. Why not look into something like that? Simple, cheap, and fun..
DasVWBabe posted one of her wedding pics in that thread (that I linked) and it looks like they picked a pretty classy place. Other people posted some good info in there too if your still seriously considering it.

I wouldn’t say that it’s necessarily bad to get married in Vegas, but I think the connotation of saying you got married in Vegas and it being a drive-through wedding still exists. Probably because the image of Elvis marrying you in a small, commercial chapel has been around for so long. So many people jump to assumptions before looking further…

But, if it’s what you want, do it. They have some really nice chapels in the nicer, bigger hotels/casinos. But, as I mentioned earlier and beer.. why not do it at home? When my mother and stepfather got married they got married outside in a park by a justice of the peace. I think the ceremony cost them a ridiculously low amount (basically marriage certificate + his fees), and then they had a dinner/party (wasn’t really a reception) in the same area with a room for such function. I’m going to say they literally spent under $1500 between the room, food, booze, and a DJ. They just wanted something small and simple because it was both of their second marriages, and they were already in their 40’s. Why not look into something like that? Simple, cheap, and fun..

is it cheaper to get married in other parts of the country? i figured a wedding is a wedding basically anywhere you go, but the cheapest i have found in the month and a half i have been researching is @$10K for a ceremony and reception at the same location including site rental, food, and booze. ive looked at parks, and you have to rent the park, along with renting everything you could possibly need for the ceremony and reception including generators for electricity and security guards by the hour for the duration. some places look affordable initially, and then once you add everything in, its the same price as the big hotel down the street.

My sister had a beautiful wedding. They found this really small very cheap flower garden for the ceremony and then had the reception at a local golf club. Golf club had good food and everything was included. Cost them maybe $7000.

But I do agree with Cumstang02. If money is the real issue here why not just wait? What is the rush?
Sorry, offtopic but when I heard vegas wedding I started thinking of Rob Scheider in Chuck/Larry movie
What I am doig is having a reception at some hall, pretty much just a big room with tables and chairs. It costs 200 to rent it, and we have the whole day before to do whatever we want to it. Pretty much plan on making almost everything for the hall, and they allow outside catering so you could even bring in your own food if you wanted (although you would have to have someone with a liquor license work a bar if you wanted it). We are looking at about $10k for everything the wedding entails (church, dress, invitations, decorations, food etc), and that is with a guest list of 300+

part of it is that i’m not sure i could stomach saving every penny for a year or two just to spend it all on one day and start back at zero again. we dont want to go broke over this, nor do we want to spend our entire savings. technically, we have the cash to throw a $20k wedding, but then we would be starting out married life out with no savings whatsoever.

and there isnt really a rush, but i just dont see the point of having an engagement longer than a year. if he propsed and i said yes, its cause we are ready to get married. we dont want a big extravagent thing where we need to book 2 years in advance so there really is no other reason to wait

my dad offered to help, but he either doesnt want to pay the difference or cant afford to pay the difference, so its now up to just us and what we can afford. i’m not opposed to getting married anywhere, this was just an option we found that we can afford and that allows us to have our immediate families and very close friends involved since they all want to be

where are you from?

part of it is that i’m not sure i could stomach saving every penny for a year or two just to spend it all on one day and start back at zero again. we dont want to go broke over this, nor do we want to spend our entire savings. technically, we have the cash to throw a $20k wedding, but then we would be starting out married life out with no savings whatsoever.

and there isnt really a rush, but i just dont see the point of having an engagement longer than a year. if he propsed and i said yes, its cause we are ready to get married. we dont want a big extravagent thing where we need to book 2 years in advance so there really is no other reason to wait

my dad offered to help, but he either doesnt want to pay the difference or cant afford to pay the difference, so its now up to just us and what we can afford. i’m not opposed to getting married anywhere, this was just an option we found that we can afford and that allows us to have our immediate families and very close friends involved since they all want to be

Shit, maybe change your thinking? What’s wrong with being engaged over a year? I’ll probably be engaged for 3 years before I get around to setting up a wedding. That way I can decide to save money if we want something big (most likely not).

Spending over $10k on one day however has always been ridiculous to me. Do some more research on places you can go or have the reception. I mean shit, you live in Irvine. Go do it on the beach.

Shit, maybe change your thinking? What’s wrong with being engaged over a year? I’ll probably be engaged for 3 years before I get around to setting up a wedding. That way I can decide to save money if we want something big (most likely not).

Spending over $10k on one day however has always been ridiculous to me. Do some more research on places you can go or have the reception. I mean shit, you live in Irvine. Go do it on the beach.

i’ve done a ton of research about weddings out here. beach, no beach, hotel, country club, resturant, park, college campus, etc. i guess i’m just at the point where i feel i have left no stone unturned and so vegas seems totally fine to me. i know that we should do whatever makes us happy, i was just curious if other people heard vegas and thought "eww tacky" since i was surprised by my dads reaction, but i guess its a pretty common one afterall

Check the chapels at The Bellagio (where I was married), and the outdoor garden at The Wynn. TTheHotel has an AMAZING location as well, and one of the gals on a diamond forum I’m a member of had hers there. It was beautiful! Pics from her wedding and reception –

Also, if you’re planning a Vegas wedding, we made a long weekend of it, and got married on a Thursday (because the prices are significantly less than a Friday, Saturday, or Sunday wedding.)

Check the chapels at The Bellagio (where I was married), and the outdoor garden at The Wynn. TTheHotel has an AMAZING location as well, and one of the gals on a diamond forum I’m a member of had hers there. It was beautiful! Pics from her wedding and reception –

Also, if you’re planning a Vegas wedding, we made a long weekend of it, and got married on a Thursday (because the prices are significantly less than a Friday, Saturday, or Sunday wedding.)

The Bellagio, Caesars and the Wynn are our top choices right now based on what we have seen on the websites. Its good to hear from someone who has done their wedding at the Bellagio to know it worked out well (especially since i already know my fiance likes your opinion on things, he is mb300e87)

Ohhhhhh, so nice to meet you!

I have to say the Bellagio was soooo incredibly easy. I called them to chat about what they offered for each package, and they were so patient and explained everything to me . . .over and over in some cases.

The whole proess took me about 3 phone calls, 3 or 4 emails, a credit card payment, and that was it. I had about 3 weeks to plan my wedding, and it couldn’t have been more stress free.

Plus, they give you a huge discount on the room at the Bellagio – and we had a NICE room!

The only thing I’d add to the Bellagio package is a freelance photographer. The Bellagio photographer is generally pretty young and inexperienced, and although we did get some nice pictures, we didn’t get any WOW pictures until we did our TTD shoot in Hawaii.

I’ll PM you a link to our photo album, that has pretty much every pic from our entire trip!

Best of luck to you – Vegas was an amazing place to get married.

I’m sure it’s cheaper in some places than others, but sometimes you have to look outside of venues that you wouldn’t normally think of as a wedding spot… I should mention, however, that my mother’s side of the family is uber Italian, and my grandmother cooked for DAYS, so the wedding wasn’t catered. We pretty much bought our own beer, wine, liquor, too, because the room they rented was just that, a room.

But, like I said, they just did it because after living together for 7 years, they didn’t really want to make a big deal of a wedding, it wasn’t a money issue.

I’m sure it’s cheaper in some places than others, but sometimes you have to look outside of venues that you wouldn’t normally think of as a wedding spot… I should mention, however, that my mother’s side of the family is uber Italian, and my grandmother cooked for DAYS, so the wedding wasn’t catered. We pretty much bought our own beer, wine, liquor, too, because the room they rented was just that, a room.

But, like I said, they just did it because after living together for 7 years, they didn’t really want to make a big deal of a wedding, it wasn’t a money issue.

that sounds like an awesome wedding! i tried to convince my family (mom’s side is italian) to cook but they werent having any of that. too bad, cause that would have been perfectly us. good food, good booze and just a casual kick back fun time

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did any of them every mention later that they wished they would have done it differently?

i have a couple co-workers who have been telling me they had a big wedding and if they could do it all over again would run away to vegas. i just was looking for an opinion on the opposite end of this, seeing if any vegas people wished they would have done it backwards as well.

I think it all depends on what you want. Some people want the circus wedding, others want a quiet ceremony their parents/bro and sis and closest friends…. those sorts of things.

I mean, there are chapels at the nice resorts like the Wynn and Mandalay Bay… doesn’t have to be the drive-in chapel…

Exactly..

You could always call a local Italian place though, they might be able to cook some yummy food and hook you up wit a great deal!

But, Vegas is a nice time. I was at a wedding in Vegas recently, and it was gorgeous. Very small and short ceremony/reception. A part of me wished that I wasn’t so hooked on the idea of a big wedding, because a classy, simple wedding like that is so attractive to me.

Exactly..

You could always call a local Italian place though, they might be able to cook some yummy food and hook you up wit a great deal!

But, Vegas is a nice time. I was at a wedding in Vegas recently, and it was gorgeous. Very small and short ceremony/reception. A part of me wished that I wasn’t so hooked on the idea of a big wedding, because a classy, simple wedding like that is so attractive to me.

what part of a big wedding has you hooked? i know its so easy to fall into wanting all those things, since just about every wedding website and magazine is geared towards huge extravegant weddings. before i got engaged, i never wanted anything like that, but once i started looking for ideas, they almost had me roped in to doing something we didnt want.

i still bought a gorgeous dress because i knew no matter where we got married, i wanted to look amazing and take his breath away.

I think it all depends on what you want. Some people want the circus wedding, others want a quiet ceremony their parents/bro and sis and closest friends…. those sorts of things.

I mean, there are chapels at the nice resorts like the Wynn and Mandalay Bay… doesn’t have to be the drive-in chapel…

the quiet ceremony is exactly what we are going for. unfortunately that doesnt = small though. my immediate family is huge and i would really love if they all could be there.

we have found some hotels that have larger chapels or garden areas that can fit up to 100 people. we are going to go check them out to see if they look cheesy or tacky in a few weeks

that was one of our thoughts, but the most exepensive part of the whole thing is the reception. we originally wanted to have it in my dads backyard, but its not large enough to fit our guest list, and we cant cut it down any farther (beacuse of who my dad insists is on the list…)

if your dad is not paying for the wedding then he shouldn’t have a say in who is on the guest list.

if my parents pulled shit like that, I’d be on the red eye to Vegas to get married.
i think spending $50k for a wedding is stupid.

my parents are doing it for each of my two brothers.

crazy. i’m gonna have a small one. spend about ~$10k, and i’ll be happy.

what part of a big wedding has you hooked? i know its so easy to fall into wanting all those things, since just about every wedding website and magazine is geared towards huge extravegant weddings. before i got engaged, i never wanted anything like that, but once i started looking for ideas, they almost had me roped in to doing something we didnt want.

i still bought a gorgeous dress because i knew no matter where we got married, i wanted to look amazing and take his breath away.

I don’t know. I’m a self admitted high maintenance woman, I guess it probably something to do with that. I’ve always wanted a big wedding with great food and an amazing bar that went on into the wee hours of the night..

if your dad is not paying for the wedding then he shouldn’t have a say in who is on the guest list.

if my parents pulled shit like that, I’d be on the red eye to Vegas to get married.

i didnt fight the guest list when i thought he was paying. now that its in our hands, i have said no to him. i totally agree

to me, that sounds like an awesome party. thats what we would have loved to do, but its one of those things if you half ass it, it doesnt have the same effect, and we were not able to do it full out. we went to a wedding a year ago where the alcohol was free flowing and the DJ was awesome and we had the best 5 hours drunk off our asses dancing the whole time. now THATS a wedding
I also don’t like the idea of spending so much money on wedding that it has a negative impact on your quality of life for an extended period of time. For that reason I think it should really be acceptable to have multiple weddings. You have a small and inexpensive one to start. Then, ten years down the road, roll your anniversary into a second wedding. You will have more money and there able to afford a much nicer wedding. All your friends will have more money, and they will bring nicer gifts. There will be kids running around, it’ll be a great time.

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