What is your reason for getting up everyday?

I battled severe depression growing up, but have had it pretty much control over the last 4 years or so (I have my days, but who doesn’t). But I was thinking about stuff the other day and why I should continue on. And I realized that the reason I continue my life, is the hope that tomorrow will be better (which it usually is).

For example, last Friday I crashed pretty hard depression wise. I was driving home late at night and all I could think about was crashing my truck into a brick wall. I’m my mind I knew I was being stupid, but it was hard to control the urges. But I was able to, knowing that the next day will hopefully be better. And you know what? It was! That Saturday I went out with my friends and had an amazing time.

You should see a therapist, seriously. It takes time to find the right one, if the first one sucks, move on. If money is an issue, go through the county health services.
I get up to the same routine every morning in hopes that i make a positive impact in my son’s life. I somehow hope that he’ll she what i do daily, the way i treat people, the way i manage my family and he’ll do the same.
To see what new things I can learn each day, usually.
If you give up now, who’s going to answer the questions you have had?
The fact that my life is awesome after years of making it so.

iwishyouwerebeer ladies and gentlemen

Hey

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those sorts of thoughts aren’t really normal.
You associate pleasure and sensations with happiness.

Your friends will eventually die or stop hanging out with you. All things come to pass.

What then?

If you did not see your friends (which could potentially happen), will you run into a brick wall next time?

I think I have successfully sabotaged two "good friendships". The fact is, I kept running back into the same problems with them, and those problems left me feeling empty. Then again, I get terribly depressed at lack of male companionship.

I had to cut my losses. I had no choice. I will suffer for sacrificing my friends, however there is no such thing as going to the gym or doing anything – besides involvement in drugs. Because they cannot or do not want to leave their apartment, one has a child, the other just prefers to smoke weed and not go to the gym, when he says he wants to give it up and go to the gym.

You need foundation to fall back on.

And quite honestly man, it needs to be you. And not you, as in your personality, as in your Being. There will be times when you need to fall back on something such as meditation or prayer or I don’t know, because your wife may be the reason for your troubles. That is why you can’t fall back on her or him. Clearly I am into spirituality and I fall back on exactly that. It is my foundation stone. It is a ray of hope when the world around me falls into a shit heap. And it works well.

I hate to even bring this quote up but a good metaphor would be from the Bible where they talk about the man who built his house upon sand, and the man who built his house upon a rock.

Sand representing separate, many, different entities…

A rock, representing one.

I’ll leave it there.
I get up in the morning because I have to work on being a better human. My pursuit in life is to make myself better in every way possible. I need to work on my technical skills for my career, my fitness for my health, my personality for my social life, playing the bass guitar as a hobby, etc. etc.

There’s so much to do, and so little time to do it all. I don’t understand people who contemplate suicide… obviously you are feeling depressed or mentally unstable if you have those feelings, why not try to fix that instead of taking the easy way out?

btw, I know fixing such things is damn hard. I know, because it’s taken me a long time to be where I’m at
If it’s weekday, then I get up because I have to go to work.
If it’s weekend, then I get up because I’ve slept enough.

I’m not being sarcastic or anything. You don’t need a high ideal reason to get up in the morning if you are generally happy.
Because I know my life can and will be much more than what it is today.

And because there are a lot of people with really serious issues that threat their life, such as cancer or war, yet they fight to live. Because I don’t have such problems, it’d be really unfair if I just decided I don’t want to live life.

If it’s weekday, then I get up because I have to go to work.
If it’s weekend, then I get up because I’ve slept enough.

I’m not being sarcastic or anything. You don’t need a high ideal reason to get up in the morning if you are generally happy.

same reason here.

i get up because my alarm is going off or i’ve slept enough. once i’m awake and it’s later in the day, i might start to ponder what a great day it is and so forth. however, from being asleep to awake, the only thought going through my head is "ernt ernt ernt ernt ernt ernt".
The reason I keep strong is because my mother gave everything she had and more for me, even when she had nothing to give but love. Even on my worst days, every day I experience something she wished for herself. They may be small, but I have many blessings to count.
I get up each day because it’s inevitable. I know the depression you’re talking about too. Mine is biological, caused by an infectious disease. As the antibiotics do their job, the depression and other symptoms improve, but it’s a very slow and hard journey.

Depression can be caused by so many things, so what I do is go after all of them.

As far as getting up, I do it because I like living, I like being awake, conscious, and choosing who I’m going to be in each moment. It’s an experience to know that the universe is awake and alive through you, seeing itself and reflecting that reality. Unfortunately we’re also susceptible to all the pain and suffering that come with the opportunity of experience.

That’s a fact, no one can deny it.
Because I want to see what the day will offer me. It might be the best day of my life, it might be the worst. I might laugh my ass off for most of the day or feel really down because of something that happened. It might even be one of many "meh" days where nothing exciting, but nothing really terrible happens. But I don’t KNOW what will happen until I get up and live out that day. Who knows, that day could change your entire life if you just allow yourself to be open to the things around you and take any random opportunities that present themselves.
If you didn’t have a reason to get up in the morning, that would be reason enough to get up in the morning… To get a reason.
I get up because I realize how lucky I am to be alive right now. The odds that I even exist and can think about it are so astronomically bad that I am thankful. I never think about killing myself but I get intese bouts of thought about how I don’t know how to give meaning to my life. It get’s bad because there isn’t any universal meaning to life and it’s purpose is whatever the individual makes of it. I am just at a total loss as to what that is for me or how to go about finding it out.

But then I think that I will be gone soon enough and if it takes me my whole life to find that meaning, it will still be a life lived. When this thought hit me for the first time I found myself sleeping better and getting up earlier. It’s this thought that there are no rules or wrong methods on how to live life and that drives me to do basically everything I do, from meeting women to the type of work I am doing.
I just do. Too much of a wuss to kill myself. Too much of a wuss to find/make a reason.
lots of things in life may suck but overall i think its pretty good… i dont have a need to justify continuing living my life with something specific
if im depressed for one reason or another i like to think its just a phase and try to find a way out of it or concentrate on things that are still good like my jobbb…

I battled severe depression growing up, but have had it pretty much control over the last 4 years or so (I have my days, but who doesn’t). But I was thinking about stuff the other day and why I should continue on. And I realized that the reason I continue my life, is the hope that tomorrow will be better (which it usually is).

For example, last Friday I crashed pretty hard depression wise. I was driving home late at night and all I could think about was crashing my truck into a brick wall. I’m my mind I knew I was being stupid, but it was hard to control the urges. But I was able to, knowing that the next day will hopefully be better. And you know what? It was! That Saturday I went out with my friends and had an amazing time.

I spent a semester living alone, next to the beach, at the end of college. I spent most of my time alone, I slept in the living room with the TV on, and when I wasn’t in class or asleep, I was drunk. When I did sleep, I slept until I simply couldn’t keep my eyes closed anymore, despite the splitting headaches I got from staying in bed for 16+ hours. Basically, I hated my life that semester.

Eventually, I realized that the problem was I had grown up with the attitude that I needed validation to feel like something. This applied to everything in my life except four things: eating, sleeping, taking a shit, and riding my bike. (Biking was the one thing, apparently, that I never sought approval for before I’d allow myself to enjoy it.)

I’m not entirely sure how (I do know it involved biking on the beach at night, though), but over the next few months I came to terms with the fact that the validation I expected to get, and wasn’t getting because I was alone, was totally irrelevant; the people I expected to approve of my choices in life were just as mortal as I was: they made mistakes, they had prejudices, they didn’t know everything, and most importantly, they were going to die as surely as I was. Once I acknowledged that the basic constants of my life applied equally to them, I was able to accept that there was nothing special about other people that granted them any right to tell me what I could do with my life.

With that out of the way, I found it much easier to do things simply because I wanted to. Now I get out of bed in the morning either because I have something I want to do, or because I’m not tired anymore and I’m ready for life to throw me a curveball.

Maybe you have the same problem. Think it over.
not sure if it was being raised catholic or what but i just have this feeling that if i keep getting up and living until it’s my time to die then i’ll finally have peace… i know it’s stupid but i feel like if i didnt get up and just let myself fade away then i’d have to live through this hell again and to be honest i dont think i could my luck would have it that no matter what i get to wake up and start this shitty life over and this feeling to keep going on is just built into me to make the agony that much sweeter for whoever is doing this
There is a certain something about being Catholic, isn’t there?
I get up because I live in hope my life will magicly turn around for the better.

I’m pretty sure it never will and i’ll end up leaving a note before long but i guess its keeping me going for the moment.

:/

I get up because I live in hope my life will magicly turn around for the better.

I’m pretty sure it never will and i’ll end up leaving a note before long but i guess its keeping me going for the moment.

:/

Life doesn’t turn around by accident, it requires your conscious effort and choice to increase the probabiliy of results that you want, to happen. And certainly don’t end your life, there are resources and options. You aren’t alone.
I get up everyday because I’m not on the edge trying to decide whether I want to live or die.

I’m alive and when I’m alive I go to bed and when I can’t sleep anymore or when the alarm goes off, I get up. It’s not like I think….FUCK!! The alarm went off and now I have to think of a reason to get up.

I get up because I’m alive. It’s that simple.

I’ve long since realized a few things:
A) I will die eventually, just like everyone else
B) I may only get one go around in this life (if I kill myself, I might have blown the only chance I had)
C) I can create any life that I want
D) What one man has done, another man can do…..or woman.

Now I haven’t always been this way. In fact, when I was 18 my oldest brother killed himself. He was only 32 at the time. 32….that’s so fucking young it’s amazing to me. Not even 2 years later my dad died and my world spiraled out of control.

Now having to face so much heartache and pain at such an early age made me think deeply about life and death. I was staring death in the face on a daily basis. I kept on living, trying to make a better life for myself because I didn’t want to cause my mom or my other siblings anymore pain than they had already been through. That is the only thing that kept me going in those dark days……and I struggled to understand life and death.

I don’t know that I understand it today but I just try to keep it really simple. I’m alive right now. As long as I am, I have another opportunity to make a better life for myself…..but in order to turn that opportunity into a reality, I have to do my part. I can’t lay in bed, hoping that things will get better. I can’t sleep the day away and then pray for some miracle to save me.

If I want a better life, it’s up to me to create it. In order to do so, I need a few things. I need to pick a direction to travel…..in other words, I need to pick a career. There are plenty I just need to pick one and move in that direction. I also need to be patient because correcting what’s wrong in my life takes time and effort. I can’t just decide one day to be different and immediately become that. I must work towards that goal and sometimes it just takes time. Finally, I need perseverance. I need to stay the course when it gets difficult. Just because something is difficult doesn’t mean I’m doing something wrong.

I’ve met a lot of people in life that haven’t accomplished much because they can’t seem to pick something and stick with it. They jump from idea to idea and never just take one idea and run. Others are more in love with the idea of working in some job instead of being in love with the actual work required from that type of job. That is a sure fire way to disappointment.

Ok so you’re depressed and can’t seem to snap out of it. What do you do? You set a routine and follow it no matter what. Regular exercise every day, eat healthy, go to bed at the same time each night and get up at the same time each day. In between these times, pick a path and run with it as best you can from day to day. There is always one more thing you can do….you just have to look for it.

Ok so you’re depressed and can’t seem to snap out of it. What do you do? You set a routine and follow it no matter what. Regular exercise every day, eat healthy, go to bed at the same time each night and get up at the same time each day. In between these times, pick a path and run with it as best you can from day to day. There is always one more thing you can do….you just have to look for it.

i agree 100%.
you just motivated me to do something today. thanks
At the moment nothing. I should get up at 9am and study but I don’t. I have no motivation and I seriously need to find some fast.

I lie in bed until 4am thinking about what it would be like to cut my wrists or what it would be like to stab myself in the heart (seriously)…and then don’t get up till about 11am and piss away the rest of my day.

And no…I’m not emo, I don’t know what the fuck is wrong with me.

Since you asked

i agree 100%.
you just motivated me to do something today. thanks

Cool…I’m glad it helped.

I once had a friend who was an Army Lieutenant and anytime I would complain about something being too difficult or I just didn’t see how I was going to get out of some rut I found myself in, he would always say, "Adjust and overcome". It’s something the Army drills into their heads and it’s a great saying.

Things don’t go the way you want them to, adjust and overcome. Got a huge mountain that you have to climb and you can’t find a way to get started, adjust and overcome. Have a set back on your journey, adjust and overcome. Have a death in the family, adjust and overcome.

It’s a great phrase and it’s helped me in sooooooo many ways though out life.

At the moment nothing. I should get up at 9am and study but I don’t. I have no motivation and I seriously need to find some fast.

I lie in bed until 4am thinking about what it would be like to cut my wrists or what it would be like to stab myself in the heart (seriously)…and then don’t get up till about 11am and piss away the rest of my day.

And no…I’m not emo, I don’t know what the fuck is wrong with me.

Since you asked

IMO what’s wrong with you is you’re not taking action in your life to solve the problems in your life. You’re thinking about what to do instead of doing it. Just take some action, however small, to start you on your way to solving your problem. IMO it doesn’t matter so much WHAT you do so long as you DO something.

Then if you want, either take another action or take a break for 10 minutes. Seriously only allow yourself 10 minutes before you take another action. Do this for one whole hour and see if you don’t feel better. You don’t always have to take a break but you can if you want to….but be hard on yourself and simply don’t allow yourself to take 15 minutes.

Once your hour is done….take the rest of the day off or keep doing things. It’s your choice but I would encourage you to at least try this for 1 hour only. Then if you want to spend more time doing things then go for 3-5 hours repeating the pattern……..unless you’re super motivated.

At the moment nothing. I should get up at 9am and study but I don’t. I have no motivation and I seriously need to find some fast.

I lie in bed until 4am thinking about what it would be like to cut my wrists or what it would be like to stab myself in the heart (seriously)…and then don’t get up till about 11am and piss away the rest of my day.

And no…I’m not emo, I don’t know what the fuck is wrong with me.

Since you asked

That’s very serious. When did this pattern begin? Do you notice other things that stand out to you in regards to your mental or physical health?

IMO what’s wrong with you is you’re not taking action in your life to solve the problems in your life. You’re thinking about what to do instead of doing it. Just take some action, however small, to start you on your way to solving your problem. IMO it doesn’t matter so much WHAT you do so long as you DO something.

Then if you want, either take another action or take a break for 10 minutes. Seriously only allow yourself 10 minutes before you take another action. Do this for one whole hour and see if you don’t feel better. You don’t always have to take a break but you can if you want to….but be hard on yourself and simply don’t allow yourself to take 15 minutes.

Once your hour is done….take the rest of the day off or keep doing things. It’s your choice but I would encourage you to at least try this for 1 hour only. Then if you want to spend more time doing things then go for 3-5 hours repeating the pattern……..unless you’re super motivated.

I will try that tomorrow. Thanks.

Only began recently. I have final exams in about 3 weeks time. When I say finals I mean the exams that decide 65% of my final grade, and I’ve done very very little work for them…even though I know I should be working for them.

I’ve told myself to do some serious work tomorrow though. I will let you all know how I fair though.

*sigh*
Do you know how many times I hear this?

Many people will respond with, "Tomorrow never comes" but I changed it up to better fit the reality I see and that is, "Tomorrow Always Comes…and it looks just like today".

Don’t wait….take action now!! Right this minute….why not do it immediately and change up the times. Don’t do it for 3-5 hours….only do it for 30 minutes….or only do 1 "cycle" of taking action for 10 minutes.

Don’t wait….if you are anything like me, you’ve said, "i’ll do it tomorrow" 11tybillion times and yet I still do NOT take action when the next day comes…why? Because something else comes up or I don’t feel good that day or whatever. It’s really all just one big excuse making machine to keep me stuck in the shit of my life.

Look you want to change your life you are going to have to do things differently. There isn’t some magic transformation that will occur between today and tomorrow. Look the other way….yesterday. What did you say that you would do today…yesterday? Are you doing those things today?? Prolly not. Why? Same thing….excuses.

Stop making excuses, stop delaying, stop putting things off till tomorrow. Take action today….RIGHT THIS MINUTE….for the next 10 minutes just do something to help you start solving 1 problem in your life. Don’t wait.

*sigh*
Do you know how many times I hear this?

Many people will respond with, "Tomorrow never comes" but I changed it up to better fit the reality I see and that is, "Tomorrow Always Comes…and it looks just like today".

Don’t wait….take action now!! Right this minute….why not do it immediately and change up the times. Don’t do it for 3-5 hours….only do it for 30 minutes….or only do 1 "cycle" of taking action for 10 minutes.

Don’t wait….if you are anything like me, you’ve said, "i’ll do it tomorrow" 11tybillion times and yet I still do NOT take action when the next day comes…why? Because something else comes up or I don’t feel good that day or whatever. It’s really all just one big excuse making machine to keep me stuck in the shit of my life.

Look you want to change your life you are going to have to do things differently. There isn’t some magic transformation that will occur between today and tomorrow. Look the other way….yesterday. What did you say that you would do today…yesterday? Are you doing those things today?? Prolly not. Why? Same thing….excuses.

Stop making excuses, stop delaying, stop putting things off till tomorrow. Take action today….RIGHT THIS MINUTE….for the next 10 minutes just do something to help you start solving 1 problem in your life. Don’t wait.

I looked over some past papers and did some tutorial questions for tomorrow which I planned to do tomorrow morning.

I got to pick my parents up from the airport now…please don’t shout at me .

Thanks dude.
I’m trying to find one too…let me know when you do.

I looked over some past papers and did some tutorial questions for tomorrow which I planned to do tomorrow morning.

I got to pick my parents up from the airport now…please don’t shout at me .

Thanks dude.

I’m not shouting at you….I’m trying to help you help yourself. I’m trying to motivate you to not put something off till tomorrow. I’m trying to get you to take action right this minute….which I guess worked because you looked over some papers. Great!! Way to go man!!! You’re on your way.

Why was I so vocal?

Because this moment right now, is all we have. We’re so used to waking up everyday that we take tomorrow for granted. however, tomorrow isn’t promised to anyone. Not only that, each passing minute is simply another opportunity to turn our lives around. Change happens in moments that seem relatively normal and plain. There’s no fanfare, there’s no background music, there’s no slo-mo like we see in movies….it’s just another moment where we decide enough is enough and I’m going to take charge of my life.

When we string enough of these moments together over a long enough period of time, we start to make real and significant changes in our lives. However, when we postpone and delay and put things off till tomorrow, we are more likely to fall back into old patterns of delay.

That’s why I was being assertive with you. But you took action so I’m proud of you. Good job. I would hope that before you go to be you find 10 more minutes to devote to solving your problems.

Good luck and God Bless.

A lot of people are worse off than me physically and mentally. I’m able to think coherently and take care of myself. I never forget that others have lives that are more fucked up than mine and yet they are still productive members of society. Aside from that, I can’t imagine having to die without making a real difference in the world.

It sounds stereotypical and shit, but it is how it is

What? I’m sorry I don’t have the same motivations in my life as you.

ditto x 2

i think that according to iwywb, she fought tooth and nail for the rewards in her life.

You don’t have to apologize to me, it just makes me sad that you feel that way.
right now I’m just killing time until my motor is back from the machine shop so I can triple the power in my miata. I have other goals, but right now I’m kind of tired of my life and would rather just put together a scary fast miata. Over the summer I plan to get a grasp on my career and really get my life moving by owning my own business.
Got up at 9am today. Studied a tiny bit in teh morning, went into uni for a tutorial which last for 3 damn hours…

Now I am studying for a PhD interview tomorrow
I’d rather not get up. There was awhile where I would stay in bed all day. My back ended up atrophying a bit which was embarrassing because I’m supposed to be known as the strong back guy. So my motivation for getting up now is to keep my back (and other parts of my body) strong. See you can’t imagine how content you can be until you lower your expectations so low that every little thing in life becomes so awesome and accomplishing.
i get up everyday and go to a job that i love working at. i look forward to th paycheck that lets me spend money on the things i love in love in life…family, friends, girlfriend, exercise , alcohol and high quality food.

Payday always makes getting up worth it

You gave me the cool ugh.

She’s cool with what you said — because she has no choice but to accept it, but still thinks from her point of view you could be making better choices or doing it differently.
Knowing that it’s all out there and that I just have to find a way to get it
Short and simple for me, I got up today to see tomorrow. I could go through a list of things to give some sort of materialistic value to it, but it’s not about that.
my reason for getting up is three years old. the other is 16. My boys confirm anything in me that has ever been good. some days are harder to get up but every day you do it is going to be one more day you were in control and didn’t have to try to force it to happen. just keep trying. some days are bad but they aren’t always bad. some are worth stickin around for. just keep trying to remember that.
I have some of the same depression "I should just drive my car off a bridge" kind of days but I always try to focus on the times where I say thank God I didn’t. I’m a sports junky so my reason for waking up is to see the scores and check the stats from the night before. Keep living and find your passions. That’s my advise..if anyone wanted it .
I get up every morning becuase i know that right now i am the only person (aside from my mother) who is there to help my dad through the last days of his life. And i know im teh only person hes got throughout the day. Even if he hates me, or doesnt like the fact that he is essentially locked in teh house with me. Its what ive got to do.

Plus i wake up every day waiting for my friend Emily to call me and tell me shes thinking of me, and that she loves me, and hopes i feel better tomorow. Shame she says she will only ever love me as a friend. Dont know what i will do when she finally starts seeing somone.

I also stop and think that i cant be selfish, becuase i cant put my mother through the pain of not only losing her husband, but losing me too. Its not fair to her. So i push on, if for no other reason to help keep those around me happy.

Just hurts when they dont realize im not happy, and things arent right.
Guess that jsut comes as part of being a giver. Its more take, then reciprocate.

Dunno how it will be a couple years from now once Dad and Emily are gone.
i really don’t know anymore. my life pretty much sucks now. i’m not suicidal but at the same time its like why give a f*&%k anymore. I find myself running more and more..which is what i do when i’m upset and sad or depressed. I put my headphones on and run. I mean my grades are going down the drain, this girl i was talking to won’t even look at me anymore, I’m not the best at anything. it makes me like BLAH sometimes.

i agree. sports keep my mind off of everything. my worries and stuff. i think thats why i’m so obsessed with them

You don’t have to be the best to enjoy doing what you do. You just have to stop seeing those who piss on your efforts as somehow being entitled to do so*. Just like you, they’re all going to die someday, no matter how fantastic they are at life, so their opinion is worth the paper it’s printed on.

I woke up this morning after an extensive night out in my friend’s apartment to reply to a text. I walked outside to drive home and got a big whiff of flowery goodness. I realized it was a perfect day to spend riding around on my bike… so that’s what I did for a good 3 or 4 hours. Plus it was the Earth Day Festival, so there were tons of people downtown.

My only qualm was that I couldn’t find anyone to share it with. My friends had shit to do all day, and I was not about to hassle my dating prospects. They need a little break from me.
By th end of this year, I set my goal in opening an event planning company. And I wake up everyday to prepare myself (learn as much as I can) for this day.

So yea, do like I do (and what most people do). Set goals in your life that you really want to achieve. By doing that, not only will you look forward to it, but you’ll work hard to achieve it everyday.

And that’s priceless.
My younger brother and sister. They depend on me, so I have to keep going to be there for them. They’re the only relationships that I have that are the most important to me.

You don’t have to be the best to enjoy doing what you do. You just have to stop seeing those who piss on your efforts as somehow being entitled to do so*. Just like you, they’re all going to die someday, no matter how fantastic they are at life, so their opinion is worth the paper it’s printed on.

thanks. i think thats what i gotta do now. just enjoy it. oh. and it does really help to know they will die too….eventually
My partner whom I live with, the chosen family I have amassed, personal goals and dreams, knowing that sometimes happiness takes a lot of work and it’s better to fight for the things I dream of, or appreciate instead of letting the hoplessness I felt as a teen take over.

Until you look at your credit card statment.
wake up to go to work on my work days, on off days cos i have enough sleep or errands to run
The fact that there are opportunities out there waiting for me to find them
because life is beautiful and i never know what adventures are just around the corner

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