The Asylum Version: Getting married in under 2 months v. Ask me Anything

22, mechanical engineering, male

20, public relations, female

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meant for real advice to give out if anyone wants any, been together 4 years through crazy, crazy shit

22, mechanical engineering, male

20, public relations, female

go

meant for real advice to give out if anyone wants any, been together 4 years through crazy, crazy shit

Crazy shit?

22, mechanical engineering, male

20, public relations, female

go

meant for real advice to give out if anyone wants any, been together 4 years through crazy, crazy shit

How did you propose? Did she expect it? Both of those assume you did the asking in the traditional way, if not, how did yall decided to get married?

Gawd, I am such a fucking girl about this stuff
How long have you been dating?

More questions to follow.
Did you two sign a prenup? Do either of you have enough assets to need a prenup?

Have you been living together? If so, how long?

Why do you feel it’s necessary to get married so young? (not bustin your stones, just wondering)
She is young. Did she go through her wild stage and ready to settle down?
Have you sat down and discussed items such as
-finances (how $ will be divided, who’s responsible for making sure bills are paid)
-chores/who’s responsible for what
-handling emergencies (especially financial emergencies)

How did you propose? Did she expect it? Both of those assume you did the asking in the traditional way, if not, how did yall decided to get married?

Gawd, I am such a fucking girl about this stuff

I did it the old fashioned way, asked her dad about it. Then suprised her on one knree.

How long have you been dating?

More questions to follow.

4 years with a 9 month breakup early on

hs

Did you two sign a prenup? Do either of you have enough assets to need a prenup?

Have you been living together? If so, how long?

Why do you feel it’s necessary to get married so young? (not bustin your stones, just wondering)

prenup, no, neither of us have any money

we aren’t currently living together but we did last summer

I don’t feel it’s really that necessary, but we’ve been engaged for over a year and it seemed like a good time, when we knew our friends and family could make it.

yeah I guess, she’s finishing her junior year of college, she’s had plenty of opportunity to go out do her thing

she’s really good to me and I love her. I crossed that stage at some point of infatuation that seems like love when you are a kid into really knowing I love her. When you want to make her happy for her and not for you.

Have you sat down and discussed items such as
-finances (how $ will be divided, who’s responsible for making sure bills are paid)
-chores/who’s responsible for what
-handling emergencies (especially financial emergencies)

I’ll do finances. We’ll both be working. Other than that, no, we haven’t really arranged anything, luckily we are both cheap and will probably both make alot of money.

Because he wants the post count.

Why not wait until she’s graduated from college and has a job? … and then settle down?
How large of a wedding?

How much is the cost of this wedding?
Is she the kind of woman that lets you shit on her chest?

back for more,

I don’t know how to use them

Because he wants the post count.

Why not wait until she’s graduated from college and has a job? … and then settle down?

frankly, she wanted to get married, and we’ve been engaged for a while. Plus it forces us to deal with the issue with confidence, knowing we are stuck together

a bit, not alot yet, but I am a pretty chill guy, I tend to not get freaked out no matter how drastic the situation
How did you know she was ‘the one’ and what defining point or experience made you sure?

How large of a wedding?

How much is the cost of this wedding?

wedding, will be 150 people ish, reception 120,

cost:

and i don’t know these figures for sure

church- 500
reception hall- 1200
food- 1200
decor- 300? dunno
wedding dress- 800
limo-300-450
my tux- 70 ish (going no jackets, bought stuff on sale)
honeymoon-3100 (jamaica with airfare, sandals, booked a long time ahead of time)
everything else I am doing myself/having friends help me, friend is dj-ing for free

hell balls as yeah, plus I started dating her before she really matured, so I won her over before she got hot. Then I just had to keep people from stealing her away (got alot of angry calls/ emails)

How did you know she was ‘the one’ and what defining point or experience made you sure?

to me, it wasn’t something profound or instant, but eventually I knew I was in love when I started caring more for her than myself really, putting her interests before mine and not for the sake of trying to get in her pants. I’ve always been pretty apathetic towards everything and everyone and so it was a big change to really truly care about someone.
Wow, weddings are expensive. $800 for a dress she will wear one time?

It just seems like a lot of money to spend on a huge dinner party for your friends.

I know every woman on this forum hates me now, but I would have a lot of trouble being persuaded into the idea of spending so much on a wedding.

Wow, weddings are expensive. $800 for a dress she will wear one time?

It just seems like a lot of money to spend on a huge dinner party for your friends.

I know every woman on this forum hates me now, but I would have a lot of trouble being persuaded into the idea of spending so much on a wedding.

girls father pays for wedding, has shit to do with me really

Wow, weddings are expensive. $800 for a dress she will wear one time?

It just seems like a lot of money to spend on a huge dinner party for your friends.

I know every woman on this forum hates me now, but I would have a lot of trouble being persuaded into the idea of spending so much on a wedding.

but yeah i agree, escpecially when you get into people’s expectations. Her mom was pretty much offended when I said I didn’t want to wear a jacket in May. You really get the impression weddings are nothing more than a photo op for some people.
How many serious relationships have you both been in other than w/each other?

Have you considered premarital counseling?
I’ve got to stop dating these girls with mechanic dads or truck driving dads. Where do the daughters of doctors and lawyers hang out at?

suburbs, where you dating girls from?

How many serious relationships have you both been in other than w/each other?

Have you considered premarital counseling?

I’d say i’ve had 1, she’s prolly had 2 or 3
premarital counseling? comon, just because I am on OT doesn’t mean I see shrinks
sounds like a HS match that worked out, i’m happy… good luck man, i only hope one day i can have what you have now.

why not wait till you both finish college and get your careers orientated?
Good luck sounds like you two have a good thing going!
How many girls have you been with other than this girl?

Wow, weddings are expensive. $800 for a dress she will wear one time?

It just seems like a lot of money to spend on a huge dinner party for your friends.

I know every woman on this forum hates me now, but I would have a lot of trouble being persuaded into the idea of spending so much on a wedding.

average wedding costs $30K. I thought it was insane until i tried planning mine and saw how quickly everything added up. Which is why we are now running away to vegas instead….
Congrats. I was married young too and it worked out well.
wow, i’d be terrified. but congrats for being together so long and still being all for eachother. hope all goes well.

HOLLA, WE WANT PRENUP
WE WANT PRENUP
YEEEAAAHHHH, it’s somethin that you need to have cause when she leave you ass she goin’ leave with half

/kanye

prenup, no, neither of us have any money

we aren’t currently living together but we did last summer

this won’t end well

you may not have money now, but you’ll be pretty pissed in a year when she’s taking half your shit. Living together is mandatory before getting married. I’m talking at least a year.

why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?

WAT?

not if she stays in PR …
How did you meet her?

and

Has she cause the loss of any good/best friends?

inorite
OMG i am by no means qualified to give any advice but good god this is so retarded

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Yeah well mine had the chance too and now has decided on a whim she doesnt want to be married and left. Skip marriage, just stay in a committed relationship.

May not come across as well but there are two scenarios here.

Unmarried but together for years- We both plan our lives independently, make independent financial decisions, apply for jobs in different places. Then have to deal with the chaos of meshing those separate lives.

or

Married- We make joint financial and job decisions. I don’t see how we can really continue after college without a serious commitment (marriage or whatever). Buying a house, choosing an area to work in, I doubt either of us would be willing to sacrifice significant cash or employment opportunities without it.

PR people make bank.

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