I know this happened with my cousin. Basically, she had a bf when she went to school out west but was friends with this one guy for a few years. She came back home and her and her bf out west broke it off (he even bought her two cats). Her friend is now her current bf who she bought a house with and has been going out with for almost 4 years after it was done out west.

The reason why I am asking this, because I think a similar situation may be happening with me very soon.

Basically, I have been friends with this girl for 5 years now. We never really hung out, just more internet buddies. Her boyfriend treats her like crap, but they live together. He has no job, no car and has abandoned her twice in the 3 years they have been dating. He’s the type of guy who forgets their anniversaries and forgets about her during her birthday, holidays and valentine’s day (sounds like a winner, huh?)

She too lives out west with him at the moment. She works 3 jobs to support his ass. She pays for his rent, drives him every where, gives him food and pays for his schooling, and she also goes to school.

Now, she recently has been texting/calling and IM’ing me more than usual. These have been some flirty things. She is asking me about bathing suits she should wear and showing me pictures of her in bathing suits, telling me her bf doesn’t approve of them. She also mentioned to me that I should move with her to another state she is moving to (of course, with her bf).

I just keep it friendly with her and that’s it. Because, honestly, that’s all I can do and I think she is a really cool girl.. and yeah, if a bf was not involved, I’d be all over that.

Now, here is the funny part. Within the past year, I went to two psychics. I normally just find these things interesting if anything, but they told me that this June, I would meet the love of my life and this September, we would be serious and get married next year.

Both of these psychics also described this one friend pretty much to the "t" (except they were a little off on age and distance between us). Both of these psyhics were from completely different parts of the US too, so they don’t know each other. But they had everything down… I didn’t answer or ask questions, but they mentioned her name, described how she looked, some of the stuff and tragedies she went through in life which were true, mentioned she has been abandoned and will be so again, etc.

I just found this a little odd on how dead on they were about her. Especially this coming from two of them! (anyone have any positive pshycic stories, feel free to share)

Here’s the kicker. Just tonight, we made plans to hang out in June when she comes back here… so we are hanging out twice during the time she is here to visit before her planned move. Now, I’m not getting my hopes up or expecting anything, that is for sure. She’s a friend, this is all I can view her as, but in the same sense I’m excited to meet up with her and hang out with her because she is so cool….
It sounds like this is something that you really want, so you should go for it. Tell her that you’re willing to move in with her. Ignore the fact that she says she’s bringing her bf. That’s bs. But don’t call her bluff. She won’t admit that it’s over quite yet.

Wait, so tell her I am willing to move in with her even though I really am not wanting to. I mean, that’s a move to a whole different state. Sure, I’d love to live in that state, but as far as I am concerned, I would rather live here where I have my family, my friends, my job and my hockey team (that too would fit with friends). Sure, I can replace my job.. by friends and family, yeah not so easy. So.. lie to her?

Oh, I thought you did want to. No, don’t lie to her. But keep flirting. She’ll come around.
It seems she likes the positive attention from you. She’s getting all the things from you that she’s not getting from her assclown boyfriend. I would keep my distance.

How can you possibly believe in psychics? Dont you notice the warning under the phone number that says "for entertainment purposes only", that means you are wasting your money and believing in things that are fake.

Also what happened to being single?

1.) I never said I believe in them, I know they are for entertainement purposes only. Though I do find it fascinating when they are pretty dead on about something without me giving them actual information.

2.) Both psychics were not telephone ones. Both of them were done in person. I paid for my entertainement, so be it.

3.) Yes, being single. Nowhere did I say I was pursuing this girl, did I? I think you missed the point of this thread. I just wanted to see if anyone was in any similar situation. I did say, I think she is an awesome girl and a good friend though and feel the same situation is happening to me, without me even trying for it (and yeah, if she was single and willing to try to give it a shot, I’d be open for it)
You have to know that many women don’t like being alone. To the point of "hooking" up with a new guy until they are assured that the new guy will take them so that they are not left alone from leaving the old guy and being dumped by the new guy. If you want to be with her then let her know so she has the choice of leaving the asshole she is with.

But you also have to remember that many women crave negative attention. That is why so many women leave the asshole jerk bf to pursue a relationship with a nicer new guy and then end up going back to the bad relationship only to break the heart of the nice guy. The women that are like this typically have very low self-esteem so they seek attention from whoever they can get it from. Our mothers teach us at a young age to treat women in nice ways, but I had a hot girl with low self esteem tell me once that she never believed that she deserved to be treated like a princess or a queen, which is why she was always attracted to relationships where she was treated like shit.

My rule is this, if a woman is in a happy relationship I would never think about breaking that up, but if she was in a bad relationship and seemed unhappy, and I cared for her I would try to get a connection between her and I in hopes that she would end the relationship with the jackass that treats her bad. It is his loss for treating her like shit. But you always have to be prepared that at anytime she may choose to go back to the jackass bf because she may not feel that she deserves to be treated with respect and love.

This is my feeling too. She’s getting just enough attention from you to make her day a bit better, allowing her to put up with the asshole that much longer.

Technically, she’s using you. However, you enjoy the attention so at least it isn’t a negative thing.

I think your ‘enjoyment’ of the psychics is simply a way of projecting what youre feeling for her. You like her, and you want to believe there’s a chance (whether there is or isnt is not relavent). Nothing wrong with that, but it makes it much easier to see what you want from comments or suggestions from her or others.

I’ve had very accurate readings concerning a gf as well. It was while we only knew each other online. The psychic said that we would meet around my birthday. I flew to see her for her birthday and then she came to visit me during mine. Another psychic described where our relationship was heading and was 100% spot on. And the last had a dire warning about her, which was also very foretelling. So, be careful what you wish for because you might just get it.

I’m also a pretty decent tarot reader. I had a long thread where I did about 500 readings and even exposed a future mod (won’t say who) who would end up being infamously demodded.

you can say all the bad things about her boyfriend that you want, but the fact is that you are filling in for him where he is slacking off and giving her the perfect relationship.

i would stay away from her until she breaks up with him. then, and only then, would i persue anything. if shes stupid enough to stay with a guy who is as horrible to her as you say he is, then shes not a real winner and i would avoid girls like her

all that being said, my SO and i were friends for 2 years while we both were in other relationships. after we were both single, we got together. so its possible, but there are a lot of things that need to happen first, like her being single for starters

All girls do this though. They love to complain about their bfs to their friendzoned guys. Some of those guys take it to mean more than it is. People complain about their jobs too. But it doesn’t mean that they’re going to quit. If something better came along though, they’d consider it.

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