What Should I Do? v.Wife is PREGNANT and hiding it!

My wife has been acting weird lately. Anyway, I got a little suspicious and kinda had a feeling.

I look through the receipt jar and find this…

Look a little more closely…

This leads me to a search under the bathroom sink, turning up a POSITIVE test she had stashed in the back of the cupboard.

Why hasn’t she told me? Should I tell her I know? Suprise her with flowers? Let her tell me when she wants?

wtf?!? I’m not sure what to do.
shit tests are 18.00 now anyways man on a serious note she may be waiting for the right time to tell you i dont know wats the receipt dated in any case im not really sure what i would do definitly talk to her about it at some point but not sure what u would say
She probably bought one of those two or three packs. Hell, I would. I’d take test after test if one came back positive. SO would come home and there’d be a fucking pile stacked on the sink with me sobbing LOL.

In any case, give her her space. If she doesn’t tell you in a week, bring up how she’s acting a little weird, she seems stressed, letting her know you’re there for her.

Now I hate to be the one to ask this…but would your wife consider an abortion? She may be deciding if she wants to keep the child or not. Or maybe she’s waiting to get a blood test before telling you.

In any case, give her a little time and a little space. She probably has some stuff to work out with herself.
I concur with the above post on this. Give her time to tell you. Don’t pull it out of her because she might not be ready to let you know.

If she doesn’t let you know within a couple weeks, then bring it up. Heck, just ask her if she’s feeling all right and that she seems on the edge lately.
When’s the date on the receipt? Maybe she’s just waiting to tell you till she’s really really sure and has gone to the ob/gyn to have a blood test done. Have yall been planning/talking about/want to have kids?
If I were you I’d just wait a bit and see what happends. If this is a good thing for yall, she might be planning on telling you in some really cool/cute way so dont steal her thunder and ruin it.
If you havent been planning on having kids though, thats different, but I’d still wait a little bit to give her a chance to tell you.
I mean, its not like you guys have been abstinant and now you’re finding this, right? That’d be a whole different story.
the optimistic side of me says that she is planning a nice dinner or something with the surprise announcement

the pessimistic (driven by reading OT and it’s massive distrust of women in general) side says that she is hiding it for a reason

which would occam’s razor cover? the first one – she hid the test rather than threw it out – if she were unhappy about the test results, she would have destroyed all evidence.
My sister took a test, found out she was pregnant and then surprised her husband
Maybe she wants an abortion…in which case surprising her with flowers may not be a good idea.

Exactly. A lot of women (at least from what I’ve heard, I’ve never been pregnant) save the first positive pregnancy test they take as a ‘momento’ and sometimes include it in things like scrapbooks and babybooks.

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I was going to say I doubt abortion is an idea since she saved the test. Women notoriously do that when they are excited over the baby. I bet she wants to surprise you….or is terrified and planning how to tell you.

Either way, I think surprising her would be a bad idea. Either wait or just excitedly say you found the test.
OH MY GOSH YOU’RE GOING TO BE A DADDY!!!!!
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

Don’t tell her you know, otherwise you’ll never know if it’s someone else’s.
The receipt is from April 8th, two days ago. I checked.

I’m still torn. I can’t imagine why this would be a bad thing for her, but I don’t really know what she is thinking right now.

Oh man, it’s hard to keep my mouth shut.
Tell her this….

"Hey honey, you know, I ran into my old friend Chris’s ex-wife at the mall today. Did I ever tell you about him? One day on his way home from work, his car was pummeled by a diesel and he was killed instantly. His wife got the call about an hour later while she was at home planning a creative way to tell him that she was pregnant. She always said that her biggest regret was not telling him as soon as she found out. Perhaps if he would have known earlier, he wouldn’t have gone to work and would still be alive to see his baby. Wow! I couldn’t imagine living with that burden."
It’s not yours. Nah, I’m just kidding, but seriously, give it a week or two — see if she comes out with it, unless you don’t trust her and think she’d do something you’re worried about (Like abortion?).

The receipt is from April 8th, two days ago. I checked.

I’m still torn. I can’t imagine why this would be a bad thing for her, but I don’t really know what she is thinking right now.

Oh man, it’s hard to keep my mouth shut.

Two whole days? Seriously dude, just wait. I’ve known girls who’ve waited a week past the first pregnancy test date to tell their husbands/SO’s.

Tell her this….

"Hey honey, you know, I ran into my old friend Chris’s ex-wife at the mall today. Did I ever tell you about him? One day on his way home from work, his car was pummeled by a diesel and he was killed instantly. His wife got the call about an hour later while she was at home planning a creative way to tell him that she was pregnant. She always said that her biggest regret was not telling him as soon as she found out. Perhaps if he would have known earlier, he wouldn’t have gone to work and would still be alive to see his baby. Wow! I couldn’t imagine living with that burden."

winner!
I would imagine if she REALLY didn’t want you to know she would have gotten rid of the stick and shredded the receipt
She’s in the kitchen making dinner right now…

She thinks I don’t know. BUT I KNOW….

Oh yes, I know….

It’s really hard not to say something.
LOL you’re killing me. She’s probably waiting to see her gyno to make sure. Has she ever been pregnant before?

Hang in there Ace. oh, and act really surprised when she tells you Don’t blow it.

the optimistic side of me says that she is planning a nice dinner or something with the surprise announcement

the pessimistic (driven by reading OT and it’s massive distrust of women in general) side says that she is hiding it for a reason

which would occam’s razor cover? the first one – she hid the test rather than threw it out – if she were unhappy about the test results, she would have destroyed all evidence.

Occam’s razor says that she hasn’t told you because she doesn’t know yet.

Does anyone know if pregnancy tests turn positive if they sit too long?

She’s in the kitchen making dinner right now…

She thinks I don’t know. BUT I KNOW….

Oh yes, I know….

It’s really hard not to say something.

Unless you put the test back in the exact same spot you found it in, she already knows you found it.

Occam’s razor says that she hasn’t told you because she doesn’t know yet.

Does anyone know if pregnancy tests turn positive if they sit too long?

The test was just bought two days ago, and is nowhere near the expiry date (I checked). I put it back exactly as I found it. I did, however, keep the receipt for evidence.
I meant will a used test turn positive if it sits too long.

Doubtful. It responds to the presence of a hormone that is either there (pregnant) or not (not pregnant).

If the test is positive, it’s because the pregnancy hormone is in her urine, not from sitting with piss on it for a few days.

Does anyone know if pregnancy tests turn positive if they sit too long?

No they won’t.

Additional note for everyone: Pregnancy tests are 99.999 percent accurate, based on WebMD, Medline. If it’s positive, she’s pregnant. However, being the skeptic that I am, I would buy a second test and see a doctor for blood testing too.
Personally, I would hang back, enjoy the fact that you are going to be a father, but don’t attack her for not telling you. You never know she very well may be trying to think up some way to surprise you. Don’t fuck up something you’re not sure of.

Yes, they can due to evaporation lines.

Pregnancy test results are not reliable unless viewed within about the first 10 min.

what happens when she drinks it?

You can have a glass of wine while you’re pregnant.

That may be so but 99.9% of western women nowadays won’t touch any alcohol while preggo.

Eh, I doubt it’s that high a percentage. There are a lot of shitty ass mothers.

No they won’t.

Additional note for everyone: Pregnancy tests are 99.999 percent accurate, based on WebMD, Medline. If it’s positive, she’s pregnant. However, being the skeptic that I am, I would buy a second test and see a doctor for blood testing too.

Most people are skeptical about this stuff anyway (wether they get the result they ‘want’ or not), which is why almost all pregnancy tests come in packs of two

Yes, they can due to evaporation lines.

Pregnancy test results are not reliable unless viewed within about the first 10 min.

Yeah, but it depends on what kind of test it is and what the symbols are. Some have a "-" for not pregnant and a "+" for pregnant, some have a "=" for pregnant and a "-" for not pregnant, some have a gd smiley for pregnant and a frown for not pregnant, so its hard to say they’ll "turn pregnant" if they sit too long – they just might not have the right kind of lines or something after that long…. but youre right they might not be accurate any more

Noted. I didn’t explain myself clearly. I meant there is evidence that you can drink a little bit and statistically not affect the baby but most mothers that are decent in the western world don’t care, don’t know and/or won’t touch it.

i strongly believe in a glass of wine a week while pregnant. its good for you

says vodka_lover

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Just wait and see. Do something nice for her to show her you care about her. It might make her decision to tell you whats up a bit easier. If she is pregnant, she may be worried about your reaction or not know how to say it. As mentioned above, she could be considering abortion. If she doesn’t say anything in another week or so, or if your going to explode holding the secret, mention you’ve noticed she’s been acting odd the past little while and prompt her to tell you if anythings wrong.

OH MY GOSH YOU’RE GOING TO BE A DADDY!!!!!
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

Came in to post this. Seems everyone else missed it? Lol keep ups posted. My sister is having her baby sometime in the next week or two I am so excited

Maybe it was you who peed on the stick and it turned positive so you have testicular cancer?

(joke)

Let us know how it goes. I hope there isn’t anything sinister behind it

Good thing I’m up north then.

The receipt is from April 8th, two days ago. I checked.

I’m still torn. I can’t imagine why this would be a bad thing for her, but I don’t really know what she is thinking right now.

Oh man, it’s hard to keep my mouth shut.

It’s prob not a bad thing, unless she thinks you might think it’s a bad thing. But I’m sure, as mentioned before, she is just waiting to surprise you.

Good thing I’m up north then.

Dude, he didnt mean western as in California or Texas
she could be cheating on you and doesnt want to tell you cause she thinks the baby isnt yours or is not sure either way.
Any updates on this man? we’re all hanging off our seats
She’s hiding it from you because she doesn’t want to get an abortion.

So the longer she waits without telling you, the less likely an abortion becomes.

It pisses me off how many guys are just total doormats — you are letting your woman get away with LYING and deceiving you.

Whatever, it’s too late for you, clearly she already has your nutz in her purse if this is acceptable behavior. Congrats daddy, no go chain yourself to a desk because you are going to be giving up your paycheck for the next 18 years.
UPDATE…

I asked my wife point blank, and she said she was just waiting to make sure. Later that day, she went to pee in a cup at the doctor’s office, and started bleeding while she was there.

She WAS pregnant, now she isn’t.

Sucks.

She’s hiding it from you because she doesn’t want to get an abortion.

So the longer she waits without telling you, the less likely an abortion becomes.

It pisses me off how many guys are just total doormats — you are letting your woman get away with LYING and deceiving you.

Whatever, it’s too late for you, clearly she already has your nutz in her purse if this is acceptable behavior. Congrats daddy, no go chain yourself to a desk because you are going to be giving up your paycheck for the next 18 years.

I’m married for 5 years to her, with her for 8 before that, own a condo and both have 2 good, full-time jobs.

We are more than capable and ready to handle a baby.

She has had a miscarriage before, and didn’t want to get anyone excited, and it turns out she was right to do so.

You are an idiot.
I’m so sorry. That’s heartbreaking.

I hope that you are successful when you’re ready to try again.
Oh no, that’s devastating. How are you both coping with it all?
We are doing OK. It’s time to see some specialists and see if there is some sort of issue that is causing her to miscarry.

She’s had at least 2 miscarriages, and thinks she may have had a third between the other 2.

A few people we know who had similar problems went through some sort of anti-biotic therapy for the woman, which apparently helped them a lot.

We’ll see…
I’d probably fall apart if that had all been happening to me, I’d just completely die inside.

If she’s turned a kind of crimson colour with the hugs she could probably do with a little more squeezing, go for a nice bright purple.

Have you had any children together before?

I’d probably fall apart if that had all been happening to me, I’d just completely die inside.

If she’s turned a kind of crimson colour with the hugs she could probably do with a little more squeezing, go for a nice bright purple.

Have you had any children together before?

No children, just bad luck.

Thanks for the well-wishes guys!
Hopefully the specialist will be the barer of ‘this is easily fixable!’ news.
Here’s hoping your luck turns around.

Hopefully the specialist will be the barer of ‘this is easily fixable!’ news.
Here’s hoping your luck turns around.

Dot!
Yeah. It’s not like the parts don’t work at all, it’s just that the embryos haven’t remained viable.

Got my fingers crossed…

I’m married for 5 years to her, with her for 8 before that, own a condo

Why would you even consider your wife cheated on you if you have been together that long.

Yeah. It’s not like the parts don’t work at all, it’s just that the embryos haven’t remained viable.

Got my fingers crossed…

My wife had a miscarriage and was put on Progesterone supplements when she got pregnant the next time. Basically she just had a lack of progesterone development which means that the embryo wouldn’t attach correctly and therefore become unviable.

Best of luck
My aunt went through the same thing. She and my uncle tried for about 10 years while married, went through treatments….came out in the end with two healthy little boys.

Good luck. Hope it turns out well for y’all

wtf are you talking about?

My wife had a miscarriage and was put on Progesterone supplements when she got pregnant the next time. Basically she just had a lack of progesterone development which means that the embryo wouldn’t attach correctly and therefore become unviable.

Best of luck

Good info. Thanks!

My aunt went through the same thing. She and my uncle tried for about 10 years while married, went through treatments….came out in the end with two healthy little boys.

Good luck. Hope it turns out well for y’all

We need all the hope we can get! Thanks!
Everyone who prays is praying for you, everyone who wishes is wishing for you, and everyone who smiles will smile at the thought of your dreams coming true.

I’m in a mushy mood *shh*
So so sorry to hear this My prayers are with the both of you

We are doing OK. It’s time to see some specialists and see if there is some sort of issue that is causing her to miscarry.

She’s had at least 2 miscarriages, and thinks she may have had a third between the other 2.

A few people we know who had similar problems went through some sort of anti-biotic therapy for the woman, which apparently helped them a lot.

We’ll see…

Dont give up hope man. My sister had 2 miscarriages. She is now on baby #3 and actually due tonight/tomorrow! It was rough for our family for a while but now shes going to have a healthy baby boy!
Oh God, that’s so terrible. I’m sorry things turned out that way. I agree with the above, miscarriages are never a certain sign that you won’t be able to have a baby. Good luck.

Everyone who prays is praying for you, everyone who wishes is wishing for you, and everyone who smiles will smile at the thought of your dreams coming true.

I’m in a mushy mood *shh*

Holy sugary-teeth-rotting-sweet batman. I think I just became a fuckin’ diabetic thanks to you, shit, where is my insulin?!

LOL you’re killing me. She’s probably waiting to see her gyno to make sure. Has she ever been pregnant before?

Hang in there Ace. oh, and act really surprised when she tells you Don’t blow it.

even after my wife would test positive with an at home test, she still went to the gyno to get tested.

i take it this wasn’t a planned pregnancy? How do you feel about having a child?

edit: oh wow, sorry.

My aunt went through the same thing. She and my uncle tried for about 10 years while married, went through treatments….came out in the end with two healthy little boys.

Good luck. Hope it turns out well for y’all

My aunt and uncle had a similar experience, but came out with 4 boys and a girl.

OP: best of luck as you two move forward with whatever treatment they give you.
My mom had two miscarriages before she had me..then six years later she had my little sister. I’m in my 20’s and my sister and I are both healthy and happy. Best of luck you will be in my thoughts.
I know it’s a bit early now that y’all are just now starting to talk to doctor’s about possible conditions and treatments…but have y’all discussed adoption at all? You should probably at least begin that conversation.
After reading the first few pages I was about to say that some women think that it is just them that get pregnant and end up taking weeks to tell their partners that they are pregnant. Some buy personalised beer with labels, others t-shirts and what not. I don’t understand it. You both fall pregnant, it shouldn’t be hidden from the dad at all – unless of course there is bad blood and then you ask why are you sleeping with the guy.

Then I read further and that sucks I think your wife should have let you in on it. Regardless of wanting to be sure or just seeing what happened, she should of let you share the joy and the pain with her.

Good luck in the future
i came in to post that if the test shows shes pregnant she can still get her period.

My gf’s friend thought she was pregnant and told her bf who flipped out on her saying if she keeps it they ruined there lives (17/18 lol) But she apparantly got it.

I’m so sorry to hear that

I hope you get a little Jr. in the future!

It has been talked about, and neither of us are really sure what we think of the whole idea. It’s not something to enter into without being fully committed to the idea.
BTW, thanks for all the well wishes! It really is appreciated.

We are doing OK. It’s time to see some specialists and see if there is some sort of issue that is causing her to miscarry.

She’s had at least 2 miscarriages, and thinks she may have had a third between the other 2.

A few people we know who had similar problems went through some sort of anti-biotic therapy for the woman, which apparently helped them a lot.

We’ll see…

Good luck finding someone to take you seriously.
My wife had 2 miscarriages before being able to carry the baby full term. We are due on May 4th.

The thing about the miscarriages that just drove me up the wall is that I couldn’t find anyone that was willing to look into WHY she had 2 miscarriages back to back.

Even the most compassionate doctors just shrugged there shoulders and were like, ‘Thems the breaks.’.

A lot of things make me happy about this pregnancy, but the short of it is I don’t know if I could have taken a 3rd or a 4th miscarriage.

I’m glad y’all have at least talked about it a bit. Communication is key with situations like this. Wish y’all the best!

This is not the main forum.

My bad.. i didnt realize. sorry, hopefully everything works out.

UPDATE…

I asked my wife point blank, and she said she was just waiting to make sure. Later that day, she went to pee in a cup at the doctor’s office, and started bleeding while she was there.

She WAS pregnant, now she isn’t.

Sucks.

Oh wow, dodged bullet.

My husband and I went through a similar experience having multiple miscarriages and nobody could tell us why. We’re both relatively young and healthy, all the parts worked but it just wasn’t happening. We gave up trying for awhile because it was starting to get so frustrating and depressing. About 2 years later we got totally surprised . I went to the Dr. because I felt a lump in one of my breasts, they hurt so bad and I thought I had cancer or something terrible,(never had any of the normal pregnancy stuff like nausea, this was my only symptom) but instead I found out I was actually pregnant with our adorable little boy Jake. He is happy, healthy and the spitting image of Daddy.

Good luck to you and your wife.

My husband and I went through a similar experience having multiple miscarriages and nobody could tell us why. We’re both relatively young and healthy, all the parts worked but it just wasn’t happening. We gave up trying for awhile because it was starting to get so frustrating and depressing. About 2 years later we got totally surprised . I went to the Dr. because I felt a lump in one of my breasts, they hurt so bad and I thought I had cancer or something terrible,(never had any of the normal pregnancy stuff like nausea, this was my only symptom) but instead I found out I was actually pregnant with our adorable little boy Jake. He is happy, healthy and the spitting image of Daddy.

Good luck to you and your wife.

i was hoping for a happy update but i will send positive thoughts yalls way. there are lots of things to try to help get pregnant. all the best for yall.

READ the update!
at least she’s eating healthy

@ best buy cheese

I’m married for 5 years to her, with her for 8 before that, own a condo and both have 2 good, full-time jobs.

We are more than capable and ready to handle a baby.

She has had a miscarriage before, and didn’t want to get anyone excited, and it turns out she was right to do so.

You are an idiot.

Im sorry to hear this mate. Remember, MOST women have at least one miscarriage, and many women have several, before they have a baby. Hang in there.
Been there about three months ago dude. Miscarrying is rough all-around. Like you mentioned, most women have had a miscarriage in one way or another in their life. Most don’t even know it.

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