Broke up with girlfriend of 7 years about 8 months ago. We were best friends; and we somewhat still are. She wants to keep talking but I try and keep my distance. It hurts to talk but it hurts not to talk too. She was my world and I screwed it up. I miss her every day and have no desire to date/be with anyone else even 8 months after we break up. I feel like if I can’t give a girl my full attention I don’t deserve to have the time of day from them.

I find myself just working like crazy and sitting on the computer/watching TV when i’m home. It’s a very depressing situation. I still do things but I don’t have a shitload of friends, just alot of acquaintances. I keep things inside and don’t talk to any friends because I don’t want anyone to see me suffering.

I’m a lost soul, very lonely and just depressed as a whole. I have tried to take this time to focus on life, getting four year degree, advancement at work, etc but it’s not working as well as i’d hope. Instead, I buy things that keep me happy for a few days/weeks (video game systems, new computer, etc) and helps keep my mind off of things.

It’s hard to believe others are going through anything like this but I’m sure there are much worse situations.

Cliffs: GF of 7 years and I broke up. She’s dating and I’m not. When I think i’ve moved on, I realize I haven’t.

Man that sucks. I can’t even imagine Are you guys over for good? If you are, maybe you should stop talking
It sounds like you revolved your whole world around your girlfriend, and because you never had time apart you smothered each other. You didn’t specifiy why the breakup occurred but there are other fish in the sea. You will meet many more women in the future.

Next time though maintain friendships with your guy friends. Do things that you like to do. Women don’t like their men to revolve their worlds around them. It is hard to be attracted to someone that is always there, and never has fun and interesting things they like to do.

And finally don’t fucking stress out that she is dating and you’re not. Dating is hell of a lot easier for women. Women are never expected to make the first moves. And if the woman is somewhat attractive all she has to do is flirt with any guy she likes and chances are he’ll respond and try to get in her pants. But for guys it is alot harder to get back out there and date. You have to work at meeting women and getting them to feel enough attraction for you so as to progress the relationship. You can’t just go out and flirt with any girl you find attractive and expect a relationship to develop. It takes more work and time.

You were with your ex for 7 years. The longer you are in a relationship with someone the longer it takes to heal from the breakup. Just give it time and you will come around.
Stop talking to her, bro. That way you’ll stop thinking what she’s doing with her life and you’ll start focus on yours. It will be hard at first but it always get better. Cold turkey is the way to go, you’ll thank yourself later.
the last 3 posts give you a pretty good guideline, its gonna take time, and as shitty as that sounds, its true
Thank you to everyone for the responses. It’s not that I seperated myself from guy friends, it’s that I just never really had all that many to begin with. I’m an easy going guy I just close myself in and don’t open up to anyone. I have acquaintances but not many i’d consider "friends".

I would say I did revolve my life around her because she was my life. We were together since high school and i’m 24 now. It’s tough because I care about her tremendously and it’s so difficult to just cut all ties. I’m close with her family as well (who want us back together).

Whether this is for good or not, i’m not really sure. Right now, it feels that way but there is no telling what will happen in the future. I’m just trying to focus on now and moving on building my character.

As for why we broke up, I made a mistake. Period. (No, I didn’t sleep with another girl, I just wasn’t an honest person and made a mistake.)

Thank you again for the responses, I really do appreciate it.
Her graduation from college was today. Feeling a bit depressed about not going. She wanted me to go but I just didn’t feel comfortable doing so. I know I should just forget and move on but it’s so difficult. We talked so much about our lives, graduating college, etc I just wish I could have shared this moment with her.

STOP TALKING TO HER.

You will never move on if you see her or talk to her.

This is so difficult. How do I just completely cut her off? Ignore phone calls, separate myself from her completely? I don’t know if I can do that.

That’s your biggest problem right now, letting go. You will never get over her fully if you still speak with her. It’s obviously the hardest thing (not talking to/seeing her) to do, but it’s the only way.
You can do it two ways:
1. Ignore her calls, texts, etc. until she gets the point and decreases trying to reach you
2. Flat out be honest and tell her you can no longer see or talk to her because you need to move on from your relationship and trying to be friends with her right now just doesn’t work for you. You would love to be friends with her in the future, but it will never be possible until you’ve moved on.

I obviously think #2 is the way to go.
Sounds like she’s keeping you around as a safety net. Don’t stick around. Limewire this song now, it seems appropriate :

Otha fish in the sea – Pharcyde

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