Broke up today

After almost two years, and on my 21st bday no less. I kinda saw it coming but then again I also didn’t I suppose. It was kinda mutual but a bit her wanting out, although it was certainly justified. I’m still kinda in shock and I just don’t know what to feel right now. Worst part is I know I’d probably go back to it if she offered.

I hate being single.
you dont seem too distraught.

just hang out with your buddies. increase the amount of time you spend doing whatever your hobby is. do NOT get a rebound girl. do NOT get back with the ex either; you were destined to break up.

hopefully you learned a few thing about yourself and life in general when you were with her.

its hard, with all the memories, and being cordial and what not, but you’ll get over it.

Thanks folks.

Yea I know what I need to do but I suppose I’m just a bit intimidated by it. I keep having the thoughts of what if she was the "right one" and such. When I dated her I didn’t go out much at all so I also have a lot of social catchup to do which is a bit scary as well. That and being able to fall asleep right away would be nice.
Hey, if she was the one, it would have worked out, so chill. Look on the bright side man! Summer time, and time for fun and be able just to chill
Being single is awesome. You can do whatever you want to do and concentrate completely on improving yourself and having a good time…

I think that at 29, I am finally ready for a serious relationship, and that I wasn’t ready for the ones I had in my early-mid 20s. I am simply a completely different person now than I was then; even if I would have found "the one," I probably wouldn’t like her as much now that I’ve grown a bit.
This is having a really crazy affect on me. I spent a 40 minute drive yelling at myself, I can’t eat and I just break down crying all the time (I’m not usually the crying type). I just really can’t get my head on straight.

I just broke up with my gf of 2 years as well. She was my first. Even though it was my decision it was still very hard on me. I didn’t even want to touch the things she’d moved around in my house simply because she had put them there. I also cried a lot. As the days go by though I’m realizing more and more how much I’m better off without her. It will get easier.

Thanks, good to know.

Been there done that, I’m kind of in one of those general states of mind right now because of so much uncertainty in stress with my life, getting a job, a car, long distance girl trouble, being completely broke, bored, feel like a failure, being a waste, etc.

I’ve been walking around for hte last week with extremely high levels of anxiesty, stress, and onsetting depression.

Been there done that, I’m kind of in one of those general states of mind right now because of so much uncertainty in stress with my life, getting a job, a car, long distance girl trouble, being completely broke, bored, feel like a failure, being a waste, etc.

I’ve been walking around for hte last week with extremely high levels of anxiesty, stress, and onsetting depression.

Sounds like me right now.

To clarify on how we broke it up (to answer an earlier question) I call it mutual bc I semi-knowingly drove it to the breaking point and she made the call.

I spent an hour on the phone with her last night basically laying myself out there and asking her to give us another shot but it really sounds like she’s totally given up. So now I really don’t know what to do next, I’m just kinda going through the motions right now.
I would suggest cutting off contact with her. I tried to do the friends thing but she couldn’t do that without getting attached. Girls will say they can do it, but as usual they don’t know what they want.

I have never been able to do the friends thing and I don’t expect it to start here.

God this just totally sucks.
Staying with someone just because you don’t want to be alone is no reason to stay together.

This is a good thing. Good luck! Use this time to work on yourself and fix your fear of being alone. You don’t always have to be in a serious relationship.
The problem is its not just that I’m afraid to be alone.

Every time I’m single though I do manage to convince myself I’ll never find another girl.

The problem is its not just that I’m afraid to be alone.

Every time I’m single though I do manage to convince myself I’ll never find another girl.

Well quit it
Thanks again all.

Talkin to her tonight, sitting her waiting for her to call and feeling like I’m gonna throw up.

Thanks again all.

Talkin to her tonight, sitting her waiting for her to call and feeling like I’m gonna throw up.

before you pick up the phone watch this video a couple of times

before you pick up the phone watch this video a couple of times

um wtf
So its only really bad at night now, which is better I guess. I just wish it wasn’t such a horrible ordeal just getting to sleep every night.

I know what you’re saying. I’m going through the same thing. During the day it’s really easy because you’re doing shit, whether it’s school or work, but at night it’s different. I was used to sleeping with my SO at his house, or watching movies at night before bed.

It’s not as bad as it was at first. Just takes time I guess.

Youre doing better than me and she is still around right now, I am just in a long-distance deal and I don’t deal well with at all. I have that an some other issues going on right now, and I just wake up in the morning waiting to go to sleep at night

needless to say the days drag on for what seems like an eternity.
On the bright side, I get to go to China for an entire month on the 23rd. It should be a bit of a relief to be on the other side of the damn planet.
why dont more pool halls (I dont know of one) have fooseball tables.. that shit is awesome
I guess I’ll add to this thread, I am also going through the same thing. Broke up with my first serious gf last night . It really sucks, it’s all I can think about. Glad to know it gets better, and I also really wish I could get some sleep…

I just got some sleep aids thankfully.

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