Girl..Pregnant

I just needed some advice. I’ve worked with this girl for about 2 years. We were always pretty good friends. She was engaged. I started having sex with her about a year ago. Said girl gets pregnant.. It’s pretty much a 50/50% toss up on whose baby it is. The girl breaks up with her fiance and I am with her about 5-6 months. She was having a pretty hard time dealing with her being pregnant and leaving her bf of 5 years… When I was with her she asked me to be at the hospital during the birth and if I would help her if I could afterwards. I told her i would do what i can and of course I would come up to the hospital, afterall the kid could be mine. Well after all of this she is back with her ex-fiance. He does not want me at the hospital and i tmay not be a good idea if i do. Neither her or him want a paternity test now. I do want one to see if she is mine. I would like to be a part of her life if she is. Her and her fiance think that would hurt them too bad to let her do this. They whoever agree I do have that right they just don’t want me too. So advice… should I get a lawyer now and get a paternity test AT the hospital if possible?? I would also like my last name on the birth certificate. Or should I wait until the baby is born and try to settle this? This is the first time I’ve dealt with any of this. It’s a very messy situation. The reason he wants to keep it so hush hush is family knows nothing of it. So OT? any advice?

UPDATE:
Well I found out today she actually had the baby last thursday 4/3/08. She didn’t even have the decency to tell me. I am BEYOND mad. I called her phone and her bf answers. He asked me why I was calling. I said I wanted to see about the baby. He said it was none of my business and to never call this number again or there would be consequences. I told him to fuck off. He hung up.
2nd Update:
Her BF called the cops. The deputy called me and said that he said I was harassing him but he declined to press charges at this time. I’ll admit I definately lost my temper when he told me it was none of my business. The deputy told me there was not much to do. She told me I might want to call and apologize and try to reason with them. But I’m not so sure that is going to work. I’m going to DHS tomorrow morning to get the subpoena rolling. Such a messy situation.

Well, first off, congrats on getting yourself in a sticky situation. You shouldn’t of had been sleeping with her — especially — because she’s engaged to someone.

But all said and done, you’re in the situation you’re in. What you should probably do if she doesn’t want to get a paternity test is in fact get an attorney. The paternity test can be done before or after the baby is born. (OMG, technologiz!)

One of the reasons why you want to do it before hand is because the other potential father can just sign the birth certificate and he will have legal rights to the child and NOT you. Yes, you can also fight this in court.

You have the parental right to see your child, and for this, you will have to go to courts especially if they’re going to fight you every step of the way.

But you should think about a few questions:

Will you be able to actually help provide for this child?
Will you be able to help pay that child support?
How are you financially?

The paternity test might hurt the finance but in all honesty, you all need to know. You all have the right to know who’s child it is and she can believe all she wants that it is her fiance’s but she doesn’t know herself.

So yes, get yourself a good attorney.
My advice?

Don’t fuck a married woman or a woman getting married.
if i was the fiance you wouldn’t be breathing anymore. count your blessings and move on
Congrats on stepping up to find out if the kid is yours. I had a scare and waited 2 years before i even saw the kid… one look and i knew it wasnt. thank god.

If I were you I would get a lawyer, or just ask them to agree to let you get a paternity test. being at the birth, well, thats really a personal decision…. how important is it to you? you i wouldnt want to be in the room anyway, so just make your way to the hospital afterwards.
If i were that other guy, I’d have you get a paternity test, make you pay child support if it was yours, and not let you have anything to do with MY wife…

Anyways…go in assuming worst case scenario. The kid could be yours, you may have to pay child support, and you may not be allowed to see the kid.

And holy shit, next time avoid being scum and sleeping with someone who is fucking engaged….and wrap that shit up EVERY time unless you know you are with someone who you are completely committed to, is completely committed to you, and definitely know the two of you want to have a child.

Finally…don’t expect much sympathy from people about this if it is yours.
And know, you WILL BE PAYING CHILD SUPPORT even if you have split custody

especially to this white trash jerry springer family that is being created…. a guy still marries a woman, after she gets preggers with another dude( maybe) and he knows about it!!! fucking FAIL for all parties (cept maybe TC)

And know, you WILL BE PAYING CHILD SUPPORT even if you have split custody

especially to this white trash jerry springer family that is being created…. a guy still marries a woman, after she gets preggers with another dude( maybe) and he knows about it!!! fucking FAIL for all parties (cept maybe TC)

Hopefully the fiancee will redeem himself and leave her if it turns out the baby is the TC.

I don’t care if the fiancee wants a baby…if you’re trying to conceive with a woman, and she fucking CHEATS on you….no fucking way.

TC, were they trying to have a baby when/before you entered the picture?
That woman is evil and should be burned at the fucking stake.

True…but he’s also the idiot who slept with her knowing she was engaged.

I want to know why she did it, why she allowed this to happen. If I was her Fiance I would want a paternity test and I would pray it wasn’t mine so I could be done with her.

I think at the end the relationship is just going to go down the shitters. Baby or not.
I don’t agree that some of you are blaming the OP…

The woman had just as much responsibility in this as the OP does…

They both knew she had a fiance and was getting married…

I just don’t understand the female mind as to why she would sleep with the OP, then break up with her boyfriend/fiance, then after 5-6 months get back together with her ex-bf/ex-fiance…? That just baffles the shit out of me…
They dont want you in their lives, cant blame them, move on
I don’t want to be in their lives either. But if the baby is mine I would like to be a part of her(the babies) life. They are inducing april 18th!! I’m so anxious to find out. Yes she was already engaged before we hooked up. We are now at a point where we don’t even really speak and the only sort of communication i have with her is through threatening text messages from her fiance. threatening to beat my ass, daring me to come to the hospital. It’s a HUGE mess. I’m not going to start shit. But I do want to step up and be in that girl’s life if she is mine….. It would be on my concious forever and I can’t handle shit like that.

She’s just as stupid as you for allowing yourselves to have sex (unprotected) while she’s engage.

In any case, if you want to really know, take care of it right now. That way when she pops out, they can tell you.

Well, good luck if the kid is yours. You’re going to need it — especially if you’re going to fight for parental rights.
I know it is stupid for both of us to have unprotected sex. She was really weird about that. She begged me not to use a condom on several occassions. I might just be dreaming here but she was on fertility drugs at the time because she was told her and her fiance couldn’t have a child… i am kind of thinking she might not of wanted me to use a condom because she wanted a child so bad. I’m playing devil’s advocate i know. but it’s just a thought. i think I’ll’ talk to an attorney tomorrow.
Sounds like that girl is messed up big time.

Any idea other than that as to why she slept with you?
this forum is just becoming so negative. unless anyone has a time machine where he can go back and NOT have sex with her maybe y’all should not be so rude? What’s done is done…he is asking advice on the present.

get a lawyer…because I seriously have no idea what you should do, but if you want to be in the kids life you need to have proof. On the other hand, if you dont care, let them do what they are going to do because if the fiance is on the birth certificate you’re pretty much off the hook financially.

Wow…and you still slept with her? Holy hell

I don’t agree that some of you are blaming the OP…

The woman had just as much responsibility in this as the OP does…

They both knew she had a fiance and was getting married…

I just don’t understand the female mind as to why she would sleep with the OP, then break up with her boyfriend/fiance, then after 5-6 months get back together with her ex-bf/ex-fiance…? That just baffles the shit out of me…

This is what I am trying to understand as well. If you are dating, engaged, or married, you shouldn’t blame the single guy looking for quickie 100%. I would be more upset with the person who is in a relationship.

This just sounds sounds messed up, but In My Honest Opinion, its a good thing you are trying to figure out if you are the father and if so, trying to play the part.
Good job on the sticky situation. Immense kudos for trying to step up.

Get a lawyer, get an order for a paternity test NOW before the fiance puts his name on the birth certificate [edit] when the baby is born.
She is engaged to her boyfriend of 5 years and decides to sleep with you not once but numerous times??? The fiancé still wants to be with her regardless of the fact that the child she is carrying may not be his??? You get a smack in the face for involving yourself with her but a nice pat on the back for stepping up and taking responsibility for the child if its yours. I hope your financially and mentally stable to be a father. What is most likely going to happen, because at this point nothing will go right, you will be the father, fiancé will flip out every time he sees you, physical altercation might occur, he will finally snap back to reality and leave the bitch. So since their "family" is fucked you need to be the one constant stable thing in her life. Kids are great and they will change your life for the better.
My real advice is don’t sign the birth certificate and don’t let the finace sign the birth certificate UNLESS you know which one is the father. You don’t want to be financially and legally tied to a child that IS NOT yours.

If thats really the case and you arent interested in all the drama, you better be serious enough to try and get custody. If not let them give the girl a life, you would be ruining it by trying to visit on occasion.

Stepping up and doing the right thing would be to let the girl grow up in a normal family. Think of yourself as a sperm donor and nothing more.

It’s just suspicious to me. It seems like in a way you want her back. If the bf has made threats to you, do you really think it’s worth risking your life over this?

Stick to posting your unhelpful and fucking worthless replies in the vag.

To the OP, I can’t judge you on your past decisions because I wasn’t in your boots, but as others have said, seek legal advice and resolve who the actual father is as soon as possible…

And if the baby is yours then I wish you all the best for wanting to take responsibility for the child’s sake.

Stepping up and doing the right thing would be to let the girl grow up in a normal family. Think of yourself as a sperm donor and nothing more.

It’s just suspicious to me. It seems like in a way you want her back. If the bf has made threats to you, do you really think it’s worth risking your life over this?

This is very true. Let her grow up in a ‘normal’ family. If you still want to find out if the kid is yours, do what you need to do but remember that passing a baby around back and forth is going to cause issues and more problems for you, the child, and the mother in the future. This can be said because of how they’re treating you right now (and I honestly don’t blame them if what you’re saying IS the full story).

Stepping up and doing the right thing would be to let the girl grow up in a normal family. Think of yourself as a sperm donor and nothing more.

It’s just suspicious to me. It seems like in a way you want her back. If the bf has made threats to you, do you really think it’s worth risking your life over this?

I disagree i think stepping up and finding out who the real father is doing the right thing. I would love to be a part of her life also. I can’t think of myself as a sperm donor i think of myself as a potential father. I believe that is the correct thing to do. I have an older brother who is a "sperm donor" for 3 kids. We went to pick them up from their mother when they were around 2 and 4 years old. They had no idea who any of us were. They were TERRIFIED. I don’t want my child to go through that. I want to her to know I’m her father.

No I don’t want her back. Her bf isn’t going to do anything. He just talks a lot of shit.

I disagree i think stepping up and finding out who the real father is doing the right thing. I would love to be a part of her life also. I can’t think of myself as a sperm donor i think of myself as a potential father. I believe that is the correct thing to do. I have an older brother who is a "sperm donor" for 3 kids. We went to pick them up from their mother when they were around 2 and 4 years old. They had no idea who any of us were. They were TERRIFIED. I don’t want my child to go through that. I want to her to know I’m her father.

No I don’t want her back. Her bf isn’t going to do anything. He just talks a lot of shit.

Well, good luck then. I don’t know what you want us to tell you.

I hope you aren’t secretly hoping to get back with her because I wouldn’t be surprised if a few months down the road, things don’t work out with her and the fiance, and she’ll want you back in her life especially if the child is indeed yours.

You said it was stupid for you to have unprotected sex w/her. It was even more STUPID for you to have sex with her period. She was in a serious relationship and trying to get pregnant with somebody else. I do give you a lot of credit for wanting to take responsibility of the child if it is yours but I don’t get the sense that you truly grasp how badly you fucked up.

Stick to posting your unhelpful and fucking worthless replies in the vag.

To the OP, I can’t judge you on your past decisions because I wasn’t in your boots, but as others have said, seek legal advice and resolve who the actual father is as soon as possible…

And if the baby is yours then I wish you all the best for wanting to take responsibility for the child’s sake.

Wouldn’t that part of your reply count as the same thing?

Also, to the TC:

Considering she has bounced around between the two of you before, be prepared for it to happen again. If the child is not yours, DO NOT put up with this, if she comes back to you if things go badly with her fiancee, do not take her back.

The absolute best thing you could do if the kid is not yours is to get the heck away from this situation entirely, and never come back.

thanks for the advice/opinions. That’s all I’m looking for. Just other avenues to explore.

Wouldn’t that part of your reply count as the same thing?

Also, to the TC:

Considering she has bounced around between the two of you before, be prepared for it to happen again. If the child is not yours, DO NOT put up with this, if she comes back to you if things go badly with her fiancee, do not take her back.

The absolute best thing you could do if the kid is not yours is to get the heck away from this situation entirely, and never come back.

I was thinking the same thing.

My further point would be that kind of mistake on his part needs to be pointed out countless times to the OP himself and to others so hopefully they don’t make the same mistake in the future.

Honestly I’m torn on how to feel about this. I to find it noble that you really want to know if the kid is yours so you can be a father to him/her…but I’m thinking if it is in fact the OP’s child I don’t really know what’s worse-finding out you are the result of your ignorant mother’s affair (who stayed with her original mate), or being raised by the guy who wasn’t your biological father maybe to find that out later in life after they most likely divorce. Either way, I feel bad for the kid.

I don’t agree that some of you are blaming the OP…

The woman had just as much responsibility in this as the OP does…

They both knew she had a fiance and was getting married…

I just don’t understand the female mind as to why she would sleep with the OP, then break up with her boyfriend/fiance, then after 5-6 months get back together with her ex-bf/ex-fiance…? That just baffles the shit out of me…

No shit. OP didn’t have a commitment to anyone. The biggest douchebag in this scenario is the fiance for getting back with the girl when he isn’t even certain that baby is his.

I would definatley urge you to get a lawyer. If you indeed turn out to be the father than you have rights.
I like how everyone is quick on giving him advice on what he should do after he already did it. As if this isn’t a big enough sign to prevent it happening in the future.

I disagree i think stepping up and finding out who the real father is doing the right thing. I would love to be a part of her life also. I can’t think of myself as a sperm donor i think of myself as a potential father. I believe that is the correct thing to do. I have an older brother who is a "sperm donor" for 3 kids. We went to pick them up from their mother when they were around 2 and 4 years old. They had no idea who any of us were. They were TERRIFIED. I don’t want my child to go through that. I want to her to know I’m her father.

No I don’t want her back. Her bf isn’t going to do anything. He just talks a lot of shit.

It just sounds more arrogant than honorable to me. You’re only thinking of yourself and the child and not the other two parties involved. Even if you are the child’s birth father, if those two stay together and get married, you’ll never be a real father to her. The best that you can hope for is to confuse the hell out of her.

You never know Look at Killumnati still going after married chicks. Some people never learn.

I disagree i think stepping up and finding out who the real father is doing the right thing. I would love to be a part of her life also. I can’t think of myself as a sperm donor i think of myself as a potential father. I believe that is the correct thing to do. I have an older brother who is a "sperm donor" for 3 kids. We went to pick them up from their mother when they were around 2 and 4 years old. They had no idea who any of us were. They were TERRIFIED. I don’t want my child to go through that. I want to her to know I’m her father.

No I don’t want her back. Her bf isn’t going to do anything. He just talks a lot of shit.

I think you need to know if you’re prepared to be a father, financially and physically. I agree with you only because the child always seems to find out when they’re older. Secrets this big are hard to keep, even if she gets older and looks nothing like her parents. Its your decision but once the truth is discovered, there is no taking it back. You’re in it for the good and bad times. It WILL be frustrating raising a child that lives 4 days a week at another mans house.
That’s my brother (uptown josh) he is a fuckign idiot hahahah I rag on him to this day about this. Good luck with a kid bro. he’s the same dude that was hitting that chick w ith no condom who’s "been with over 40 dudes" that I posted about in the Vag. Get a std test bro!!

It’s not really that cool or even mature to make fun of your brother’s foolish choices. You should be helping him learn to make better decisions.

And really…from your threads, you need the same lessons.

He slept with an engaged woman, you had an affair with a married woman…so what gives you the right to talk like you’re any better than him?

Who cares about the other two parties? All that should matter is the child at this point – the other two have obviously proved their "worth."

And who’re you to say he’ll never be a "real" father? For all you know, they’ll divorce and then the kid will be out not one, but two fathers. I think it’s great he wants to be part of the child’s life.

To the original poster, though: you better fucking be the best person you can be to this child, or you will fuck the poor kid up.

Who cares about the other two parties? All that should matter is the child at this point – the other two have obviously proved their "worth."

And who’re you to say he’ll never be a "real" father? For all you know, they’ll divorce and then the kid will be out not one, but two fathers. I think it’s great he wants to be part of the child’s life.

To the original poster, though: you better fucking be the best person you can be to this child, or you will fuck the poor kid up.

To be honest if I was in the guy’s shoes I’d do the same thing. The couple’s lives are just as important as the bastard child’s though. Looking at it from their perspective, I’d appreciate that he’d step up to offer support and to be a father, but it should be my choice to turn him down.

Who cares about the other two parties? All that should matter is the child at this point – the other two have obviously proved their "worth."

And who’re you to say he’ll never be a "real" father? For all you know, they’ll divorce and then the kid will be out not one, but two fathers. I think it’s great he wants to be part of the child’s life.

To the original poster, though: you better fucking be the best person you can be to this child, or you will fuck the poor kid up.

Thanks!! I appreciate that post. EXACTLY my point all I am worried about is the child. I think she has a right to know her biological father and if that happens to me I’ll do my best. I will be the best fuckin father I can to this kid. I want to step up and take full responsibility for my foolish actions. I would never advise anyone to get into a situation like this. It has been hell for 8 months!! They are inducing in 16 days!!! I’m so anxious and ready for this to be over with. I will definetely update. I’m sure there will be more drama before then!!!

Wrong. It should be the child’s choice to turn him down, when it’s older.

It should only be your choice to turn him down if he’s truly unfit to be a father and not just an inconvenience to your life.

Wait…I’m confused. Are you the possible father or is Uptown Josh? I thought you were his brother and he was the maybe-father….

fake drama
Everyone that writes stuff like "You shouldn’t be so stupid and have sex with a engaged woman" etc should just shut up.

My brother was logged on my computer I didn’t notice. definately not fake!!

How funny. I was just using you as an example in his thread!

Of course you two are brothers…

this has maury show all over it, this guy will not get paternity test, neither will the husband&wife, in 5 years that baby will look nothing like the husband, he’ll leave the bitch… and THEN she’ll sue for child support & paternity test of the OP

I called DHS. They said the best thing to do is wait until the baby is born. I can then fill out an application give them 25 bucks and they will subpoena her to get a paternity test. I am going to go that route. I’m not even going to tell the girl I’m just gonna surpise her with a subpoena.
So let me get this straight…Both you and your brother specifically go after women who are married or taken with no remorse?

Explain why? Do you want this to be accepted by society? I sure dont.

At least have the decency to inform her that you are going to get a paternity test.

it’s her baby too.

why be remorseful. if you really love someone you should want them to be happy, even if that means them cheating on you (not that i’d ever put up with that)

At least have the decency to inform her that you are going to get a paternity test.

it’s her baby too.

fuck that.

huh?

wat

At least have the decency to inform her that you are going to get a paternity test.

it’s her baby too.

I’ve told her a thousand times I want a paternity test. She pretty much says "if I feel like it I might later on" She’s being a bitch about this for sure. She won’t give me a definite answer. I’m just going to stop contact with her and get that subpoena served. I’ve tried the nice guy route over and over. It doesn’t work with her. Why should I tell her I’m subpoeaning her??

YOU SHOULDNT

Listen to an Asshole like me for once in your life. I’m an asshole most of the time because most of the time I speak from my experiences in the world. That experience gives me confidence in my belief that I am right.

Just do it.
just say "Listen bitch, the kid could be mine and I want to know if it is or not, if you’re not going to do a paternity test by me just asking you then it’s going to be a pain in the ass for the both of us because im going to talk to a lawyer and have this forcefully done"

That should do it

LOL. Are you and I the only ones who are ???

In for BAN!

LOL. Are you and I the only ones who are ???

In for BAN!

shut the fuck up
ok my bro must have posted under my username by mistake we share a computer and I just keep the stay logged on box checked.

Sorry for ragging on him in here but he’s my brother and I do it all the time he made a dumb move. All of our friends let him have it big time.

I feel like i am not the one who is committed so I don’t really feel any remorse if I don’t know the dude or anything… Wouldn’t do it to a friend though. But I think our opinion differs on this.

If someone have multiple identities and is making up BS stories on here, they ought to be banned.
Did I mention I’m 24 and this girl just turned 19?? I talked with her Aunt tonight. She sympathizes with me. She is going to talk to her.

I hope some day you do feel remorse for your actions.

Because it isn’t helping this situation.

Have i said that?

Wow, this shit just gets better and better

I’ve given up hope on the human race honestly.

you’re boned.

This is why I always tell people to be super careful about sex. Unless yu know you absolutely want to have a baby with someone, do everything in your power to prevent pregnancy. I don’t care what she says (regarding being on BC, not wanting to use it, liking the feeling of it raw better), no matter what, use a condom every time. No way in hell am I not taking every precaution I can. Because what it comes down to, is I only really know what I do, not what SHE does.

It only takes one time of not being careful to completely turn two people’s lives upside down. In this case, it’s three people, at least until the baby’s father is known.
You need to demand a paternity test.
I am not sure what legal rights you have to demand a test (talk to a lawyer) but it is such an important thing that you NEED TO DEMAND IT.

Here is the lowdown.
There is a type of law, I don’t know what it is called, it is a state law and is different depending on what state you live in.
This law says that if a man doesnt challenge paternity after a certain period of time (can be a year in some states and many years in others) THAT MAN IS LEGALLY THE FATHER AND IS NO LONGER ABLE TO FIGHT IT WITH A PATERNITY TEST.

At the exact second circumstances are in your favor. She is with the fiance and he is acting like the dad. If the period of time that your state requires goes by and the circumstances stay that way then he will be the legal dad even if you are proven to be the bio-dad later.

But….

If she changes her mind at any point the winds could push this thing to fall on your lap.

You need to learn about this law in your state, make a photocopy of it and approach her.
Say to her, ‘Hey if I am the babies Dad then I will do everything legally and morally I should do as the babies Dad. But if I am not this law concerns me. We need a paternity test for MY peace of mind.’.

This may be one of the most important things you do in your entire life.

Read my post, the joke may not be on the OP…..

I have got to find out what that law is called.

If they don’t learn from their mistakes the first time they’re probably not going to listen to some person online bitching at them for the mistake they’ve made the first time.
This is the Asylum guys..either give the kid advise or get the fuck out. He’s already going through a shitty time and this is suppose to be the place you get to go for help not to feel more like garbage.

Good luck kid. Hopefully she’ll do the right thing and will want to know who the real father of her kid is.

This is the Asylum guys..either give the kid advise or get the fuck out. He’s already going through a shitty time and this is suppose to be the place you get to go for help not to feel more like garbage.

Good luck kid. Hopefully she’ll do the right thing and will want to know who the real father of her kid is.

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There are loads of people here who gives crap to people and then when they later ask for advice themselves and get the same crap they freak out.
A few of them posted in here, you know who you are.
Then again, this is a forum on internet, it’s very few who walk their talk.
UPDATE..
Well I found out today she actually had the baby last thursday 4/3/08. She didn’t even have the decency to tell me. I am BEYOND mad. I called her phone and her bf answers. He asked me why I was calling. I said I wanted to see about the baby. He said it was none of my business and to never call this number again or there would be consequences. I told him to fuck off. He hung up. They are giving me such a hard time. DAMN.

UPDATE..
Well I found out today she actually had the baby last thursday 4/3/08. She didn’t even have the decency to tell me. I am BEYOND mad. I called her phone and her bf answers. He asked me why I was calling. I said I wanted to see about the baby. He said it was none of my business and to never call this number again or there would be consequences. I told him to fuck off. He hung up. They are giving me such a hard time. DAMN.

It’s probably not even yours.

UPDATE..
Well I found out today she actually had the baby last thursday 4/3/08. She didn’t even have the decency to tell me. I am BEYOND mad. I called her phone and her bf answers. He asked me why I was calling. I said I wanted to see about the baby. He said it was none of my business and to never call this number again or there would be consequences. I told him to fuck off. He hung up. They are giving me such a hard time. DAMN.

Get a lawyer, get a paternity test. Don’t talk to them unless it’s through your lawyer. Update us when you get the results.

OP, if you find out after everything the child isn’t your will you continue you try and talk to the girl?

OP, if you find out after everything the child isn’t your will you continue you try and talk to the girl?

That, indeed, would be the epitome of "lesson not learned."
uptown josh’s brother signing in:

Get this josh just got a call from the Sherriff’s deputy saying they got a call from the boyfriend saying that josh is harrassing and threatening him and if he comes to the house he will press charges for trespassing.

What a bitch. That’s some bullshit.

maybe.. maybe not. But I still want to know.

OP, if you find out after everything the child isn’t your will you continue you try and talk to the girl?

HELL NO!!

uptown josh’s brother signing in:

Get this josh just got a call from the Sherriff’s deputy saying they got a call from the boyfriend saying that josh is harrassing and threatening him and if he comes to the house he will press charges for trespassing.

What a bitch. That’s some bullshit.

Do you guys not realize why you two have really no justifiable reason to complain about this shit?

You got yourselves into it…so stop complaining, do what needs to be done, and move on.

Bitching and moaning about it will solve NOTHING, and may give you a bad attitude which is not going to help your image when dealing with the lawyers and other legal people.

Face it, the bf is going to hate josh, because he either got his gf pregnant, or she cheated with him.

Stop focusing on her. You can’t do squat about her. Since you are family, you CAN help out your brother (and yourself) and seriously try to figure out why you you two get yourselves into such fucked up situations.

Do you guys not realize why you two have really no justifiable reason to complain about this shit?

You got yourselves into it…so stop complaining, do what needs to be done, and move on.

Bitching and moaning about it will solve NOTHING, and may give you a bad attitude which is not going to help your image when dealing with the lawyers and other legal people.

Face it, the bf is going to hate josh, because he either got his gf pregnant, or she cheated with him.

Stop focusing on her. You can’t do squat about her. Since you are family, you CAN help out your brother (and yourself) and seriously try to figure out why you you two get yourselves into such fucked up situations.

I plan to.

I bet its neither one of theirs

haha wouldn’t it be something if it turns out to be another different race entirely!!

you should read the book Sperm Wars by Robin Baker. It will open your eyes…
UPDATE:

I know this is an old thread but i just wanted to let everyone know I’m NOT a father. After much waiting the paternity test was finally done.

A little twist she is back at work now. As part of my job I have to work with her. She has apologized for everything. As long as I’ve known her this is the only time she has said she was sorry. She says a lot of the correspondence was her boyfriend writing emails to me. I have accepted her apology partly because I have to work with her 6+ hours a day and partly because I think she is genuinely sorry about how the situation turned out. We are actually getting along better than we ever have as just friends nothing more. This didn’t turn out so bad.

UPDATE:

I know this is an old thread but i just wanted to let everyone know I’m NOT a father. After much waiting the paternity test was finally done.

A little twist she is back at work now. As part of my job I have to work with her. She has apologized for everything. As long as I’ve known her this is the only time she has said she was sorry. She says a lot of the correspondence was her boyfriend writing emails to me. I have accepted her apology partly because I have to work with her 6+ hours a day and partly because I think she is genuinely sorry about how the situation turned out. We are actually getting along better than we ever have as just friends nothing more. This didn’t turn out so bad.

DO NOT let this turn into more…again.

UPDATE:

I know this is an old thread but i just wanted to let everyone know I’m NOT a father. After much waiting the paternity test was finally done.

A little twist she is back at work now. As part of my job I have to work with her. She has apologized for everything. As long as I’ve known her this is the only time she has said she was sorry. She says a lot of the correspondence was her boyfriend writing emails to me. I have accepted her apology partly because I have to work with her 6+ hours a day and partly because I think she is genuinely sorry about how the situation turned out. We are actually getting along better than we ever have as just friends nothing more. This didn’t turn out so bad.

Yay, you aren’t the father

we really need a "you are not the father" dancing smiley
Sooo uhhh.. did they do a parternity test on the fiance? Is he the father or they just did it on you? I’d feel so bad if I knew they did it on just you and they’re assuming its the other guy but it might not be at all.. I mean, hell, if she could cheat on a 5 year relationship, get with a guy she works with, gets knocked up.. whats not to say she didn’t fool around with other dudes?

That’s exactly what I did ran around screaming hell nah I’m not the Pa!!

Just the fiance. It came back > 99.9999% or something to that effect saying it was his. I’ll take those odds!

I don’t plan on it. I’ll admit I’m a very forgiving person though. My friends and family think I’m crazy for forgiving her. But I feel it’s the right thing to do. Feels a lot better than holding a grudge for months! I blame it on immaturity on both of our parts and carelessness. She’s grown up a lot since having the baby. I’m happy, she’s happy, the fiance is happy, we are all happy!

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