Yeah, so today I found out my ex-gf from 12 years ago is doing quite well for herself. So well, in fact, that it makes me feel like a complete nothing. She has accomplished so much more in her life than I have. Before I go on, a quick background story.

THEN:
-We dated for about 6 months, we both we in love with each other, we admitted this.
-She broke up with me for no reason, saying she did not want a serious relationship (later found out she was cheating on me with her abusive ex-bf, another guy in her dorms, and a bottle of vodka)

-After said break up, she dated 6 guys at one time
-6 months later, she is engaged to a minor league hockey player.
-2 years after they are engaged, she cheats on him. He basically found her in bed with another man.
-A year after that, she ended up in rehab for drug and alcohol abuse.

NOW:
-She got married in 2004, when she was 28 (the husband was then 44, yuck bad age difference)
-She went on to coach a girl’s lacrosse team at the local high school in the town which she lived in.
-She continued to pursue her master’s degree and is finishing it up now.
-Her and her husband both have two businesses at the moment
-She has written two books on Adobe Photoshop (yes, written)
-She has interviewed and wrote and article in a hockey magazine where she got to interview Sidney Crosby.

Now, part of me is very happy she turned her life around. I’m glad to see someone really turn their life around like this and be happy.

In the other sense, I think to myself "Because of the person she once was, did she really deserve to have all these good things happen to her?" I know I shouldn’t judge on one’s past, but it amazes me that I’ve always been such a good person and haven’t had any of these amazing things happen for me no matter how hard I try (it seems the harder I try, the harder I fall).

P.S.
Expecting responses such as:
"sounds like she is doing awesome for herself and you need to grow up"
and
"get over your ex"
and
"Only way you can do these things is if you make them happen for you"

Agreed – except for the 2 books thing, which is pretty cool. Besides, almost everyone makes their lives sound better when they tell others about it – especially ex’s. I’m sure there are some crappy things about her life that she just didnt mention and, like the rest of us, her life isnt all sunshine and daisies.
all those things happened for her, likely because she was motivated to make them happen. peoples past, technically should not be weighed against their future, and your life is what you make it.

are you by chance, feeling like you were ripped of an opportunity to share her life, which ended up being much better than when you knew her?
I dont see the problem, you should be happy for her, not resentful.
Well up until the two books thing I didn’t think much of her. Plenty of people own businesses and still don’t make much profit.

But you don’t know the whole story either. What if you found out the reason she married a guy that age was because they both had HIV and thats how they met. Random I know but you don’t know the whole picture.
I’m at point where I think thats how life is. Some people have a great life and others do not.
No, all of those things happen because her husband is rich and she is going for a ride. Only reason a girl would marry an older guy like that.
I have an ex from 12+ years ago that is doing VERY well for himself. He got into real estate when the market here was booming a few years ago and he made out like a bandit. He now lives in a $500K house with a pool and horse property, which is something I always dreamed about (horse property).

He was probably the flakiest person in the world when I knew him. I’m glad he turned things around for himself and isn’t 35 years old and still blowing paychecks on CDs and other toys. BUT….knowing him as a person, and knowing his family….I am REALLY glad we’re not together. It just would never have worked.

I’ll take our avereage home, average salary, and average lifestyle over being wealthy but miserable any day

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Get over it dude, her life doesn’t even sound 1/4 as amazing as I was expecting. Sounds like she was a massive whore who married an old guy for his money/status and now is reaping the benefits of that.

Move on.

We don’t have to read all that to tell you what you need, and you need to stop thinking about it if you were motivated to type that much…

grow a fucking dick, and go take what is yours in the world. The world is ran by people who show up, and you’re not showing up because you’re a pussy. So get serious about taking what is yours. If you think you’re sad now and you miss this chick, you’re really going to feel pathetic when you’re 80 years old, and crawling in bed for the last time thinking about all the things you could have done.

You have 18,000 days left, no one is going to live them for you.
I’m not a wealthy person. I’m still very young but i consider myself very well off.
First, i put my son first and make sure he has what he needs and he loves me for it.

Second, i work hard for what i have.

Third, my family is very important to me and i know they’re always there.

I’m consider myself "better off" than most in my graduating class even though some make more money than me.
Nice guys finish last. That’s just the way it is.

You don’t truly know how happy she really is. People are good at hiding their inner feelings with material things. Fact is you can’t buy happiness.

Your ex-gf doing well for herself is not what is making you feel like nothing. You are letting yourself feel like nothing.
Well, it took a friend of mine to help me out on this one…

Basically, what I feel, is that I have been doing mostly the same thing for 7 1/2 years. I think it’s getting to me, but I might be getting that break soon. I just found out recently the company I have been with for this amount of time is selling to another company (and have not told employees, only me, my co-worker and my boss know). So right now, I have no idea where my job is headed or if I will even be employed in two weeks…

But I was telling a friend about this, and told him I did not know what I was going to do and he put it into perspective and said "You can do anything you want to do, that’s the best part about it." I also found out his wife is a publisher and he offered to have her publish a book series I wanted to write on. So, maybe things will look up for me
a really wise person once told me "you may be jealous because friends or co-workers are successful at something, but they may have problems in another aspect of their life, where you really excel"

something like that. it’s really good advice to remember when you get jealous.

that may not be true…that isn’t even that big of an age difference.

24 years isn’t a big age difference to you?

And maybe you’re right, but he still shouldn’t give a shit about what his whore of an ex gf (of only 6 months) is doing 12 years later in life. He should be working on achieving what he wants to achieve.

28 and 44 is 16, not 24. I think over 20 is kind of a lot. But I don’t really think 28 and 44 is a big deal if he’s active and "acts young."

I hang out with like a 75 year old dude that dates 50 year olds because he in no way looks that old.

true…read the little thing I posted. I’m very critical of myself and compare myself to others WAY too much. It will seriously ruin your life if you obsess over it, you have to live for yourself.

read the ages wrong. And yeah, I could never even imagine dating a guy 10 years older than me, tops. I also think there’s a huge difference in where you are in life when you are 28 dating a 44 year old as opposed to a 70 year old dating 50 year olds, but that’s just me

I was making a joke on her considering the way he described her sounded exactly like the kind of girl who would marry an older man for his money or status.

Good quote BTW.

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