how do you tell that you are really in love with your so?

How do you tell that you are in love with your significant other? should it be instant love or can love build into true love over years?
you dont have to ask yourself.. you will know i know it’s not the answer you’re looking for, but keep trucking
There is no such thing as instant love. Only instant attraction or instant infatuation. Love has to build over time.

I made a thread in the Vag a long time ago about love "growing" and how it tends to be a far deeper love than the bullshit "love" people claim after 3 weeks with someone; when they swear they know "everything" about a person, when in reality they’ve only scratched the surface.

I know it’s cliche, but I feel like you can’t really explain it. Like another poster said, you just "know" you’re in love.

I stopped saying things like that since I’ve heard so many people say they were "madly in love" and when I asked them what they love so much they said bullshit like "we like all the same music, she’s hot, she’s smart." Naming everything on the surface or just things that make someone go "Oooo, they like all the things I do! We are perfect for each other."

Lots of people convince themselves they are in love because they want to be in love so desperately.

I don’t blame people for this though. We feel better about ourselves when we know others like us.

Who is to blame then?

no one.
You’ll know. It takes time, but you’ll know. Not really something that you can describe, but is a great feeling once you’ve realized you are in love.

I know it’s no one’s "fault" I just found it funny that he chose that choice of words.

I blame you!

you’re in love with a person when you are able to be completely and utterly honest with them, and not fear about their response, and when they can do the same with you
Someone is in love with me but I am fairly certain I am not in love with them.

Which really sucks. I mean, she’s cool, we like the same music blah blah blah but she feels a connection to me that I do not feel to her.

One of those things you just know.
I believe that you an "fall in love" quickly, but true love builds over time and is much more gratifying and meaningful.

How do I know I love my husband? Even when he pisses me off and I want to strangle him, I would be there in an instant if he needed me for anything. I trust him with my life, and with our child’s life. When he looks at me in "that" way, after 5 years, I still get butterflies in my tummy. The thought of him not being in my life… i can’t even verbalize it.

Just don’t say it back unless you mean it!

And this post made me laugh considering I made this post earlier

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