Every Friday and Saturday night…

I am sad in my room.

Because I have nothing to do, and my friends are out having fun. My only friends drink every weekend, and I don’t. So I don’t hang out with them on weekends unless it’s earlier in the day.

I have nobody to hang out with, even though I’m pretty social. My only option is to volunteer with my old friends, but I hate doing that. So much bullshit, drama, politics, etc.

Sorry if you’ve seen this same thing posted by me 20 times before. Today is not a happy day for me. Well, no Friday’s and Saturday’s are happy for me but wtvr…

And my brother was my best friend until he got a girlfriend who is now his fiance. He doesn’t even make time to hang out.
And I also realized today that some things I’ve been working on in the past year are going to happen within the next two months, and I’m nervous about it.

Because if they don’t go as planned, I’m gonna be very sad.
But hey! Tomorrow is father’s day and I’m going to eat with the family so I guess that’s cool.

A lot of people don’t have dads, so I should be thankful.

Awww… I’m sorry man.

Seriously. It sucks.

be happy
why not go out with your friends and just have a single drink or sip on something all night?

i know if i try it i will like it. if i like it i will be an alcoholic. i am a candyholic, sodaholic and a nailbitaholic and can’t stop. so i know this would be the same. here is why though:

-my dad drinks (very little maybe a beer every other night) and i hate it.

-my mom would be very dissapointed in me.

-as it is, me and my friends are underage so we shouldn’t be drinking anyways.

-i think that drinking is very low class and look down on anyone who drinks, and don’t want to do that.

-in my community, people talk, and everyone and their parents know i’m a good kid who doesn’t drink, smoke, etc, etc and i get respect for it and i’d like to maintain it. it doesn’t mean too much right now, but in my [religious] community when it’s time to get married, the lady’s family will not allow you to get married because of shit you’ve done in the past. i have a cousin going through this right now.

whatever it is, i hate alcohol and can never see myself using it. basically, that’s not an option.
If it makes you feel any better, last night I stayed home to play Wii

i know if i try it i will like it. if i like it i will be an alcoholic. i am a candyholic, sodaholic and a nailbitaholic and can’t stop. so i know this would be the same. here is why though:

-my dad drinks (very little maybe a beer every other night) and i hate it.

-my mom would be very dissapointed in me.

-as it is, me and my friends are underage so we shouldn’t be drinking anyways.

-i think that drinking is very low class and look down on anyone who drinks, and don’t want to do that.

-in my community, people talk, and everyone and their parents know i’m a good kid who doesn’t drink, smoke, etc, etc and i get respect for it and i’d like to maintain it. it doesn’t mean too much right now, but in my [religious] community when it’s time to get married, the lady’s family will not allow you to get married because of shit you’ve done in the past. i have a cousin going through this right now.

whatever it is, i hate alcohol and can never see myself using it. basically, that’s not an option.

lol you need to relax man. All the shit you just listed is so superficial. I knew a guy who was a jehovah’s witness. Exercised all the time, never smoked, never drank, always went to church. Was a very moral person. Guess what? He died early of leukemia. If you don’t want to do something, thats fine but don’t let others opinions sway you. Life is short enough as it is.. who gives a crap.
You know, you could get a soda and still go out with them. I doubt they’d give a shit.
Eh, what’s the big deal if you don’t do something Friday or Saturday nights? It’s not like you don’t have friends, they just happen to like something that you don’t. Sounds like you need to find a new friend or two to hang out with if you really need to be doing something Friday and Saturday nights.

That too…
Why not go out and not drink? I go out but i don’t drink and alot of people do. There is nothing weird about that.
Maybe i missed something, but i really don’t see the problem.
Get more friends.
Find more friends with your common interests. In other words, if you like biking, find a biking group. If you like books, find a book club. ect. ect.

But also, I hate when people use that stupid excuse "I don’t drink so I can’t hang out with all my friends who drink. It sucks to be the sober one amongst drunks."

I hang out sober around my friends while they drink all the time and I have a great time! Unless you are a recovering alcoholic it’s a lame excuse. I’d take being out with friend sober at a bar far faster then sitting at home moping on the internet.

now that sounds like a solution.
sounds like you would make a great designated driver which everyone needs…..
The only way to escape from it is if you aknowledge in your mind that YOU are the one who has to make an effort, understand this in life my friend: Waiting WONT work.

You can sit in your room all day and i can garentee you nothing will happen, EVER!

All the initiative in life has to come out of yourself. Life is not a hotel, were you’d call roomservice, and beautifull people will ring on your door to entertain you. Hell i know you want that, i would want that too, but life unfortunatly doesn’t work that way. It always works with an investment from out of yourself.

Even if your alone, you could goto the movies, you could go to the gym during the weekend, you could goto the golf club if there’s any near you, as it is a really social place. Or invite your friends to the racetracks instead of them drinking during the weekends, that’s also a new variation on their life, or go bowling with them earlier on the day.

the cause and solution to all life’s problems

Find more friends with your common interests. In other words, if you like biking, find a biking group. If you like books, find a book club. ect. ect.

But also, I hate when people use that stupid excuse "I don’t drink so I can’t hang out with all my friends who drink. It sucks to be the sober one amongst drunks."

I hang out sober around my friends while they drink all the time and I have a great time! Unless you are a recovering alcoholic it’s a lame excuse. I’d take being out with friend sober at a bar far faster then sitting at home moping on the internet.

which is why i asked why he cant have a single drink and just sip on it the whole night.. but if its that big of a deal than you need to find some new people who like to just chillout at people’s houses or play some video games or something at night… while still maintaing your friendship with the other people during the day.
Ok, sometimes I’m a big drinker, some nights I’m not.

In fact, I’m quite often driving so don’t have a drink all night when I’m in a bar/at a party.

It’s really not a big deal. Sitting moping in your room is not going to solve anything. And, in reality, saying things like I view drinking as being lower class marks you out as a bit of a twat. Sorry to be harsh, but an attitude like that means that people view you as a snob, and basically don’t want to spend time with you.
"hanging out" is so overrated.

My friday night ended at 9pm. Went out for happy hour, Phils game came on and then took off and went home. Worked a bit saturday AM and then got home and didn’t leave the house afterwards. Didn’t even think about "hanging out" and any of that shit.

It’s fun from time to time, but I’d rather just watch tv and bullshit on the net instead of doing a lot of nothing.

what sorta religion are you so afraid of offending, or whatever it was..
i dont drink or smoke anymore but i go out to clubs and bars with my friends for the social experience, order a club soda or sprite or something and hollar at girls

itll build up your social skills
There’s a million things you could go do.. but you can’t sit around and wait for people to call you to do something.

If no one says anything.. sure I’ll just chill with friends and drink.. but if someone suggests mini golf then hell yeah we’ll call up some girls and have fun doing that!

butttttt.. if your friends turn down everything to go drink, then you need new friends
Seriously….go out with your friends and just don’t drink. Be the DD (designated driver). I can tell you I have a total blast watching all my drunk friends making total fools of themselves and being able to tease them about it later.
On a more serious note though, I also am the person they rely on to not let them do something really stupid that they will regret later.
I agree totally with Darketernal….life is not a hotel where you can order room service…very good metaphor….

Ok, sometimes I’m a big drinker, some nights I’m not.

In fact, I’m quite often driving so don’t have a drink all night when I’m in a bar/at a party.

It’s really not a big deal. Sitting moping in your room is not going to solve anything. And, in reality, saying things like I view drinking as being lower class marks you out as a bit of a twat. Sorry to be harsh, but an attitude like that means that people view you as a snob, and basically don’t want to spend time with you.

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well here i am again… in my room and all my friends are out.

one thing that you need to understand is when you’re 18, there’s much more pressure to drink vs when you’re 21.

i do not like biking, i like the beach, but the beach is far. i like being a computer nerd, but i don’t wanna be in a computer club. i like learning about business, but hate talking to people about it. i like the movies but i wouldn’t wanna go alone.

i am happy though, because last night i talked to two old friends. one guy, one girl who go to school here, and will be back at the beginning of august. both are great friends from middle school when i used to live in houston, and they don’t drink!

which means they probably have some cool school friends who don’t drink also. i am happy today. don’t get me wrong. even though i kinda do get tired of being in my room, i am still overall a happy person and i enjoy hanging out alone online, watching movies at home, watching tv, listening to new music, reading blogs, etc. btw, not trying to sound cool online… but if anybody in my community (religion) read this post they would be like because a lot of them think i’m so perfect based on what they see like what i wear, how i’m pretty cool , the car i drive, the house i live in, how may posts i have online, etc. but srsly, thanks guys. even though i know i won’t ever follow any advice but my own because i’m very conservative and like my strange ways, thanks ot.

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one thing that you need to understand is when you’re 18, there’s much more pressure to drink vs when you’re 21.

I think the majority of us are familiar with this demographic…

If abstinence is so strongly rooted in your life, I don’t see why you wouldn’t be able to handle peer pressure. Like everyone else said, just sign on as the DD. You’d have to be a total fuckass to make your driver drink.

edit: That’s cool you’re meeting up with old friends, but there’s no reason you can’t hang out with your current friends.
And seriously. Your friends will like you more for driving than for drinking.
there’s notthing wrong with having a couple drinks, just make sure you know when to stop! I don’t go out and drink as much as before, I’m usually at the gym on friday and saturday nights. It sucks when your single and the rest of your friends aren’t
This sounds a lot like me. Sometimes I don’t mind it but sometimes I really do wish I went out a little more. A lot of my friends are tied down (kids) or not in the area anymore. I have plenty of friends (or acquaintances) but I don’t open up very easily. I own my own house so there’s always something to do around here.

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