Finding your soul mate in your early 20′s or after 30..whats the difference
Is there a difference at all. Lets say there are no kids involved and neither one of you have been married. What is so different from starting a relationship with your soul mate in your early to mid 20′s versus after your 30′s?
I would think you’re both probably more mature and responsible in your 30′s. Smarter with decisions, probably more ready to be parents.
The reason I ask this is because I’m in my mid 20′s now and never been close to being in love or a real serious relationship. I’m not depressed or anything it just makes me sad sometimes knowing that I don’t have any memories of being in love in my "younger years". Like no high school sweet heart, no college sweet heart, no girl in my life in my early years. Now I’m basically working career type jobs so that "freedom" is gone where you can just do whatever you want with your g/f.
I guess the bottom line is that now that I’m at my age now, most girls I date are going to be in there career mode too and that can be a huge distraction on a relationship. Not always but it doesn’t allow you to be as spontaneous as a couple in there late teens or early 20′s.
Nothing wrong with it.
You’ll find the right person when the time is right for you to.
And if you wait until 30s, hopefully the chicks will be less immature and dramatic.
There is no such thing as a "soul mate". It is a made up concept that humans created so long ago. No other animals in nature have "soul mates". We have higher capacity brains that allow us to be creative, so we create ideas and concepts that are pleasing to our conscious and subconscious. There are some people that you just connect with and get along with better than others.
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Although you may assume that a partnership of two soul mates should be able to handle challenging times well, that may not always be the case. Just because they are in tune to one another, are each willing to take responsibility for their role in contributing to the conflict, and are both committed to making the marriage a successful one — the marriage can still fall apart if other essentials such as love, respect, and communication are missing. Many people have probably already married their soul mates and simply don’t realize it. The danger in believing in the concept of soul mates is taking your marriage relationship for granted. If you start looking for perfection in your spouse, or think that everything in your relationship should immediately click, and that there won’t be any problems, you are setting yourself up for a dose of heavy disillusionment. There can be temptation to bail out of an unhappy marriage because you think your spouse isn’t your soul mate. If you think that marrying your soul mate will mean a life free from hard times and conflict, you are not facing reality. If you think you’ve not married your soul mate, don’t just walk away from the relationship for that reason alone. Spend some time getting to know yourself a bit better first. You can’t find your soul mate if you haven’t found yourself. |
Very good answer, with all the replies to the OPs stuff as well.
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And if you wait until 30s, hopefully the chicks will be less immature and dramatic.
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I don’t think chicks ever grow up. Most of the women I know are in their 30s and they’re just as idiotic as the younger ones.
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