Is she interested?

To make a long story short, about a year ago, I told a female friend of mine that I was interested in her. I basically said how I like who she is as a person and that she’s beautiful. She went away to college but we’re now working together again. We flirt quite a bit and it seems there is interest coming from her. Am I looking to far into this or should I pursue?

Circumstances are a bit weird – she’s 19 and i’m 24 and she works for me.
Sooo at the end of the summer she’s going back to college, wherever that is?

I say not worth it unless you are just looking for a fling.

Sooo at the end of the summer she’s going back to college, wherever that is?

I say not worth it unless you are just looking for a fling.

Yea, going back to college. She’s in NC and i’m in FL.

Yeah, pointless unless you just want a straight up fling.

Her family lives in the area.. so she visits often.

Doesn’t sound like you care for anyone’s opinion then.

I’m sorry, I do. I guess I’m just blind to the truth because I’m really interested in this girl. The age is a factor but I think it’s more "what will people think" than "is she mature enough to keep my interest". We have intelligent conversations all the time and we always laugh together.
I have learned that age is not a big big factor in a relationship, but more along the lines of maturity. If you think you both want and can sustain a good relationship then go for it, youve got nothing to loose. As far as what other people think?… so long as you and the person of interest are happy and within legal age, why should you give a shit?

I agree on the age thing. I guess I was to concerned with what others thing. As for maturity, she’s definitely more mature than most 19 year olds.

Everyone who wants to date a younger person says that

I know you’ve been chatting with her for a while but you don’t actually know her. If you actually started to date her you’d get to know the real her and how mature she handles situations.

The only reason I think it’s silly is just because you have to build a really strong foundation of a relationship before you start an LDR. She’s only 19 and goes out of state for college. Meaning she’s probably having a blast meeting all kinds of men at the most life-changing time in her life thus far. While you are 24, living hours away with a full-time job doing the day to day norm. You could easily meet women local to you that you could connect with. This girl just happened to fall right into your lap basically because she works for you.

While you might think it would be fine because she comes to visit her parents occasionally remember that she comes home how many times a year? to visit her parents. In other words, there could easily be a battle for how much time she spends with you and how much with them when she even comes to visit.
I’ve always flirted with my bosses. Easiest way to get the best schedule and even helps with raises on occasion.

But seriously, she’s 19 and goes to school in another state. Maybe she’s looking for a fling – she’s NINETEEN. You’re her boss. To her it could be a fun summer thing, so while she may be interested, I wouldn’t waste your time. When she visits, it will be to see her family and come back to work over breaks. Not to see YOU. I don’t think you guys have a great future ahead of you.

I’ve always flirted with my bosses. Easiest way to get the best schedule and even helps with raises on occasion.

But seriously, she’s 19 and goes to school in another state. Maybe she’s looking for a fling – she’s NINETEEN. You’re her boss. To her it could be a fun summer thing, so while she may be interested, I wouldn’t waste your time. When she visits, it will be to see her family and come back to work over breaks. Not to see YOU. I don’t think you guys have a great future ahead of you.

I was also going to point out that if I was 19 and had a cute boss your age I’d be flirting up a storm too because I knew it would go nowhere and the validation is fun
Thanks for putting things into perspective. I guess I don’t really know what I’m looking for in all this. Whether it be a fling or something else. I came out of a 7 year relationship 11 months ago so I’m trying hard to move on, I guess.

Starting another "relationship" might not be the way to go. Have you really been putting yourself out there and tried meeting new women since the breakup?

A lot of people out of a relationship tend to get lazy and never actually do anything new or try to meet people, they just hope someone falls into their lap, which limits your dating pool and also tends to make people settle. Not that you are settling necessarily, but you are already dreaming up a relationship with a 19 year old who lives most of the year a few states away.

Starting another "relationship" might not be the way to go. Have you really been putting yourself out there and tried meeting new women since the breakup?

A lot of people out of a relationship tend to get lazy and never actually do anything new or try to meet people, they just hope someone falls into their lap, which limits your dating pool and also tends to make people settle. Not that you are settling necessarily, but you are already dreaming up a relationship with a 19 year old who lives most of the year a few states away.

I guess this has been my biggest problem. I haven’t really "gotten out there" all that much since the break up. I have been pretty depressed.
Women are attracted to men in power… being that you’re her boss she probably sees that in you. However I believe just just sounds like a "fling". I wouldn’t put all your hopes in that a relationship develops out of this. That will just make you act wierd.

Also I highly do not recommend having a fling with someone you work with. But if something just happens, or she goes back to college but you see her again sometime when she’s back visiting family, hit that shit yo!

I hear ya man, we’ve all been there, or at least a lot have.

Where in FL do you live?

I hear ya man, we’ve all been there, or at least a lot have.

Where in FL do you live?

NE Florida, about 25 minutes north of Daytona Beach.

Women are attracted to men in power… being that you’re her boss she probably sees that in you. However I believe just just sounds like a "fling". I wouldn’t put all your hopes in that a relationship develops out of this. That will just make you act wierd.

Also I highly do not recommend having a fling with someone you work with. But if something just happens, or she goes back to college but you see her again sometime when she’s back visiting family, hit that shit yo!

I think the power thing has something to do with it. I’m not the arrogant type and I don’t abuse my power. I have come across several girls that are intrigued by this. Considering most of my staff is in the 19-22 range, this makes things very difficult.
Well, things have been up and down. The more I learn about her the more interested I am in her. She really is a great girl with alot of respect for herself (which interests me alot). She and I have alot of the same interests and seem like we could get along great. We are always laughing together.

What the hell am I doing?

I’m confused. Are suggesting to do it or not to do it?
Do eeett. I know its easier said then done. I still havent done it myself with the girl Im after. Gonna do it soon though.

The sooner the better. That way your not just stringing yourself along thinking she might be interested, all the while getting yourself more emotionally attached.

Make the move and then you will see for certain if shes interested or not. If not then you know to stop investing emotions in her.

Do eeett. I know its easier said then done. I still havent done it myself with the girl Im after. Gonna do it soon though.

The sooner the better. That way your not just stringing yourself along thinking she might be interested, all the while getting yourself more emotionally attached.

Make the move and then you will see for certain if shes interested or not. If not then you know to stop investing emotions in her.

Do you think it’s worth the risk given my situation (she’s an employee of mine)?
How permanent is the working situation? Are you both going to be there long term? If not then I say go for it. But if so, then the choice is up to you.

Personally if I thought the chance was good, I would probably go for it. I think its worth it to risk things being a little weird around her at work for a lil while if things dont work out, because what if things do work?

It also depends on how big of an impact it would have at work.

How permanent is the working situation? Are you both going to be there long term? If not then I say go for it. But if so, then the choice is up to you.

Personally if I thought the chance was good, I would probably go for it. I think its worth it to risk things being a little weird around her at work for a lil while if things dont work out, because what if things do work?

It also depends on how big of an impact it would have at work.

Full time position for me – seasonal for her. She works there every year and we’ve developed a good relationship. This year, more than any, we are doing things outside of work (along with others that work there as well). I have noticed she flirts much more when were alone (not around other co-workers) but I think this is for obvious reasons (doesn’t want to be seen as the one "flirting with the boss").

The age really isn’t a concern of mine and I’m not sure about her.
Ask her on a date already if it’ll shut you up

The longer you do what you are doing right now the longer she loses interest in you and you build up shit in your head. Get some sense though dude, she’s going to leave.

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