Well… Ive never posted in here, but I’ve lurked alittle…

My current situation is this. I am currently renting a room out of a nice townhouse from a person I met on Craigslist. This place is plush. I have a nice room, private bathroom, basically have the entire house to myself during the day, except for the dogs… Thats the plus.
The negative is the guy that owns the house is kinda a douche. He frustrates me just with how he acts and composes himself. Also he has these two ‘asshole’ dogs that bark all the time. Pisses me off enough to consider moving…

I moved in to this house back in March, telling myself that it would just be temporary.
Now the wrench in my system right now is…
A buddy of mine is in a hard spot. He needs a place to live and asked me if I wanted to get an apartment together and split everything. I dont mind the guy, we lived together before. Were good friends, get along great but his living habits sucks. He was never punctual on paying rent and utilites.
I really want to move out of where Im at. I cant afford to do it alone. But moving in with my buddy makes me nervious. I like knowing that Im gonna be chilling with my good friend again, but am not looking forward to chasing after bill money.
Alittle insight from the Asylum will definately help me out,
Thanks,
Brett

Whatever you do, don’t move in with the guy who doesn’t pay their bills on time. That will just lead to more stress and you having to hound him for money all the time. Don’t trade one bad situation for another bad situation.

Plan to move out but do it with people who pay their bills and whom you would have no issue confronting.

werd.

If he can’t figure out how to pay his bills on time, he doesn’t deserve to have a place to rent. It’s that simple.

X 11ty

Some friends ARE your friends because there is some distance between them and you.

I think my advice would be: Don’t trade one miserable thing with another, seek improvement!

Why keep holding on onto something you dislike? On the other hand, other places also have their +’s and -’sses , its likely that when you move to another place something else that sucks comes up. Its more like trying to find the place that sucks the least.

Don’t settle for less as you need to tell yourself that you deserve the best (that you can do within reasonable budget).

Going with your friend just trades the miserable dogs with the miserable habits of the friend.

Life is like a bus ride, if you are on a bus that doesn’t bring you to the place where you want to go, get off and get on a bus that brings you to a place where you DO want to be. Take effort and enjoy the possibility’s.

why do you feel the need to say the same thing 5 different ways?

anyways, all of the above stands true, don’t move in with your buddy if he can’t pay bills on time.

This is an easy one: Putting up with a quirky guy and his dogs is far better than living with a deadbeat who doesn’t pay his bills.

Your landlord is a douche with noisy pets. Big deal. Stay in your room and get a good pair of headphones. If it really gets bad you can always go for a walk, work out more, meet up with friends, whatever you need to do to get out for a while and get some space. On the other end, there really is no easy escape from a deadbeat roomie.

When you moved into your "temporary" housing, what was your long term plan? Are you still making progress toward that goal? Was your friend always part of the plan or is he diverting you away from it?

You’re not his mother. It’s not your job to boost him up. Do not move in with him because he’s "in a jam".

When I moved into this house, initially I was just looking for a quick place to stay while I tried to get my own personal issues straightened out. Now that Ive been there a couple months, I guess it is just the little things that are bothering me. I just miss being able to come home and shoot the shit with someone that relates to things I like. This guy and I are completely cool with eachother but we dont really click? If that makes sense. Always just small talk and then we go our seperate ways…
Living with my other friend was completely different in numerous ways. Him and I chilled all the time, goofed off, partied and honestly I really liked having his company. Chasing him around for $ was all month job. I would always pay the rent and utilities in full before the begining of the month, then just collect as the month went on…
Maybe Im just lonely…
I dunno…

Well you can’t have it both ways, broski. Remember that this isn’t your other friend and it won’t be like being with that other friend. If you don’t click and he doesn’t pay the rent on time then what are you getting out of it?

You have to remember to be your own person. Your will has to flow cleaning outside of you without others interfering. If this friend of yours is posing resistance then be aware of that. Evaluate and visualize the situation in your mind’s eye and imagine how the days will be like and if it will be a situation you like.

There is always a third option out there.

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