Ok heres the deal,

I’m 23 I just got my two year degree (it was a challenge for me I have a learning disability) I’m not retarted or anything but have some focusing/process issues. Anyway I just got the degree and need to make a decesssion that I can’t seem to make. I’m from jersey and moved to fl with my family. I HATE FL. I do like how people drive big trucks and I like the southern type of girl who likes animals etc. Anyway while living in Florida I had a huge drug problem from the time I was 21. I just stopped a month and a half ago.

So I want to get into sales or figure out a way to start a company. I just can’t decide what to do. Should I go to the Nyc area, somewhere else, or stay around my home in fl? I guess I’m scared to move. My parents offered to pay 2 months of my rent if I do move until I get on my feet. What should i do? how do I make the decession?
I think you need to apply for jobs in sales and decide where you live depending on who/where will employ you.

Starting your own business is a fine goal but not usually one that is accomplished overnight. Unless you’ve done far more research into the matter than you’re letting on; I’d say work towards your own business while you are employed somewhere stable and support yourself.

Moving sounds like a good idea if you are currently surrounded by bad influences (drugs). Just be smart about it, and don’t go halfway across he country without a job offer or place to stay.

I have an apartment for two months before I need to kick up rent. I like NYC and it shouldn’t be that hard to get some job to pay the bills there. I’m still confused.
If you just stopped using dope a month and a half ago and you are only 23 years old, it would be very wise for you to stay at home with your parents. You need their support to stay off that crap because it will ruin your life.

Get a job close to home, save up every cent, don’t buy fast food or big TV’s, pay no rent. In a couple of years you will have 40,50k dollars. Then a lot of options are open to you.
Starting a business requires planning years in advance. If you have trouble focusing and processing information, you should consider a job that doesn’t require much planning from you, to say nothing of running a business.

It’s nice to think we can all do anything we set our minds to, but reality doesn’t work that way. I have this dream where I can fly just by willing myself into the air, and in 28 years I’ve totally failed to get it to work in real life. It’s okay though, because I have a car to help me get places quickly.

I don’t usually agree with Spiritus but he’s got a good point here. I did this very thing and in four years I had enough money saved to buy a rental property. Admittedly that wasn’t such a great move in the near term, but it still proves the point that you can save a ton of money if you don’t have to pay rent.
MY only concern with staying close to home when you are trying to stay clean is running into people that may still be involved with drugs. I don’t do anything crazy but I know if I wanted to quit completely I would have to make all new friends, hang out at different places, etc. I feel like if I moved somewhere new where I didn’t know where to get stuff it would be a lot easier and less tempting to start up old habits. Granted, I’ve never had any interest in staying clean so I can’t really say from first hand experience that this has worked for me.
What kind of drugs are we talking about now? Uppers, downers?… (I assume it’s one or the other, highly doubt you’re making such a fuss’ over pot or psychedelics.)

Anyway, what makes you think jumping ship to another state is going to solve your problems? Almost sounds to me like you’re running from something (which won’t work). Why not return to New Jersey if you liked it there so much? NYC is expensive, and it’s not as easy to find a job as you might think. Our unemployment is at like 10% or some shit. You talk about your 2yr degree, like it’s a 4yr one (no offense, I don’t have either). And as far as creating your own business/company goes…. You have a lot of reading up to do, it’s not something that occurs overnight, it takes a lot of time and money, a business plan, research, you really have to know what you’re dealing with to succeed on your own like that.

I vote you stay on FL, find a good job, live at home for a while, stay productive, meet new friends.. and save money. Make the best of it for now. Get your shit together, and go from there.

Best of luck.

Amze, why would you say that he wouldn’t make a fuss over pot? When I did drugs I loved to get high and had an infinite supply of benzos and I loved dope. It would be no big deal to pop a car window in order to take some crap and sell it for a bag of weed. Drugs and crime are intimately interlinked. Not everyone will commit crime for weed, but others simply don’t give a crap and certainly will. Much fuss is made over weed and most pot smokers build their whole lives around it.

I am struggling with the idea of doing this. I am in university and college, two separate programs. One is an electrical program and the other a 4 year university program. I’m highly considering just finishing up my electrical apprenticeship then working for 4-5 years in that trade. Once in a while you go back for a couple of weeks to upgrade your training. So I would be advancing through the ranks of electrical and building myself a career while saving up every cent and living at home for free. I’ll be out of home by the time I’m 30 with my own house. I think this beats spending another 4 years in university as a broke student, and I can always go back (I want to).
As far as I can tell, unless you get married and your spouse has a job, you’ll have to go back to being a broke student when you go back to college no matter how much time you spend saving money. Also, spending your savings to sustain a lifestyle you can’t afford on a student’s part-time paycheck is its own brand of suckfulness, since you’re watching the money you saved go down the drain for several years straight. In some ways it’s easier to continue being a broke student than to take a break, make lots of money, and then have to revert back to being a broke student. I have two friends who fully intended to get PhDs, but since they had to take breaks to earn their own tuition money, one bailed after their Masters and the other bailed after their Bachelors. They said it was too hard to give up making money hand over fist and have to put up with academic BS all over again.

On the other hand, I have another friend who’s been in college for 15 years now, getting one degree after another, and she says she dreams of earning a decent paycheck sometime before she reaches middle age. So I guess it’s kind of a toss-up as to whether you get all your book-learnin’ done at once or in segments.
You will find the same people in nyc if that is what you want/hang out with.
The thing is I hate fl with the heat. I love north jersey. Seems like more jobs there as well. Family isnt that great support just money fyi

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