Only known the girl for maybe 4 months now… Easily worked her way up to best friend, mainly because I dont have any close friends…

In the beginning of the friendship, we got close, and she asked me to stop her incase she tried anything… Well… Im a guy who hadn’t received any female attention in a while, so I tried…

But since we’ve been getting closer and closer – started with sexual touching then kissing then almost sex, but we both stopped there.

And you’re wondering, well… Whats the problem..

She’s not only got a kid (which is no problem for me, love the little guy) but she still lives with the baby daddy…

Thing is, obviously everything isn’t going so well for them – but apparently they got in a fight today , non related to me afaik… And now she is all paranoid. Afraid she’s going to lose everything she has. Asked me today, that If we were to no longer be friends, would I tell on her… essentially scaring the shit out of me, cause I don’t want to lose her as a friend.

I had fun, I knew what I was doing, and she knew what she was doing. I am totally willing to stop the inappropriate stuff to continue to be her friend, but then again I would love to be able to pursue more too.

Right now we have agreed to take a break from eachother for a bit.. Im hoping that a break is all it comes to though… It will be hard for me to turn off ‘touchie feely mode" but I know I can if thats what it takes.

Thing is, She tells me about her current relationship all the time, how she doesnt feel attractive to him and how she wants out every other day. And shes told me the basic reason she is with him is the kid. I have theories and things I want to say to her about him, but I can’t anymore now that I have crossed the line from "friend" to "the other guy"… Its just going to make it sound like I want her to break it off with him for me.

This is one of my only ‘real’ friends, and pretty much the only one I can talk to about pretty much everything..

Pretty much down in the dumps right now and sick to my stomach. Just thought I’d Vent, ive been a lil lurker in here for a bit.

So you are trying to fuck a woman living with her bf and want what out of this relationship?
sounds like you’re each other’s therapists. Oh, and she’s semi cheating with you.

I know you say she’s a great friend/your only friend…but damn man, this is a bad bad situation to be in.

She’s either going to stay with the baby’s dad and use you as a best friend/therapist. You’ll be friendzoned and frustrated.

OR

She’ll stay with her baby’s daddy and cheat on him with you. You’ll be frustrated because you’ll have to share her with him

OR

She’ll dump him, and become dependent on you financially and emotionally.

Now, I’m confused. Which of those possibilities is it that sounds so great to you?

Cliffs: You’re screwed no matter what happens
You need to lose her as a friend until she gets her life in order.
I’m in a VERY similar boat, but the kid is possibly mine. I want to do right by the kid(if he’s mine) but I don’t want to ruin her marriage in the process.

I agree you need to step away from her until she’s ready to change into what you want from her/what she needs to be(whether that’s faithful to you or the baby’s daddy).
Good luck dude.

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