I’ve been dating this girl, Katie, for just about 9 months now. Met her freshman year at a party, and we’ve been hitting it off great ever since. End of freshman year we started hanging out a lot and I grew a huge crush on her. over the summer we talk via text, phone, Skype, Facebook, etc. we were literally talking to each other every day during the summer.

So when school starts back up in the fall, we instantly clinged to each other. we were always together and always in contact since her apt was a 5 min walk down the street from mine. so we started dating, things went awesome during the school year with a few bumps in the road like any relationship.

But now it’s summer again. we are both crazy for each other but we are separated by distance. over an hour away. she is still living around campus and I’m back home. we are both working 70+ hours a week, 6 days a week. and she is pushing closer to 80 hours. and it is because of this we barely talk anymore. mainly because I am working for the army and cant txt or call her during day. I am also asleep by 11 and waking up at 530 everyday. But she can’t txt or call either because she is working for Kirby vacuums going door to door demos, and doesn’t get home from work until 12.

The past 2 weekends we have seen each other and hung out all weekend. Once was last weekend she came with me to my cousins wedding. and this past weekend I went up to her house in CT. (I’m from MD) I met her family and friends and all that good stuff. But those past 2 weekends weren’t as fun as we hoped. all seem awkward like we didn’t know what was going on. we’ve lost the spark because we lost communication. So we talked and don’t know what to do. Whether or not we should break it off or just continue to grow apart.

So help me out OT. how can I do my part to help keep this relationship alive. I know neither one of us want to break up.

if you need anything explained just ask.
I’m assuming both of you are working these jobs for the summer until you go back to school in the fall?

You’re already doing as much as you can: Texing, calling, hanging out when you can. There’s only so many hours in the day. Short of quitting your jobs, what more could either of you expect from the other?

Keep doing what you’re doing and see how things go when school starts back up. If the "spark" is still there, then these summer separations are something you’ll just have to live with. It’s only a few months; not the biggest deal in the world. All good relationships have challenges & rough times. It’s not a non stop party.

If the spark is gone, then take comfort in that it would have fizzled out anyway; this summer thing just made it happen more quickly.

Meh, it’s only the summer. Just keep trying as much as you can
If you guys want to make it work you need to take time off to see/talk each other. It’s great that you have jobs and are trying to be responsible adults but you need to make that time if you want the relationship to work.

My gf and I are in the same boat, except that I graduated and won’t be going back to school next semester while she still lives there. We both work a lot as well (I’m fortunate to have some down time right now since I just finished one job). The only time we have to talk is when she gets home from work at 230 when I’m typically in bed. So I set my alarm for 230 and wake up so we can talk for half an hour or so. Last night we used face time on the ipod and watched ghost adventures together on the travel channel

You can make it work but you’re going to have to put in some dedication towards it by doing some unusual things like that. If you guys aren’t willing to go that extra mile or just can’t, then it’s time to let go and just be friends. Nothing wrong with that either. It’s part of life.
You could always go to the extreme to insure stability. Meaning moving right next to her. She could probably appreciate that.

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