I live in Houston and my life as of now, sucks.

To be brief I came to Houston to take a job with my family’s company and have moved in with my parents (who recently moved here). My problem is that outside of my work, where no one is within 10 years of me in age (I’m 25), I have no social life. I have no friends here and I feel like I’m wasting my youth. I do have hobbies, I workout 3-5 times a week, and play poker at a particular card game in town once or twice a week. However, I have been here since last October and still have yet to establish any kind of relationship outside of work. I also feel incredibly awkward at 25 looking to make new male friends. It is not like college where everyone is making the same adjustment you are and it is easy to meet new people. Anyone with similar experiences? How about some advice.

Yeah… pretty much same experience right now. Moved to the Dallas area, don’t know anyone. I’ve been here since February. Sucks bro, no advice, just sympathy. lol.
You’re both in cities with very active OT crews.

I feel like I’ve posted this same thing in like 10 different threads this past week.

Go in the crew subforum, start chatting them up, go hang out with people.

I did it. It worked for me. Read my posts from earlier this year, in this very forum. I was alone in a new city hating life, and the Dallas crew is what got me through that.
fuck it, i just moved to Austin and I am in the same boat, I got a bitchin pool you bring the beer..I got the food. except not until the weekend after this cause I am working 11 f’in days in a row
I just keep prowling online classifieds. I have met several interesting people so far but it hasn’t clicked. Keeps me busy from time to time.
There has to be something you like to do for fun that doesn’t require others to be involved before you can even start. (no, videogames and masturbation don’t count.) Do that, preferably in public, so people who also like it will notice and come talk to you about it.
I met a 28 year old married Asian woman at the mall yesterday from the Internet. We had a great conversation for over 3 hours and it was a good start to my day.

Take pictures of yourself from all angles, literally. Get to see how you are physically appearing in the world and just understand the impressions you give off. Just work with that and try to be outgoing a little more because it is summer.

If you are impoverished to the point where you can’t hold a conversation then you might need to read more. But read good stuff and stay away from politics. You can learn plenty of stuff about your society that can hold a conversation without getting into that issue.

They’ve got active meet up thread "buttons" across the top banner for all upcoming meet ups. Get out there and get some drinks and meet some people bro.

Weirdest post ever
i believe its a very common experience for a lot of people. the problem is everyone tries to keep up a happy public appearance and dont want to admit it, so you would normally think they are happier than they really are.
its hard to find friends after college because people have their own families, schedules and goals in life.
This is a common transitional period from youth to adulthood… there is a reason you don’t see too many adults going to hang out with their friends all the time, and that most of their friends are also co-workers… people you were friends with in school move away to pursue their own goals, they meet girls and have kids and then have a family to consider, this is all natural and unfortunately it is the reality that you have to give up at least in part the type of childhood friendships you are talking about. All of the adults (> 30) I have seen who still hang out with their high school or college friends on a regular basis are not the type of people I would want to become.
Also I would suggest getting out of your parents house ASAP… I understand if it is a convenience thing right now but if you’re out of college you need to be living in your own place.

What the hell are you doing meeting up with married women you meet online, do you think that is socially or morally acceptable behavior?
also, stop masturbating. I know you don’t believe me, and I know I’m not providing any evidence, but if you just stop it your subconscious desire to socialize will increase. It’s weird but it works.
i had the same situation when i first moved to philly, spent 6mos bored out of my mind after work and my weekends either infront of the tv or aimlessly walking around the city.

So i got a separate p/t job at the mall. Became the best thing i couldve done. I met a bunch of new people the same age and developed a good core group of friends. Quit the part-time job after a few months and couldnt have been happier.

You obviously haven’t seen him post much.

He posts a lot of weird shit, but once you get past the strangeness of it, he often has some good advice.
To the ts: I moved to a new country (Canada from the U.S., so not totally foreign, but different enough to throw me off) and knew no one but my husband. Over time I met his friends, but still felt like I needed to make my "own", so…I did. I complimented a kid who came into my work on his Mario wallet, saw him the next day at the same bus stop, said hi, and declared "We should be friends!" He was super confused, but we talked all the way home and it turns out he lives on the same street as me. My husband and I now game with him a few times a month and he’s a pretty chill guy. In another situation, I met a girl at Video Games Live (concert of video game music) and later found her on the FB event page for it and pretty much just told her the same thing…She, too, was a bit confused but said "Okay!" It’s a pretty ridiculous way to go about it, but it rarely fails me. I’m also really open with my home and often have people over for food and movies and make sure they feel like they can relax around me–no masks needed. Not everyone can get comfortable enough to be real with someone, but I’ve melted some pretty frigid people and they turned out to be great friends. I have no idea what your personality is like or how comfortable with people you are, but be confident and open with people, and you’ll find yourself with good friends before you know it. (NOT saying you have to do it my way…I’m just too impatient to go through the acquaintance stage. I meet someone, and if I like them, I am simply their friend…they come around soon enough. )

Edit: forgot to add that I moved from a small town of less than 2000 people to a city as well. A little overwhelming at first, for sure. I had a much harder time talking to people before coming here…then I figured fuck it, if they think I’m too weird, there will be someone else in a population of this many people who will put up with me. I have far, far better relationships now that I’ve gotten over myself than I ever did when I was shy but trying to impress from a distance.
I honestly hate life after college. All it has been is putting up with my friend bitchy wife and long term girls friends to the point I don’t even want to talk to them anymore. Try to make new friends and everyone is "busy"
Hell yes, my advice is weird and I am weird. However, just like in the jungle, sometimes a creature becomes weird as a survival mechanism.

Are you kidding me? I thought you were banned.

Anyways, she was OK with it. She told me she does it all the time and her husband is OK with it and trusts her. She moves around all the time and doesn’t stay around long enough in one place to be able to make long term friends. It was a great experience, we had a lot of fun. Who cares? Only you, apparently.

I also stand behind the advice of "stop masturbating". For literally a million reasons. Also, start doing pranayama. Menwomen need not ejaculate at all – people do not understand that the body can absorb the semen into itself. As long as you are not feeding lust, and causing that creative energy to go inwards and upwards – then it will completely absorb back into the body. This is called chastity, and it’s completely your choice. Everyone, even your doctor, will tell you that it’s perfectly OK to masturbate. If that is the case, then why do people feel so guilty about it afterwards? Make up your own mind, choose how you wish to be sexual. It is OK to have a wife as well, this is worth saying.

Who feels guilty? I certainly do not… Be more repressed

And just like in the jungle, if the single tree that is your entire evolutionary niche gets cut down, you die with it.

Who the hell feels guilty after masturbating? It’s not as satisfying as sex with a partner, but it’s sure as hell better than nothing and I’m glad I have the option.

People who think semen can be absorbed back into the body after it’s been generated don’t realize the severity of the damage that causes. Your body attacks the sperm cells like they’re a urinary tract infection — not to mention the rest of the fluid is the wrong pH to maintain urinary tract health — and the autoimmune reaction can cause scarring and sterility if it happens enough times.

The problem with your posts is not that you have an unusual way of looking at things, it’s that you support your views with information that you treat like factual evidence when it’s really just your (or someone else’s) opinion. You are intentionally misleading people and that is not helpful.

Spiritus can posts helpful information from time to time.. but then he’ll go and post something that’s completely off base, or quite a ways ‘out there’ (wherever the fuck that may be…) and it’s just like… Uh
Deus you can spread fear all you want. It’s nonsense. There are physical components in the body which are designed to reabsorb that stuff back into the body.

If that was true then what would happen to vasectomised men? The sperm is obviously safely absorbed back into the body. It cannot leave through the penis because the cords are cut.

Then I can throw in the fact that I’ve been physically chaste for years, without any health problems whatsoever. Me and 30 men were engaged in a men’s health circle this summer. Men age 18-60+ discussed any health concerns whatsoever and absolutely nothing of this nature was discussed. Rather, the men talked about normal guy stuff such as wanting a girlfriend or a problem with a wife.

So if you want to masturbate. Fine, your choice. What me and the other poster were agreeing on was that masturbation can leave you feeling alone, drained, and socially isolated. What are you so defensive about?

You haven’t come in years?

And can’t you still blow a load when you’re vasectomised, it’s just ‘sterile’ and can’t get a female pregnant.

who came first during this epic circle jerk??

just kidding but i mean come on that was wide open

i might have missed something but what about wet dreams? doesnt your body release the fluid for you?

There are people out there, probably numbering in the millions, whom which do not masturbate or ejaculate even during the peak of sex!

Furthermore, if they are engaging in a proper and healthy spiritual regime then they will not experience nocturnal emissions. Rather, their entire health will flourish.

This is an active effort because the semen contains an energetic principle that does not allow it to just stay bottled or contained. It is like bottling the sun which is of course, impossible.

If one does not know how to utilize that sexual energy positively, then it will manifest negatively.

Chastity, in the basic regard, is not difficult. Simply stop engaging in lust, find ways to express yourself through art or music in a beautiful way (which is a form of sexual expression, creative energy), utilize the breathe to propel the energy inwards and upwards.

There you have it. If you thought that masturbating or having sex in a certain lustful way was the only option, now you know that this is not the case. Now, if you wish, it is within your power to approach sexuality from a different angle.

We are of the view that sexual intercourse should be approached in a very sacred way. Others are of the opinion that it should be used for self gratification. The Holy Spirit is present in one, and shunned in the other. If you were wondering about the narrow and untraveled path full of thorns in the bible, you’ve found it. If you were wondering about the wide gate that leads to destruction and is travelled by many, you’ve found it.
Take up a hobby. I’ve made of bunch of new friends since starting jiu jitsu and motorcycling.

IL+1

I’m on the verge.

That was some of the stupidest shit I’ve ever read.

Even somebody who’s way spiritual and out there like "Alex Grey" would probably at some of the shit Spiritus posts.

You weren’t talking about complete abstinence before. You said tantric sex allows for arousal and stimulation without orgasm. Yes, sperm that isn’t prepared for ejaculation and reaches its "expiration date" is constantly being safely reabsorbed into the body by the immune system — HOWEVER, when sperm is integrated with the rest of seminal fluid in preparation for ejaculation (which is what happens when you get aroused and stimulated), it can no longer be safely absorbed into the body without causing damage. That’s why blueballs hurt so much. Coitus Interruptus is most definitely capable of causing physical damage if it happens too many times.
Also, don’t quote Catholic texts in support of chastity. Child sexual abuse is so rampant among the Catholic clergy that they’ve had to set up special counseling centers for the victims. We haven’t heard about it in America in a couple years now, but in Europe, Africa, and Southeast Asia the problem is still a very hot topic.

Believing the human body should work differently than it does has a ~0% success rate at making it actually work differently.
That has been addressed in my last post Deus, in regards to the Catholic clergy. The reason the abuse is so high is just as I said, if one does not know how to utilize the sexual energy properly, then they will utilize it negatively. So you have these Catholic priests who are told not to masturbate, not to have wives and are basically told to contain the sun.

In that scenario terrible things happen – pedophilia, obsession with child pornography, nocturnal emissions, masturbation within the priesthood, depression.

It’s unfortunate. The church originally had all the practices to deal with that, they also allowed priests to have wives. Due to an increase in dogma, a byproduct of ego and greed, the original teachings were loss and they only inherited that which veiled them. St. Francis had a spouse, this is undocumented. This is how he received his stigmata – 5 points in a stigmata, right? And during sex, there are normally 5 points of contact. The hands, the feet and the sexual organs. No?

The type of normal sexuality in which I am referring to, is pretty much undocumented. Any studies you dig up are very much unlikely to have been done on anyone who studies the Grand Arcanum or masonic mysteries.

Really, it’s only been about 50 years in which the sexual science has been publicly discussed, and even more so recently with the advent of the Internet. This is because the public profanes and degrades everything it encounters, except now… it is too late. This world is headed very quickly towards a third world war and the amount of time available to make use of the alchemical science is basically non-existent.

Come now,

these are just words.

No reason to be offended by them or react strongly.

If you consider yourself an intellectual person,

a person of intelligence,

then you will be quite interested in what little Spiritus was discussing on the Offtopic forums the other day.

The secure person is never threatened by words, the strong person never reacts strongly to words.

All of this has been written because one person had expressed the will to stop masturbating because they did not like the way it made them feel. For me, masturbation made life feel hollow and mundane. It would be cruel for me to leave that person in the dark and suffering as I had suffered.

No one knows everything or has the answer to everything. Investigate what I am saying here. Be both open and closed minded to it at the same time. Alchemy refers precisely to the Grand Arcanum, the Philosophical stone of the Freemasons. To be frank, you’re lucky to hear about it here and many would call me foolish to even mention it to you – because you won’t even take the time to understand.

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