I’m 22 years old and just recently got out of a 1 year relationship that was rocky at best. It was a fun, heated, relationship from the start and digressed into something miserable and toxic for the both of us. We both are young and on our way to college educations and agreed to base our 20s on the fact that neither of us wanted children, and we both wanted to travel and explore the world for the better part of our youth before we settled down.
My question relating to this relationship is how have you guys dealt with unresolved questions or feelings about the relationship, other than stuffing them down and forgetting about them? What I’m referring to are a few instances that I’ll talk about here. At the end of the relationship my girlfriend started acting very oddly. She became distant, looked kind of down and upset at times for no reason, and had extreme mood swings. She always had mood swings, but not in this way. Her attitude towards me would flip at the drop of a hat. I knew something was up, but I wrote it off because her grandfather whom she was extremely close with was very ill and in and out of the hospital. She attributed it to this, as did I. Then, one night she was going to her best friends birthday party. We had talked previously about it and she had mentioned that I should come up to the bar where they were. As I’m at work I text her and ask what’s up and what I should be doing after I get off. Nothing. I get done, give her a call, nothing. I shoot her another text. Nothing. Now before you say this and that about phones and such, she is the type of girl to have her phone glued to her hand in any other situation, and this in fact had caused many fights before. So I decide to walk up to this bar, which is literally a stones throw away from my house. It always worried me when she drank, because we’ve had incidents in the past with booze. She’s the type of girl to have 2-3 drinks and absolutely lose her goddamn mind in every way. She will go from an absolute horny mess all over me to drunken rages SCREAMING and yelling, and therefore she cut it out of her life. So I walked up, and found her. She was with her friends, but absolutely plastered. To make a long story short, the night ended with her screaming obscenities at me and us breaking up.
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