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I’m planning on asking this girl out in my 3D design class, I was going to do it last week but she ended up being sick. I ended up looking for her on myspace/facebook but no luck with search so I have to wait achingly until thursday or next tuesday when i have class with her.

Anyway…

Theres this other girl I am friends with and shes the coolest only girl I met. However she has a boyfriend and we’ve been pratically "buddies." Since i graduated we lost touch for a year until late last summer she calls me and text me and even wants me on aim to chat random shit. Apperantly her boyfriend is boring sometimes (i dont know much about him or even seen him) but I believe her relationship with him is just fine because she usually calls me about her stories and she feels comfortable telling me them.
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I can talk to girls, most of the time any girl.. confidently.. I will have stuff to say, jokes to tell.. Usually when i first meet a girl, that’s probably my best there… after than it kinda goes downhill.. and i can never turn their initial interest (which i can clearly see when i first meet them) into a relationship or a date… I tried to get their numbers fast, try to set up a date right away.. i tried playin it slow..

I dunno, just saying.. it’s kinda depressing really… My friends always tell me how impressed they are when they see me meet a chick.. but it never goes anywhere
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So I’ve been writing and planning this children’s book project for a class since I got the assignment three weeks ago. I’ve been shopping for supplies like five times and I spent a ton of money on it because in my mind I had this amazing vision for it………..

So I start putting it together this week…. Some things came up this weekend with my family and I ended up leaving…. So I mean its been kind of a shitty week for me. I was sleeping in my car in the driveway when I decided to go to my boyfriends without my stuff…. It cut a lot of time out of my work time….
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Hi everyone. Long time reader, first time poster. This forum is a gold mine for relationship advice/life problems.

Anyway, I’ve been dating my girlfriend for about 6 months. She had a job when we first met, but then she quit after about 2 months and she has been unemployed ever since. Whenever we go out, I always pay for everything, ALWAYS. She bought me a ticket once to go see a car show, which was only like $35 dollars. I have probably spent over $800 on her the last 6 months. We’ve gone to plenty of shows, seen movies, out to eat, we’ve done fun activities, I paid for it all.
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My bf of 2 years broke up with me last week and basically said he can’t be gay anymore. He wasnt really gay before he met me I guess, but we were in love. He grew up getting in and out of trouble for smoking weed and more. Ever since we broke up he has been going back to NVA a lot and hanging out with his old friends and getting wasted every night.

I do not want to see him throw his life away, I can’t take this. I want him, when we broke up I was mad at him about something stupid and so I didn’t even try to fight it, I acted happy. Now I fear I am too late…
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Hey guys…

this is a really long story, but in the short, my ex fiance and I broke up a month ago, I fell out of love with her because of what she became towards me a while back, I ended hooking up with someone else a week after and found it wasn’t what I wanted. Now I at first didn’t miss her, because I felt the whole time we were in the relationship I was being controlled and dominated. Now I’ve moved to a new town, and I don’t know anyone here, and I miss her terribly. I also miss out daughter too. What bothers me is she met a guy quickly, and is now having sex with him and letting him be around our daughter alot…the thoughts of someone else loving and playing with MY daughter kills me…because I don’t get to see her much(even though I call her at least twice a day) My ex says she still loves me, and will give up this dude for me again, but this guy is a better man than me. He’s a firefighter, I sit in front of a computer all day, he has money, I don’t have much now, he’s got a house, (i do too but the bank will own it soon), and he has 3 cars…I’ve got 2 one of which is hers. I feel like I can’t compete with this guy and my self esteem is very low now, so what do I want to do? take her back and hope her promise to better towards me is true…
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been ongoing for a while now, it all started when I got stationed overseas in belgium, which you would think should be an awesome opportunity and how could anyone be depressed here (at least that’s what everyone I talk to seems to think) but it’s the complete opposite of that, my life has become complete shit since I got here, I have no really close friends (or much of any friends really) my wife is 8000 miles away, we’ve been separated for a year and a half now, and she doesn’t seem to understand what I am going through at all (she is in the "but you’re in europe how could it possibly suck" camp) I absolutely hate my job here, I don’t get along with my co-workers at all (I used too but the ones I got along with have all left now) and I really don’t have anyone I can turn too or trust. I’ve been seeing a therapist but other than having someone to talk too it hasn’t really helped much at all. It’s ruining my marriage and my career being here and I have no way out, I’m stuck here until may 2010. I don’t have anything to look forward to anymore and dread waking up every day, even on days I don’t have to go to work. I don’t know if this post even makes sense I just needed to get this off my chest, I don’t know what to do anymore and don’t have anyone to turn too since no one seems to understand what I am going through here
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Have any of you outgrown close friends?

I stopped talking to a really close friend of mine a couple of months ago- for no particular reason. I just stopped initiating conversation and I didn’t get any phone calls or messages trying to reach out to me and we just stopped speaking altogether. Now I feel like distancing myself from another friend as well. This is a bit weird for me because I’m usually a people person but lately, people are just getting on my nerves I don’t even know if I’m outgrowing friends or just people altogether..
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I moved to California from Georgia about a year ago, and was doing just fine until I had to quit my job and start looking for a new one. The economy out here is absolute shit. I’ve applied at at least 30 places, all of which I follow up on, I’ve gotten a lot of interviews at a lot of staffing companies, and I’m behind on rent. I told myself if I don’t find SOMETHING in the next month, I’ll just pack up and move back to Georgia. I know if I do, though, I’ll feel like I totally failed.

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I have Borderline Personality Disorder. I’m sick and fucking tired of it ruining my relationships cause I can’t "get a grip" like normal people. Every girl I’ve been with has stuck it out for as long as I want them to but I always end it cause I feel bad for what I put them through.

I went to a counselor today cause I just want to get my shit straight and it was way over her head. She was trying to tell me I’m bipolar. I’m not fucking bipolar. I never have a manic episode. I believe I have the symptoms for hypomanic episodes but that’s part of my BPD.
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