Making a plan towards goals, overcoming doubt

Among my various other frustrations in life the past few years, I’ve been trying really hard to make some smarter decisions to get me where I want to get. I’ll try to shorten this one because I tend to write really long winded stories usually lol.

Here’s where I stand:
-A few years out of college, had trouble finding relevant IT jobs.
-Worked as "the IT guy" for a few years, but got laid off.
-Was working in a helpdesk type position, but it wearing me out way faster than it was helping me grow (also due to departmental changes).
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R2R crew: The hardest part about not drinking…

…is the pressure from others. I don’t really need advice here, but I figured it’d help some others too.

I’ve got an opportunity for an IT job, but like anything hands-on, I’d have to be available 24/7 ready to roll. I figured this is a good chance to take the next step in cutting back drinking, and go from my weekend 6-pack, down to nearly nothing. Besides, when I don’t drink for a few weeks at a time, I lose weight, I’m in a way better mood, less anxiety, have a ton more energy, and I could use that right now.
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Official R2R Chat thread: road to recovery crew how’s it going?!?

Grateful!

What’s going on?

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Gout made me quit drinking.

Anyone else quit because of physical pain? Now I’m seriously into nutrition. I’ll know in a year if this works. It was extreme pain kicking in every winter until I couldn’t take it anymore.

I guess, eventually. You’ll know pretty soon if you’re addicted to alcohol!

I’ll never know because I quit. I quit everything that causes gout. If I don’t get gout next winter then it was all worth it.
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Dealing with murder.(anonymous post)

Friday night my hubby went to visit a friend of ours BF while he was at work closing up the bar.

Someone burst in the back door and shot him three times, my hubby was five feet away from him and the guy who got shot died in my cousins arms.

The gf of the guy who died is a really good friend of ours so we have been crying, laughng, confused, hurt ect together for the last three days. The guy who died was always smiling, laughing, happy and hard working. He also had a 3 year old daughter.
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Wow I feel unloved for the holidays!

Hey there, new poster here so I wanted to try some things out and see what advice I would get.

I decided, last week, that I was going to invite people over for the holidays to do a Christmas Tree Decorating thing at my house. The atendees were my best friend and his fiancee, my other friend and his gf and the girl I am currently seeing.

So early in the week, everyone was up for it, but as the week went along, people started to build up their excuses.

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There must be a way to make money from my Dorm

There are plenty of ways to make money in college. But I want to do it legally. There must be a way that way I can tell my friends and we can all buy the things our parents couldn’t afford to get us.

A job? I know most campus jobs dont pay much more than minimum wage, but usually you hardly have to do anything, and can use that time to do HW and stuff like that.

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Who has the responsibility to draw the line in a relationship?

in a friendship between a guy and girl, but the girl has a boyfriend, who has the responsibility to draw the line?

We’ve been increasingly physical and I hardly think her bf would be ok with it. She’s been reacting more sexually to things. We’ve never kissed, but I can tell she wants it bad (so do I). The only thing keeping it from happening is my goddamn conscience.

Is drawing the line her job because she is in the relationship or do I have a part in it as well?

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Anyone know anything about Disinhibitors?

I’m curious if anyone knows anything about Disinibitors versus Reuptake Inhibitors? It seems like the overall effect would be the same. Why are Reuptake Inhibitors common in the US and there is almost no use of Disinihibitors.

What i suspect is that researchers would strive in a medicine to stop a certain reaction rather then to release something that has already stopped. Either that or the class of disinhibitors is so small that it would be more feesible to go for inhibiting medicine. To be honest i only heard about inhibitors, this is the first time i’ve heard from disinhibitors. It certainly is a good question.

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my sister is crazy

i seriously think my sister needs to be on medication.

my sister is emotionally unstable..she can be the most loving and giving person and then if one thing goes wrong she can be extremely destructive evil and not rational at all..she creates drama everywhere she goes and pushes away people she loves..only to be back to normal and the most loving and caring person and happy person ever..her mood swings are frequent and she has been this way her entire life..we always say she needs help or medicine and nothing has happened..what can we do?
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