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I’m in a situation where I’m trying to get to know my Pakistani Muslim boyfriend’s parents. I’m white Canadian. The parents are nice, but are struggling with the notion that their son will be marrying a white girl and breaking away from tradition. While they haven’t forbidden him from being with me (he and I are 28, after all), they are taking a while to get used to the idea of us marrying one another. My boyfriend’s father has been in tears recently, trying to come to grips with the reality of the situation. Fortunately, he says he will support us in our decision. But will things ever calm down? Have you been in a similar situation, or know someone who has?
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A couple of months ago I got out of a 3 year relationship (abusive) and am looking to meet new people. So i joined match.ca I paid the membership fee and i also created a profile on plentyoffish.com last week.

My dilemma right now is i’ve lined up 4 dates in 5 days … should i be honest about the dates I’m going on with the other women? I want to be upfront and honest with them but i also don’t want to get slapped in the face. I honestly didn’t think i’d get this many dates in 1 week so i’m feeling overwhelmed.
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I seem to have fallen in love with a female co worker. We spend a lot of time together and share a lot of personal information with each other and tend to seek each other out. The problem is she is engaged ( for over 5 years now)to someone and has a child with them. That being said, she is quite often saying how she wants to leave him and doesn’t care for him. My problem is should I pursue her knowing she is unhappy in her current relationship? Or should I distance myself so I’m not adding fuel to her relationship problems.
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I got this cousin. The woman is so fucking smart. She joined the Navy and went into the Naval academy. She graduated in the top 10% of her class. She has a picture of the VP (Joe Biden) handing her her diploma at graduation.

Who do you know that has a picture like that?

She left graduation for Pepsicola Fl to fly jets.

They say Jealousy is a sin. Fuck that. I think she is awesome. She is my uncles daughter. I look at her and I imagine what my life COULD have been like if I had made some different decisions. Yeah I am jealous, but in a good way. I like seeing good things happen to her.
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I know everyone is just going to claim that I’m just looking for a simple cop out that I have ADD/ADHD but I’m 24 now and have a BA and I’ve been struggling with this my whole life.

Basically I miss probably 50% of conversations I’m in everyday (seriously, everyday) because the words just seem to zoom right past me. Like I’ll have to constantly ask what they just said and/or pretend like I heard what they said the 1st part and either nod my head/laugh/etc. and then realize what the conversation is about a minute later as I ask more questions.
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Havent been back on here for a while, but would like some advice/shared experiences on dealing with a family member with eating disorders.

Here is what I’ve posted on another forum im on

Eating disorders / mental health

Looking for a bit of advice from anyone who has dealt with friends/family dealing with eating disorders.

Partners’ sister has been suffering from Annorexia/depression/anxiety for, well 9 years, and has spent the last 3 years in an institute in Brisbane trying to get better, and in the 3 years, pretty much they have acheived nothing, from what we hear some of the medical professionals have been far from professional lately, so we have discharged her from there on the proviso she comes to canberra and lives with us, and have her family around to support her, and change to a good dietician/GP/Psychiatrist etc down here.
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Ok heres the deal,

I’m 23 I just got my two year degree (it was a challenge for me I have a learning disability) I’m not retarted or anything but have some focusing/process issues. Anyway I just got the degree and need to make a decesssion that I can’t seem to make. I’m from jersey and moved to fl with my family. I HATE FL. I do like how people drive big trucks and I like the southern type of girl who likes animals etc. Anyway while living in Florida I had a huge drug problem from the time I was 21. I just stopped a month and a half ago.
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I’m struggling here. Last Friday, September 9th, a local officer died of a blood clot suddenly at the age of 33. His service was two days ago and this really hit me hard. His family was very close with my family, I’m 28 and we only met a few times and just knew of each other. His service was attended my many, local law enforcement, firefighters and EMTs were all there.

The funeral service was very touching and the burial was even more touching. The 21 gun salute, the missing man formation of the helicopter fly over and then the last call from dispatch was heart wrenching.
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Anyone on? I need to talk to anyone
I am my own worst enemy, and most likely just fucked myself over badly. Ive been so sad for so long. I dont even know what to do. Its killing what small bit of pride i have left to even ask.. but im soo lost
I dont even know where to start.. forgive my typos i can hardley see the screen thru the tears.. but Ill try
So feb ’10 my work shut down and I lost my job, and just the prior August my wife of 8 years decided she wanted to find happiness in the form of other men. I have two kids and fought hard along to keep them. The hole in me has never healed. I found out she ran up tons of debt to purposely put us into bankruptcy, she ran up cc debt to the tune 28k. I had to beg for money to able to afford an attorney. My house that we/I worked hard for was about to be taken back by the bank. near summer my step mom died, and left me some money that used to bring the house current, and the bank reduced the monthly loan payment from 2300 to 1065, so house saved for awhile. SInce then I had met this great girl and we began dating. But I cant get past my hang ups with my x, I loved her so much but it wasnt returned. For the last year and half Ive been in a constant state of pot fueld haze to numb my pain. so she moved in with me and helped pay the mortgage, we had a roomy to help out. He turned out to be a junkie and I booted him out, I couldnt pay my end with all massive amounts of bills ($800 in bills, + another 500 in personal loans a month, unemployment gets me like 1600 a month)i was paying due from the divorce. When the roomy got kicked my girl picked up the slack. from 600 a month to 800, mortgage is 1065. WEll finally fate would have that i wasnt the main person on 99% of the cc debt , so my ex decided to clam bankruptcy so I had some xtra money again. That was about 4 months ago. And i totally fucked up being in my depressed sad world and let her continue to pay even though I could possibly. So tonight she did the math after looking at some bills and got super pissed thinking I was just taking advantage of her. Which she prob right. But i was in such a survival mode I didnt care or just plain ignored it. She has 3 girls that live with us aswell. Now I dont know what to do. I horrible at paying bills and taking care of finances. And I didnt purpos;y fuck her over, but her nad the kids take over the entire house, so i didnt feel that the amount was out of line, but she does. I finally landed a job today where I can start making up for it. But she doesn’t want to hear it. She feels super betrayed, and I dont blame her. Now it has just added to my depression and Im not sure what to do. Ive felt so adrift without purpose for so long. WTF do I do to fix this? I never have enough money from unemployment. She buys 99% of the groceries and has taken care of me and my kids very well. We split the bills 50/50. I have totally sabotaged myself.
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…….. and now they are starting to ask for interviews. Like ALL of them. I guess when I didn’t hear back right away from the first ten I just thought I would keep trying. Well turns out it takes some time to go through the applicants and now a bunch of these companies that I had forgotten I applied to are wanting to do phone/ in person interviews.

Well, the reason I started looking for a job was that my current job reduced my hours by half because of slow business. So I was looking for a job that was full time and paid more that what I am currently making. The problem is that the range in pay for the companies I applied to is HUGE. From 15/hr to 45k a year…… and I don’t remember which figure goes with what company since the ads have since been removed.
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